Inspector Clouseau
Senior Don Juan
This is for all you guys who visit this site, and related others, brushing off the ideas here as “manipulative”, “not being yourself”, “just for guys who want some quick panties.” It’s also strange that the timing of posting this coincides with a good David DeAngelo article.
Manipulation is a moot point. The quicker you realize this, all the more better. Manipulation is an unavoidable aspect of life and dating, and chances are you manipulate without ever realizing it. The world is one big manipulation, and conversely the difference between manipulating women and being yourself, is smaller than you may believe.
Look at your clothes. You are manipulating the world with how you want others to think and feel about you; your “presentation.” With how you walk and carry yourself, you are manipulating how people conceptualize what type of person you are.
When you meet someone, you say things you think the person will like, and avoid saying things you think will turn them off. You also focus your brain on conjuring up smart/coherent things to say, as well filter your thoughts so you don’t say something dumb. All manipulation.
When you commit acts of “chivalry”, like opening up the car door for her; when you pay for her dinner or movie tickets; you are manipulating her, you are trying to show you will treat her right. Just because something’s courteous and people like it doesn’t mean it’s not manipulative.
When you watch the nightly news, you are being manipulated. The news directors manipulate you into thinking what is important news, by including it in the broadcast, or what is not, by ignoring it. The anchors use their appearance, of being either handsome or beautiful, to manipulate your belief in what they say. The reporters manipulate your sense of urgency by how they report their story.
When television commercials come on, you are being manipulated. The advertisers custom fit their message to certain target audiences and use various techniques to manipulate you into, hopefully, buying their product. Commercials are not lumped at the beginning or end of shows for no reason; it’s to manipulate you.
Politicians manipulate. President Bush went around building alliances for attacking Afghanistan, and is currently going around trying to gain support of invading Iraq. While it’s not a country “being itself”, doing so is not evil.
Hell, I’m even manipulating you right now. Whenever you try to explain or convince anyone of something, you are manipulating them.
Manipulation has needlessly gained a negative connotation, while it is inherently neutral. We’d much rather prefer for things to happen naturally and accidentally rather than calculated, for risk of being scammed. Truth is, we are all players; we are all manipulating each other whether realized or not, and it’s only how good of skills you have to get what you want; for manipulation is name of the game and what a game indeed. Simple as that. From the worst chumps to the greatest seductionists, we are all players; it’s only a mastery of knowing what you are doing, when doing it, to get the results you desire.
The difference between “be yourself” and manipulation is moot; you can alleviate all your fears what you are doing is manipulative, because how is it any different from what you already do, outside of you now doing things on a conscious level. The one and only difference between the two is the manipulation should be within the confines of yourself; of course you never know what is within yourself until you try something new (“Don’t knock it until you try it”).
In light of all this, there does, however, come a certain point where you tread into deep and stormy waters. What I am specifically referring to is the hard core use of patterns or other seduction techniques with the sole of purpose of making the girl fall all over for you, only for a quick bang and ditch. That’s called destroying a woman. I am not at all in favor of destroying women. Again, good and bad all goes back to intent.
Clouseau
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"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat."
--Theodore Roosevelt
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
-- Mark Twain
"Man who stand on hill with mouth open will wait long time for roast duck to drop in."
-- Confucius
Manipulation is a moot point. The quicker you realize this, all the more better. Manipulation is an unavoidable aspect of life and dating, and chances are you manipulate without ever realizing it. The world is one big manipulation, and conversely the difference between manipulating women and being yourself, is smaller than you may believe.
Look at your clothes. You are manipulating the world with how you want others to think and feel about you; your “presentation.” With how you walk and carry yourself, you are manipulating how people conceptualize what type of person you are.
When you meet someone, you say things you think the person will like, and avoid saying things you think will turn them off. You also focus your brain on conjuring up smart/coherent things to say, as well filter your thoughts so you don’t say something dumb. All manipulation.
When you commit acts of “chivalry”, like opening up the car door for her; when you pay for her dinner or movie tickets; you are manipulating her, you are trying to show you will treat her right. Just because something’s courteous and people like it doesn’t mean it’s not manipulative.
When you watch the nightly news, you are being manipulated. The news directors manipulate you into thinking what is important news, by including it in the broadcast, or what is not, by ignoring it. The anchors use their appearance, of being either handsome or beautiful, to manipulate your belief in what they say. The reporters manipulate your sense of urgency by how they report their story.
When television commercials come on, you are being manipulated. The advertisers custom fit their message to certain target audiences and use various techniques to manipulate you into, hopefully, buying their product. Commercials are not lumped at the beginning or end of shows for no reason; it’s to manipulate you.
Politicians manipulate. President Bush went around building alliances for attacking Afghanistan, and is currently going around trying to gain support of invading Iraq. While it’s not a country “being itself”, doing so is not evil.
Hell, I’m even manipulating you right now. Whenever you try to explain or convince anyone of something, you are manipulating them.
Manipulation has needlessly gained a negative connotation, while it is inherently neutral. We’d much rather prefer for things to happen naturally and accidentally rather than calculated, for risk of being scammed. Truth is, we are all players; we are all manipulating each other whether realized or not, and it’s only how good of skills you have to get what you want; for manipulation is name of the game and what a game indeed. Simple as that. From the worst chumps to the greatest seductionists, we are all players; it’s only a mastery of knowing what you are doing, when doing it, to get the results you desire.
The difference between “be yourself” and manipulation is moot; you can alleviate all your fears what you are doing is manipulative, because how is it any different from what you already do, outside of you now doing things on a conscious level. The one and only difference between the two is the manipulation should be within the confines of yourself; of course you never know what is within yourself until you try something new (“Don’t knock it until you try it”).
In light of all this, there does, however, come a certain point where you tread into deep and stormy waters. What I am specifically referring to is the hard core use of patterns or other seduction techniques with the sole of purpose of making the girl fall all over for you, only for a quick bang and ditch. That’s called destroying a woman. I am not at all in favor of destroying women. Again, good and bad all goes back to intent.
Clouseau
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"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat."
--Theodore Roosevelt
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
-- Mark Twain
"Man who stand on hill with mouth open will wait long time for roast duck to drop in."
-- Confucius