Waiting 3 days to call...exceptions?

[NMMWCR]

Gentlemen,

Just getting a reality check.

Saw a cute girl working at the zoo the other day and asked her to coffee. Glad I did because after getting out of the zoo uniform and into something more comfortable she went from HB7 to HB8.5 with potential for more if she puts on something not so baggy and wears a bra under it. Coffee turned to window shopping at BB&B, turned to cruising the aisles at Borders, turned to walking around town, turned to a spontaneous skeeball adventure at Chuck E. Cheese, turned to dinner at The Flying Pig. We ended with a kiss which she seemed to genuinely enjoy so I laid a second, longer, high octane kiss on her. There was a good response to that and she went to her car with "Call me." And "Call me" again before closing the door.

I've got a big flashing green light. She's done everything to signal interest except ring a bell for me.

I know to wait three days before calling but my instinct is the rule doesn't apply here. Thinking about calling her tonight and saying "I know I'm not supposed to call for three days but that rule is stupid and you know I'm not the kind of guy who follows rules that suck." Then running from there.

Thoughts?

 

[xblitz44x]

Whatever you do, don't mention a word about the rule. Nothing about it. By mentioning that, you make it seem as if you have some knowledge of it, and that she should be on her toes. If, later you want to tell her about this crazy stuff then go ahead, but not until she is completely comfortable with you.

As far as bending the "rule"...I'd say do it if you want. Every other guy in this world now knows about the 3 day rule so it doesn't have the power it once has. Now a'days you look even MORE like an AFC for having to rely on a silly high school rule as that. Just do what you want man, it seems like she's enjoying herself. Just don't go overboard to the point where you're being a pest.

-Blitz

 

[getafix]

DO NOT BREAK THE RULE.
I have never seen anyone get anything out of calling before three days which he would not have got going by the rule.

" All good things to those who wait"

 

[InLawsHateMe]

It's an easy rule to follow... smart women know it, they understand it, therefore, they wait for the call.... but do what you want, you will know better dude... go with your gut, but be warned, you may have to learn that rule the hard way. 3 days... gives her time to think about you. Just handle your business, and she's aware that your business is more important than talking on the phone.

 

[DJ Jr.]

From everything I've read so far, If your not doing what you want then your not being a DJ your just playing games...and women WILL detect that.

 

[NMMWCR]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
Whatever you do, don't mention a word about the rule. Nothing about it. By mentioning that, you make it seem as if you have some knowledge of it, and that she should be on her toes. If, later you want to tell her about this crazy stuff then go ahead, but not until she is completely comfortable with you.

-Blitz

But women know about the rule. There is a beer commercial right now that comes right out and says "always wait three days to call". A cousin called and asked me the other day if I thought the reason a guy hadn't called was if he was waiting 3 days. A girl I went to grad school with asked me to call her back on her cell one night to keep her land line open because she was expecting a call since it had been 3 days. It has become so widespread that it is cliche now.

I've had good success with the three day rule. I mapped it out on an excel spreadsheet to compare night after, second, third and fourth night call backs. (Yes, I'm an accountant) Three is gold. But my gut tells me to flush the rule this time so I'm gonna do it.

I think blitz called it. Being constrained by the rule instead of being in control of myself and the situation is more important. It will come through over the phone 3 days from now that I waited for the sake of waiting. It doesn't matter here anyway. As long as I don't pick my nose with my ring finger, she is going to fall like a ton of bricks.

I'm taking this bulls1t pressure back off myself before I have an AFC relapse and trusting my instincts. Less thinking, more doing...

 

[uniassign]

To apply the rule, you must UNDERSTAND the rationale behind it.

The 3 day rule originates from the fact that guys were desperate, and chicks are REPELLED by desperate guys. That's why the 3 days, it DEMONSTRATES to the chick that the guy is not desperate.

Now because the 3 day rule is common knowledge, there are guys trying to extend this to 4 days, 5 days even a week. The problem (and KEY) is not the amount of days, but your ATTITUDE.

You can wait a month to call, but if you still sound desperate and creepy, you won't succeed in getting the girl out again.

However, you can call the next day, the next morning or even the next HOUR if you stay consistent with the good impression she has on you. If you call with confidence, humour and charm she won't mind if you call before the "industrial standard" time frame.

 

[squirrels]

I'd give it a day at least. You spent all day with her...now give her SOME time to think about you, wonder about you, etc...whether you're going to call or you're seeing other women, what you're thinking.

The main thing is you don't want to ring her off the hook the next day or, even worse, that night. Wait a day or two (unless you REALLY have something you MUST say). Then call as if you had something to do the past day or two, but you never broke stride.

ANd yeah, "3 days" is common knowledge. 2 or 4 would be better. But you don't really need to play any games...she's interested. Just don't fawn over her and smother her with attention.

 

[Matt ala Casanova]

Originally posted by uniassign
To apply the rule, you must UNDERSTAND the rationale behind it.

The 3 day rule originates from the fact that guys were desperate, and chicks are REPELLED by desperate guys. That's why the 3 days, it DEMONSTRATES to the chick that the guy is not desperate.

Now because the 3 day rule is common knowledge, there are guys trying to extend this to 4 days, 5 days even a week. The problem (and KEY) is not the amount of days, but your ATTITUDE.

You can wait a month to call, but if you still sound desperate and creepy, you won't succeed in getting the girl out again.

However, you can call the next day, the next morning or even the next HOUR if you stay consistent with the good impression she has on you. If you call with confidence, humour and charm she won't mind if you call before the "industrial standard" time frame.

Bingo! Keep consistant and confident!

M.A.C.

 

[ryoshi]

I've heard of different lengths of days to call. I want to find out which is better.

After getting a phone number from a girl, I've heard from 3 days to a week.

After a date with the girl, I've heard 3 days to a week.


In both cases, which is better? I have a couple phone numbers that I haven't called in over a week (mostyl out of being busy and lazy).

 

[NMMWCR]

Change of plans.

I got so wrapped up in what I was doing last night I forgot I promised this tight little sorority girl a phone call. The zookeeper gets a call on the second night.

I'm off to wal-mart.

Sarge on, brothers.