"We met online"

[Kerpal]

How do you guys deal with the stigma of online dating when you meet someone from a dating site, and other people ask where you met?

One of my roommates met a girl on Myspace, and when I met her she didn't want to say where they had met. My other roommates made fun of him for resorting to the internet to pick up chicks.

 

[tony-montana]

i met my ex gf online and i told everyone. i don't care. nothing wrong with it. if people have a problem with it oh well. at least you got a hot girl, who's complaining

 

[brewbaron]

I've felt like a dork telling people I met a girl online. but who cares, its so common now, it seems like most people have met, or atleast know someone from online. if they don't want to cast a wider net by gaming girls online thats their problem.

 

[Overcomer9]

i feel its not a good idea if thats the main way you try to get women and ill tell you why. in highshool some frineds of mine preferred doing that then talking to girls in person. even if they got anywhere with the girl off the internet, they were stumped when they met them in person; they did not know how to act. you might as well just swallow your pride and practice in person and meet women that way. its better in the long run.

 

[Kerpal]

^ I know what you mean about that, but I don't seem to have a problem with that part. It's just meeting women in the first place that I need to work on.

 

[DonJuan11]

One of my roommates met a girl on Myspace, and when I met her she didn't want to say where they had met.

Hurts her ego.

 

[J Roc]

meeting people online is so common nowadays thats there no reason to be ashamed of it. i met my last girlfriend on facebook and had no problem telling people that.

 

[Kerpal]

Yeah but I feel like people kind of have an "excuse" to meet on myspace/facebook, because everyone is on there and it's socially acceptable... in fact, it's pretty much necessary here, every new person I meet asks for my myspace/facebook address.

But there seems to be a stigma against web sites that are specifically dating sites, like if you're on there you're "not good enough to find someone in the real world". Or maybe I'm just imagining this, but it sure seems that way to me.

 

[Kerpal]

Bump.

 

[#41]

meeting people online is so common nowadays thats there no reason to be ashamed of it. i met my last girlfriend on facebook and had no problem telling people that.

It's not common, but it's becoming more frequent among the 18-26 age group. Outside of that age group, telling someone you met online is about a shade better than telling them you met at a Star Trek convention.

If it honestly causes you discomfort to bring it up, have some funny line ready whenever you get asked to deflect the question and then start talking about your first date after that.

Nobody gives a crap how you met really -- it's idle small talk and an obvious question to ask a couple. Shuffle the conversation to the next topic and no one will be the wiser.