Vulnerability
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- Jul 1, 2008
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Now, this is a woman I have known for years, and she is just a FRIEND (not close friend, but quite well known to me). I know her lots for lots of years.
The think is that I thought that as far as I know her for years, I could tease her, NOT for seducing her, just to tease her.
I started sending emails to her (I know, silly move, but I was not planning to date her, have sex with her or whatever), saying thinks like:
"Are you a player?"
"I can understand everything about people."
"I have really strong intuition."
"I HATE women in my city."
"I like Chinese philosophy."
"You silly."
"We had sex!"
"We are in relationship right now."
"You player!"
"Guys should have a good send to humour."
"I have taught my FRIENDS how to meet women." (this one is a LIE-a joke)
"I have ****ed you." (LOL!)
(I know, these sounds stupid, but I sent to her for JOKE)
Finally:
"I lied to you about everything i wrote to you."
"You are so stupid!"
"You have money. Money does not mean intelligence."
"There is some porno stuff on the Internet for you to read."
"I play really good music."
"Let all people fall in love!"
The fact is that girl finally took everything SERIOUS and stopped talking to me. I do not think that she is such a ***** or something like that. She is a quiet girl, and she has never caused me big problems.
She is not a girl who causes problems to men, I know that.
I live in a small town of 50,000 people.
Now, she took everything finally SERIOUSLY and she STOPPED talking to me. I mean, she really does not want to talk to me anymore.
Then I sent ANONYMOUSLY some of emails to her, saying that she is "little stupid", that I know her for years and she is SILLY because she stopped talking to me.
I did not anonymously write my name.
Now, I realized that LOTS OF PEOPLE in my town learned about my emails too fast. I mean LOTS and lots of people.
People started to call me "player", LAUGHING about me in some cafes and so on.
Even in MY JOB some people heard of these emails!!!!!!!
SOLUTION: I contacted a PSYCH over the Internet to discuss the REASON about this HUGE gossip.
Psych: Your emails you sent to her, were FORWARDED to lots of people of your town (some of them know you), because there was a LEAKAGE or something in her mailing list in Yahoo Mail.
Me: Did SHE (my friend) forward these emails to people?
Psych: NO, there was a PROBLEM in her email account. A short dark brown haired woman who received all those FORWARDED emails, and used to date you, and spread HUGE gossip in the town with your emails MISINTERPRETED. LOTS OF PEOPLE read your emails.
Me: How can it be possible that was a LEAKAGE in my ex friend's mailing list?
Psych: No, there was a leakage.
I do not want all this "player" gossip to spread in my town. Who knows how many PEOPLE read these emails!!
I told her that SHE is a player.
Another problem that was created: SOMEBODY gossipped all this stuff in a cafe and LOTS OF PEOPLE there (even waiters and waitresses) got UPSET. I THINK SO it is because of this.
People now think that:
I am a player, I have taught men how to meet women, that I piss off women sometimes. Everything MISINTERPRETED GOSSIP. Not the truth-not that I was doing humour to her.
Question, how do I handle this stuff right now? Is there any INTELLIGENT move so as to recover? Should I ignore the problem and stop sending her emails?
The fact is that I used to send her emails as such for MONTHS...until she finally got upset. For months...perhaps people were reading my emails and did MISINTERPRETED gossip outside.
The think is that I thought that as far as I know her for years, I could tease her, NOT for seducing her, just to tease her.
I started sending emails to her (I know, silly move, but I was not planning to date her, have sex with her or whatever), saying thinks like:
"Are you a player?"
"I can understand everything about people."
"I have really strong intuition."
"I HATE women in my city."
"I like Chinese philosophy."
"You silly."
"We had sex!"
"We are in relationship right now."
"You player!"
"Guys should have a good send to humour."
"I have taught my FRIENDS how to meet women." (this one is a LIE-a joke)
"I have ****ed you." (LOL!)
(I know, these sounds stupid, but I sent to her for JOKE)
Finally:
"I lied to you about everything i wrote to you."
"You are so stupid!"
"You have money. Money does not mean intelligence."
"There is some porno stuff on the Internet for you to read."
"I play really good music."
"Let all people fall in love!"
The fact is that girl finally took everything SERIOUS and stopped talking to me. I do not think that she is such a ***** or something like that. She is a quiet girl, and she has never caused me big problems.
She is not a girl who causes problems to men, I know that.
I live in a small town of 50,000 people.
Now, she took everything finally SERIOUSLY and she STOPPED talking to me. I mean, she really does not want to talk to me anymore.
Then I sent ANONYMOUSLY some of emails to her, saying that she is "little stupid", that I know her for years and she is SILLY because she stopped talking to me.
I did not anonymously write my name.
Now, I realized that LOTS OF PEOPLE in my town learned about my emails too fast. I mean LOTS and lots of people.
People started to call me "player", LAUGHING about me in some cafes and so on.
Even in MY JOB some people heard of these emails!!!!!!!
SOLUTION: I contacted a PSYCH over the Internet to discuss the REASON about this HUGE gossip.
Psych: Your emails you sent to her, were FORWARDED to lots of people of your town (some of them know you), because there was a LEAKAGE or something in her mailing list in Yahoo Mail.
Me: Did SHE (my friend) forward these emails to people?
Psych: NO, there was a PROBLEM in her email account. A short dark brown haired woman who received all those FORWARDED emails, and used to date you, and spread HUGE gossip in the town with your emails MISINTERPRETED. LOTS OF PEOPLE read your emails.
Me: How can it be possible that was a LEAKAGE in my ex friend's mailing list?
Psych: No, there was a leakage.
I do not want all this "player" gossip to spread in my town. Who knows how many PEOPLE read these emails!!
I told her that SHE is a player.
Another problem that was created: SOMEBODY gossipped all this stuff in a cafe and LOTS OF PEOPLE there (even waiters and waitresses) got UPSET. I THINK SO it is because of this.
People now think that:
I am a player, I have taught men how to meet women, that I piss off women sometimes. Everything MISINTERPRETED GOSSIP. Not the truth-not that I was doing humour to her.
Question, how do I handle this stuff right now? Is there any INTELLIGENT move so as to recover? Should I ignore the problem and stop sending her emails?
The fact is that I used to send her emails as such for MONTHS...until she finally got upset. For months...perhaps people were reading my emails and did MISINTERPRETED gossip outside.
