Hello everyone! Long time browser, first time poster here.
Ok without further ado, my situation:
I’m 24. I’ve recently been on a couple of dates with a girl that I really like, and its gone well, we’ve clicked and all. However she has quite some baggage: she recently (around two months ago) broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. Whilst she really likes me (she hasn’t told me but it seems clear to me),
we’ve discussed things and she said because she was with her ex a long time she couldn’t imagine being with anyone at the moment. That’s cool- I am a big fan of having time to discover yourself (I guess it comes easy for me as I’m young and eternally single) and since she was involved in such a long relationship when really young she needs the time: in fact it makes me respect her even more and reassures me that liking her was a good thing, as she could have easily jumped into rebound mode (note that I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend and that they recently broke up; although I’ve known her for several months she’s never disclosed that info to me before until I asked. even though we’re really open, perhaps she was trying not to burn bridges with me).
Anyway time’s ok with me- I’m 24, very aware of myself and happy with being single; but strong instinct tells me shes worth waiting for: shes incredibly smart, sweet, modest, and compassionate. Now when I say waiting I probably don’t mean waiting and hoping only for her, but remain open to the idea that we may be close in future.
So after all that my questions would be that I know its different for each person, but what rough sense of time would you think she needs to be fully healed? so I guess as friends I should try to act as previous: fun and charming, but be sensitive that she might be tentative to do things together alone even as friends? And how will I know when she is ready… ? is there anything i can do to keep her interested while she is "mending"?
Thanks for listening =)
Ok without further ado, my situation:
I’m 24. I’ve recently been on a couple of dates with a girl that I really like, and its gone well, we’ve clicked and all. However she has quite some baggage: she recently (around two months ago) broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. Whilst she really likes me (she hasn’t told me but it seems clear to me),
we’ve discussed things and she said because she was with her ex a long time she couldn’t imagine being with anyone at the moment. That’s cool- I am a big fan of having time to discover yourself (I guess it comes easy for me as I’m young and eternally single) and since she was involved in such a long relationship when really young she needs the time: in fact it makes me respect her even more and reassures me that liking her was a good thing, as she could have easily jumped into rebound mode (note that I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend and that they recently broke up; although I’ve known her for several months she’s never disclosed that info to me before until I asked. even though we’re really open, perhaps she was trying not to burn bridges with me).
Anyway time’s ok with me- I’m 24, very aware of myself and happy with being single; but strong instinct tells me shes worth waiting for: shes incredibly smart, sweet, modest, and compassionate. Now when I say waiting I probably don’t mean waiting and hoping only for her, but remain open to the idea that we may be close in future.
So after all that my questions would be that I know its different for each person, but what rough sense of time would you think she needs to be fully healed? so I guess as friends I should try to act as previous: fun and charming, but be sensitive that she might be tentative to do things together alone even as friends? And how will I know when she is ready… ? is there anything i can do to keep her interested while she is "mending"?
Thanks for listening =)
