I got a wedding to go to in October any advice on dressing and possibly taking someone home, or is it not the best place for this? I have never been to a wedding before, besides when I was a young child. Anyone got some good wedding hook up success stories?
Wedding Advice
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Sure you should go, but that is ages from now. You should have other options and venues in the meantime. Practice dressing up and go out 2-3 times per week until then. Learn how to wear a sport coat, tie, bow tie, braces (suspenders that button in, in lieu of a belt), a vest and a suit. Not all at once. There is a fine line between dressing sharply and trying too hard. In general, only have one unusual item at a time, and downplay the others if necessary. Remember to match the leather of your watch band, shoes and belt, and the metal color (silver or gold) of the belt buckle, watch, cuff links, tie bar, or suspender clasps.
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A few months ago, I was discussing with a friend of mine how women used to attend college mostly to meet good men with whom to have relationships. Nowadays, women attend college more for their own well-being. However, there is a scenario in which women still hope to meet men: weddings. Aside from the fact that a wedding is a highly social event, it also makes women who are single--at least subconsciously, if not consciously--aware that their time to find a mate is running out. As a result, they may bring down the b!tch shield and behave more receptively toward men they find attractive. In other words, I think weddings are INCREDIBLE places to meet single women.
Now, due to their inherent social-circle nature, it is dangerous to make multiple approaches in the same field. Be very careful; being branded as a player in a wedding will plunge your chances with most women there. I would approach one of the best looking women in there, interact with her--dance if possible--have her give you social proof while you're having an awesome time and then jet to dance with other women. Not only would this behavior leave your HB8 or better wanting more, but it would also make other women approach you. It's a win-win
You are already preselected by the mere fact that you were invited to the wedding (got to know people and have some friends to get that done). That is, you have something in common with women there, which as psychological studies have demonstrated: having things in common and KNOWING people in common makes it more likely that a person will like you.
Don't come back without a field report!
Now, due to their inherent social-circle nature, it is dangerous to make multiple approaches in the same field. Be very careful; being branded as a player in a wedding will plunge your chances with most women there. I would approach one of the best looking women in there, interact with her--dance if possible--have her give you social proof while you're having an awesome time and then jet to dance with other women. Not only would this behavior leave your HB8 or better wanting more, but it would also make other women approach you. It's a win-win
You are already preselected by the mere fact that you were invited to the wedding (got to know people and have some friends to get that done). That is, you have something in common with women there, which as psychological studies have demonstrated: having things in common and KNOWING people in common makes it more likely that a person will like you. Don't come back without a field report!
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Fairly easy to get hold of chicks at weddings; everyone's drinking, chicks who don't usually go out a lot are out partying, different groups of people who've never met getting together and there's always a place to sneak off to and/or stay the night.
It's just like any other party, except you have to be a bit more discrete, as there are elder (and younger) family there ect. Also be wary not to step on the bride and groom's toes, so to speak and/or get too drunk (listen to the voice of experience). It's their day after all.
One of my female friends got a right earful from the groom after the wedding because he thought she boned one of the other guests. It was in fact another dude! That groom sounds like a bit of an uptight tw@t though to be fair.
No harm in having fun, everyone knows the score at weddings, but just remember the primary reason(s) for being there.
It's just like any other party, except you have to be a bit more discrete, as there are elder (and younger) family there ect. Also be wary not to step on the bride and groom's toes, so to speak and/or get too drunk (listen to the voice of experience). It's their day after all.
One of my female friends got a right earful from the groom after the wedding because he thought she boned one of the other guests. It was in fact another dude! That groom sounds like a bit of an uptight tw@t though to be fair.
No harm in having fun, everyone knows the score at weddings, but just remember the primary reason(s) for being there.
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I was just at a wedding and had a great time! Check out this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=219449
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=219449
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Don't put any pressure on yourself for hooking up. Go. Have fun. Talk to all kinds of different people of all ages. Dress your best. Make new friends.JNil said:
Some weddings are out of control. Others low key. Doesn't matter. Be fun. Make jokes. Don't get wasted. Drink but don't overdo it. DANCE. Dance with different chicks. Most come with a guest, husband, boyfriend. Scope out who is alone and attractive. You'll notice at tables. If you do ask them to dance, or chat, or to get a drink.
Help out if you are close with the bride and groom. Single chick's are watching. Don't rely on a hookup or a specific outcome.
***Help out the band or dj if needed (tell them you will right when they start doing it!) handing props out or getting guests to dance and have fun.*** you WILL be noticed if you do all those things. You never know who is inquiring about you. A chick. Older person with a single chick they know etc.
Just go and have fun. You never know.
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+1 Rep.ZenMaster said:
I agree with everything stated above. One thing I would recommend, though, is taking this approach to life in general. You never know who you're going to meet, how, or what they will do for you because you helped them when they were in need-- even if it's something simple like changing someone's flat tire.
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