was i out of line for being assertive?

[solo1]

generally im a pretty laid back guy but the worst thing i hate are sneaky people, today was the first time in a long time i got pissed.

So anyway in today's business class my prof return proposals that each student did. along with the students names she declared if it was decent/good, and said mine was the best out of them.

So a few of my classmates wanted to look over it and i let. so i step out of the classroom for about 5 mins to do some stuff, as they pass it around looking at it. So i return and i dont see the proposal around, i dont give it much thought. so i go back to the comp.

The sneaky girl's friend asked if i had the files on disk with me today (i replied 'no') then from behind i hear her talking to the others about copies...so i knew some bad news was coming. so the sneaky girl returns with a guilty appearance on her face to class and i go over to her and she pulls out my proposal from her folder and said thanks (apparently she had already made copies of mine at the library).
the students that looked at the proposal knew what was up (i was unaware as i was out), and they were looking at me for a reaction.

so i take the proposal back and go back to the comp...all the while getting more pissed. Shortly i go over to her and ask to speak to her outside.
i asked to get the copies, she ran in and got it. i told her i dont appreciate people going behind my back and if she wanted to copy it, just ask me and i would let. if it helps her pass the class or if she can use it for reference or a template, i dont mind. then she makes up some BS excuse that she came out to look for me to ask and i wasnt around...(and that gives her the right to do it behind my back?), and she thought the copies could help her.
Anyway i take the copies and rip them up.

thinking back i may have been a little too rough, maybe just let her off with a warning and let her keep the copies?

i hate to say it but 2/3 of the ppl in my major are lazy fvckers, they either dont do the work or give in sh!t work. and about all the guys are passive nice guys...makes me sick.

This is the 2nd situation of similar sort happened. was making a big deal out of nothing? or was i right for defending my self respect?
i dont know anymore...the damn ppl on campus are brainwashing me.

 

[Shiftkey]

I probably would've done the same thing.

 

[solo1]

and to top it off i realized a crucial page of hte proposal was missing, so i know someone took it. nothing burns my anger more than thieves...

 

[DJDamage]

You weren't out of line but you needed to be assertive much earlier then this.

As soon as you got that paper, you needed to put that motherfvcker right into your school bag and ignore your classmates telling them if they want to see it, you will show them after class because you want to see it for yourself and fix a thing or two.

You could have also been in that class and not leave when you passed your paper around because valuable information for getting good grades in school is like money, you can't trust anyone. It is not your fault you got weasles in class so you learned your lesson and next time don't do it.

DJD

 

[Docs]

Depends how important that proposal is to me.

If it's gold to me, I wouldn't let anyone look at it, but I'll give you a sample of page 3 later on.

If it's worthless, I would throw those copies directly at her, watch them fly all over the place after hitting her and leaving. It's about impressions, and although you ripped up the copies as a similar messure, without leaving a scene, it really kind of says that you're weak to them, and they might do it again.

Next time, stomp your foot down, make sure they understand that what they did was unacceptable and ensure future interaction is (uh...word...) unforgiving in a way.

But for now, carry on with life.

 

[solo1]

You weren't out of line but you needed to be assertive much earlier then this.

you're right i should have, i learned my lesson.

If it's worthless, I would throw those copies directly at her, watch them fly all over the place after hitting her and leaving. It's about impressions, and although you ripped up the copies as a similar messure, without leaving a scene, it really kind of says that you're weak to them, and they might do it again.

what, you mean make a big scene for everyone to see even the prof?
most of the ppl in class knew i demanded the copies back and they saw her crawl back into class getting it.

you guys made me realize something. Anyway what the prof handed back to us was our rought drafts....the final one is due next week. By letting them look at it is like an easy A for them. I guess i didnt see the downside of it at the point, because previously the prof had allowed us to see a proposal by a previous student (not based on the same project as ours)....and i was still in that mindset.

And because of me showing a carefree attitude by leaving the room...i let them believe they could do wahtever they wanted with it...the last thing i could ever imagine was this happening. i realize now it was a huge mistake.
i hate that ****...you open yourself to a moment of weakness and all these scavengers/weasles start showing their true nature.

 

[brucevangeorge]

Good job.

Way to stick it to that beotch.

Don't let the douchebags overrrun you. Don't ever become lazy, disrespectful or lie to cover you ****. There is honor and self-worth in truth and being a good decent person.