BobbDobbs
Senior Don Juan
Okay, this happens to me occasionally and I haven't figure out how to break it. It is usually someone I've been introduced to previously, but don't really know them very well. It could actually be a man or woman, but the latest case which happened yesterday was a woman.
We'll be in a group setting and I see them coming into the room or area and they're headed my general direction. So I start looking at their face for signs of recognition and I am naturally getting my goofy "Hi how are ya" smile so as soon as they recognize me we'll exchange hellos. That would be it, and that's usually the end of the interaction.
But sometimes they never look at my eyes. They are looking everywhere but at my eyes. Since I barely know them I'm sure it is just not someone they are primed to acknowledge right away. But then that critical moment slips away and it will linger in purgatory for the rest of the evening. They've seen me but not acknowledged me. And I missed the moment I was waiting for to acknowledge them.
Now the dynamic is a deadlock. For the rest of the evening there is an ackwardness whenever you catch their glance -- since you've never acknowledged each other's existance.
It's disconcerting when it happens, since it is fairly rare -- but still it happens too often. I need to come up with a way to either prevent it from happening, or quickly break the deadlock.
Does this every happen to anyone else?
We'll be in a group setting and I see them coming into the room or area and they're headed my general direction. So I start looking at their face for signs of recognition and I am naturally getting my goofy "Hi how are ya" smile so as soon as they recognize me we'll exchange hellos. That would be it, and that's usually the end of the interaction.
But sometimes they never look at my eyes. They are looking everywhere but at my eyes. Since I barely know them I'm sure it is just not someone they are primed to acknowledge right away. But then that critical moment slips away and it will linger in purgatory for the rest of the evening. They've seen me but not acknowledged me. And I missed the moment I was waiting for to acknowledge them.
Now the dynamic is a deadlock. For the rest of the evening there is an ackwardness whenever you catch their glance -- since you've never acknowledged each other's existance.
It's disconcerting when it happens, since it is fairly rare -- but still it happens too often. I need to come up with a way to either prevent it from happening, or quickly break the deadlock.
Does this every happen to anyone else?