Want sex? What not to do on a date.

[MsThang]

I know you guys are always asking yourselves what to do on dates in order to get a girl interested, and I thought I might help by shedding some light on some things you should avoid.

So I had a date with a guy who did everything perfectly. On our first date he was charming, witty and suave. I couldn't believe it, I had found a dream come true! I was sorry when the night ended and couldn't wait to see him again.

But, sometime between our first date and our second, Dr. Jekyll got destroyed and out of the flames came Mr. Hyde.

Poor Mr. Hyde. I spent our whole evening wondering how to gracefully leave and eventually considered various options ranging from escaping out the bathroom window to putting a ruffee in his coke and dashing away. And how he calls me 10 times a day and I won't pick up (it's been more than a week since we spoke).

Do you want to avoid being Mr. Hyde? Here are some hints:


-DO NOT complain about a meal that a girl has cooked/paid for, especially if she obviously went through a lot of trouble. You can bring it up later, once. Do not carry on about how your favorite restaurant is better.

-DO NOT invite yourself over. Mr. Hyde lived 4 hours away and trapped me into letting me stay at my house by not mentioning it until the last minute. This may sound clever, but it made his company a pain, not a pleasure

-If you do insist on inviting yourself over, be a good guest and do not trouble your hostess by making her stay up late, get up early, make you breakfast, demand massages, etc.

-If you do invite yourself over and insist on making an @ss out of yourself, do you complain when a girl does not want to make out with you. It will not help your case

-DO NOT pee/spit/cuss in public when you are on a date. ESPECIALLY when you are asked not to. For one thing, it's disgusting. For another, it is disrespectful to whomever is in your company.

-On that note, DO NOT pee with the door open. Mr. Hyde, even after I told him not to, and even made groaning noises just to push me (you want me to eat at that restaurant?)

-DO NOT make a girl drive you to your car when you could have taken a bus/subway after waking her up early and inconveniencing her immensely.


And most especially, after this guy had made a complete jerk out of himself, he called me literally 8-14 times a day without leaving any messages. Just plain creepy.

So guys? Please listen and act accordingly.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Uhh...right...pretty sure i have an IQ about 70, which means im not legally retarded...like your date...probably had an IQ below 70...legally retarded...see where im going with this...yeeeeeaaaa...toodles.

 

[Vincent]

Haha wow that guy sounds like a complete jackass

 

[GirlCrazy]

Good post - yeah, complete jackass for sure.

So he was calling you 10 times a day *before* you invited him over?

I'm surprised there was even a second date.

 

[diplomatic_lies]

-DO NOT pee/spit/cuss in public when you are on a date. ESPECIALLY when you are asked not to. For one thing, it's disgusting. For another, it is disrespectful to whomever is in your company.

What if you're really busting, and there's no toilets for 27 miles, and if you don't pee in the next 5 minutes you're going to wet yourself?

 

[THE_ADDMAN]

its all about mutual respect between you, and your lady. If you're on her turf, she does something nice, or shes paying, be respectful and appreciative.
If she does do something out of line, however, then politely excuse yourself and say goodnight

note: I often do ask for massages, but in a playful manner

(its funny, cuz I usually ask for em and rarely give em, and I'm actually a massage therapy student. that usually works out well though, cuz when I finally do crack and give them one, its totally worth it)

 

[MsThang]

No, he called 10 times a day because I wasn't picking up the phone (I was gracefully trying to ignore him). In other words, he couldn't take a hint, which was WAY worse

 

[Demon]

No, he called 10 times a day because I wasn't picking up the phone (I was gracefully trying to ignore him). In other words, he couldn't take a hint, which was WAY worse

In other words, you were not actually hinting at anything. The trouble with women (and I guess people in general) is that they do not seem to understand that traditional phones do not display video. There is no way for anyone to know that you are ignoring them when they call and do not receive an answer. There's no feedback whatsoever. Silence is only an answer when language, such as body language, is used to convey that silence as an answer.

Moreover, there are many reasons why someone would not answer their telephone. For example, there are reasons such as work, school, an emergency, low or dead phone battery, a medical appointment, loud music, phone disabled by service provider, traffic accident, an important conversation, a business meeting, and driving (some people like me avoid answering the phone while driving.) Someone may not even answer the phone simply because they're not in a talkative mood or perhaps they're sick and can't talk or they're high and can't talk straight... The list is endless. Without actually providing feedback, the caller is left to guess.

To avoid answering the phone because you want some guy to "get a hint" is plain stupidity. That's like expecting someone to understand how you're feeling without ever describing how you feel to them. It's an unreasonable expectation.

These little "games" that females usually play are actually failures to communicate. If you consistently ignore people with whom you do not want to interact, then you are effectively habitualizing poor communication. Like my mother advised me when I was five years old, if you want something, just say what you want. Be explicit. Ensure that you are heard.

 

[CLOONEY]

Actually, ignoring people usually sends them the message that you dont want to see them anymore, without having to upset them more by telling them directly.

Of course you cannot ignore your girlfriend and expect her to get the hint. But a simple date, of course you can. I have used this method numerous times throughout my life, and its definately the easiest way from my experience. For both parties. If they keep calling you, they have problems, and are probably infatuated!

Communication in a relationship is important, but no communication to someone you barely know and dont want to talk to is definatley different and should surely give them the hint!

 

[Demon]

Actually, ignoring people usually sends them the message that you dont want to see them anymore, without having to upset them more by telling them directly.

Only if they know you're ignoring them. That's how communication works.

Like I said which you clearly did not read, silence is only an answer when language, such as body language, is used to convey that silence as an answer. Silence has to be communicated too. That's why turning a cold shoulder or not speaking works in the physical form. People can see, hear, and otherwise sense your message. They receive and acknowledge that negative feedback. Silence cannot be communicated by not engaging in communication. Feedback is crucial for the message to be delivered.

Communication is necessary regardless of the depth of the relationship.

 

[BBX]

This post is a LET DOWN.

 

[Oxide]

Lmao, what did you do to the poor guy to fvck him up so much after the first date?


See, the funny thing, If it was Dr.J Jekyll doing those things, you would have found it cute and wouldn't care.

Here is what you SHOULD do. I know you won't, because you don't have the balls - pick up the phone. Call him. And read him this thread.