i dont know how to start. i go to community college and this morning i sat at a computer in the library. the librarian came over to tell me to sign in. i go over to the sheet and this girl is signing in. i didnt say anything, she sat down at a computer in my peripheral(like behind the sign in booth). i go back to my computer and this girl gets up and sits at the computer directly across from me. thats when i just smiled to myself and said "why does this happen on the days im trying to relax?"
this other girl in my ethics class who ive been talking to for a while gave me her phone number unsolicited. idk, i wasnt really planning on trying anything with her, but i guess she got sick of waiting for me to ask for it. with her i just kind of hang around, talk when shes around, look at her a couple seconds too long sometimes, make stupid jokes, you know, just someone whos there. but yeah she wants to hang out somewhere other than on campus man.
i havent internalized yet the realization that these oppurtunities ought not to be wasted. we always say "youll miss it when its gone" or an elder saying "its not going to be there forever." well, theyre right. but why then, do i waste such oppurtunities? we all do it, the guys on their way up do it more often than some, but whats the reason? im not scared of rejection, sometimes i automatically expect it despite the fact i am evidently pretty attractive, despite the fact that i have been charming in the past therefore it can be done again, despite the fact that i can be fun and funny if you get to know me first. i have trouble letting people get to know me. im not good at knowing the right pattern of building a relationship. in other words i often dont know what to say in the right order to acheive closeness. like building a house, you need to lay foundation and work up from that. its almost like my relationship building process is mixed up or backwards so that my house is not built with confidence.
this other girl in my ethics class who ive been talking to for a while gave me her phone number unsolicited. idk, i wasnt really planning on trying anything with her, but i guess she got sick of waiting for me to ask for it. with her i just kind of hang around, talk when shes around, look at her a couple seconds too long sometimes, make stupid jokes, you know, just someone whos there. but yeah she wants to hang out somewhere other than on campus man.
i havent internalized yet the realization that these oppurtunities ought not to be wasted. we always say "youll miss it when its gone" or an elder saying "its not going to be there forever." well, theyre right. but why then, do i waste such oppurtunities? we all do it, the guys on their way up do it more often than some, but whats the reason? im not scared of rejection, sometimes i automatically expect it despite the fact i am evidently pretty attractive, despite the fact that i have been charming in the past therefore it can be done again, despite the fact that i can be fun and funny if you get to know me first. i have trouble letting people get to know me. im not good at knowing the right pattern of building a relationship. in other words i often dont know what to say in the right order to acheive closeness. like building a house, you need to lay foundation and work up from that. its almost like my relationship building process is mixed up or backwards so that my house is not built with confidence.