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Okay, normally i hate writing long long posts about my issues, but this one is a tough one for me to find a solution. I take the advice I give, but I’m stumped on this one. I am going to include as much details as possible. I could use the advice.
The full details
She has the classic symptoms of histrionic personality disorder
From:
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx17.htm
Symptoms of Histrionic Personality Disorder
(1) is uncomfortable in situations in which he or she is not the center of attention check
(2) interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior check
(3) displays rapidly shifting and shallow expression of emotions check
(4) consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self check
(5) has a style of speech that is excessively impressionistic and lacking in detail uncheck
(6) shows self-dramatization, theatricality, and exaggerated expression of emotion check
(7) is suggestible, i.e., easily influenced by others or circumstances check
(8) considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are check
First of all, lets call her Sasha. She’s 22, HB 8.9, ( now a HB 6 in attractiveness in my mind), she came from a foster home, and got out of an abusive relationship three months ago. Sasha and I are baggers ( courtesy clerks), for a supermarket, we are usually walking all over the store, and we are not fixed in one location. Are two biggest jobs are staying up front with the cashier and bag, and help out customers find what they need, collecting carts, and cleaning the basics in the store. I am the Head Courtesy Clerk, and I have the respect, and friendship from most of the people that work there( I socialize and try to talk to everybody), and most of my male coworkers and friends call me Latin Dragon as a high status player nick name, because I have the willpower and charisma of a dragon. There is a DJ at the store, his name is Wayne and he hates her, says she is an unstable Lady Player who plays guys into doing things for her. I tell them about some of my female adventures, they ask me for girl advice, and I approach the cuties shopping, and ask them for help and lightly tease them about buying junk food or whatever. I don’t really tell my coworkers about The Game and I keep most of my DJ side of life as a mystery. Some of the female managers lightly flirt with me, and we play the “ Is she pretty, or not?” game when I bag for them.
She started working in September; I have been there for 2 years. At the time , I was an recovering AFC, low level DJ, at the crossroads of the two, and I was in a relationship with my ex-ex-ex-ex girlfriend. Me and her broke up the first week of October because the 1yr 4 months relationship was an emotional rollercoaster. I gave her 100% no contact , I got a little depressed and became kinda pathetic, my self esteem super low. At the time I was nervous around her, and I didn’t really interact with her, she had a boyfriend of two years, and she would usually talk about the bad side of him to me, trying to get me to give her relationship advice. I told her to leave him, and she was blah blah blah, and she would give me full hugs and flirt heavily with me when hours went by, and I wouldn’t talk to her. She would try really hard to to get to know me, and when I would tell her something, she would talk it, make the topic about it for days, and blah about her body and how all the guys are checking her out and how she hates it, then talk about her dumb boyfriend, or work crap. Same old conversations all the time.
Halloween came and I had my first threesome, and my reality changed. I registered for Sosuave.net ,( read it for 1 yr but decided to register now), and decided to really change my life. I couldn’t believe the no contact has been a month with the ex. I was so happy that I started to forget about my ex, that I started read ng the DJ bible and I started to evolve. I became alive, I started approaching salegirls at the mall, then at parties, and my personality started to change. I started to exercise and weight lift, started to become less sexual invisible, and I became my role model, and was happy all the time. I started dating again, November now, and I the guys have said that I seem different. She kept flirting with me, and they said I should steal her from him, but something was weird about her, but I didn’t know what at the time. The more compliments and attention I gave her, she would ignore me. She would give me massive mixed signals. She wouldn’t give me her number, so I knew things weren’t going anywhere. My respect and status started to gradually raise, and December came, the guys have started calling me ladiesman because of the approaches and dates I started doing.
Christmas Eve came and I got her a Christmas card. She freaked and asked why I gave her a card signed by me and the guys at the store. Her boyfriend was mad at me, and she kept saying he beats her. I was about to go Captain Save a ho, but Wayne said to leave her alone, because shes playing me. My eyes got opened about her behavior, and I realized she was AW. I keep my guard near her, and she asked me if I liked her. I told her “a little, attraction aint a choice”. Massive mixed signals and flirtation. People at work have started noticing it, and the guys said I should get with her, and steal her. IJanuary comes and I become confident in myself, and I start being the cool guy at work. We started a Saturday football game, and I sucked, but I had willpower and they respected me about that. Febuary came and I started to become good at catching and throwing, and people who used to call me geek would now call me player. Sasha and him broke up around Valentines, after. Since she was AW and giving mixed signals, I didn’t go after her. She became a little cooler, but Same story unti April.
I did a really good painting of her in December and just finished it and I show te digital copy of it on my Zune, to push her away, she is so annoying. She freaked and kept questioning my intentions, and the flirting stopped. I stopped talking to the girl i was seeing, and Real Social Dynamics has started to make me super attractive personalitywise,( first post of page 3 in my FR). Everyting was normal, until this Saturday, she asked me “ Why don’t we go on dates?”. I told her maybe, she called me a virgin and said that just because I am a bigshot now doesn’t mean im too good for her. I called her out on using me for attention, and that im mad at her, but she doesn’t get it, and she thinks I like her, and im crushing on her, too closed up and mysterious . Then she says we are only friends, then hits me with “ When are going to go out?”. I ignore her, she ignores me, but when I say a word to her, the mixed signals and cool one day, crappy the next begin.
I don’t understand her, why is she doing this? I have never had a conversation with her on the phone, and the only thing we done outside work was a birthday party in March. she wants to hangout/date but i don't understand her, and shee questions my intentions and status alot lately verbally.
