Wait or Move on?

[Marco]

I'm usual 26 year old guy who has fun and dates with girls but nothing serious. In college there is a hot girl(26) all the guys want. I only really see and speak with her on 'big' nights out with lots of our class mates. She always flirts with me, asks if I'm seeing anyone, pays lots of compliments, uses lots of hand and arm touching. I have noticed she does not do this with anyone else. She has told me her relationship is on the rocks. Why have I not moved in for the kill? Instinct..I think she is toying with me. However, I took a risk and asked her out. She replied Yes without any hesitation. I stupidly said I would call later in the week to set a time and place and she then set the time to call! When I called the line was busy and eventually rang out with no reply. I immediately went out with the guys and continued as normal. 2 weeks later another class night I deliberately avoided her. She then came up to me to complain. I said 'if you play games then I will too'. Same scenario was repeated 1 hour later. We moved onto a club and she ignored me and danced/flirted with ALL my friends. Back in college she sought me out to apologise and said she has a messy break-up 'unresolved issues' as she shares the mortgage on her apartment with her ex who still lives there!!!! I said I get the picture but she insisted several times that I should call her. I haven't but I would love too as I want her badly... What should I do guys?

 

[MiggityMike]

potential..

Sounds like she's a fan of the game playing,

but I don't think that you're totally out of the picture with this girl. Instead, I think that you should do with her what she has done with you.

PUT HER ON THE BACKBURNER.

Go and get more phone #s, go on dates, have sex, and you'll find that you think about her less and less (duh!).

Then, sometime in the future, the timing might be right for the two of you, trust your intuition on this one.

I think that the worst thing that you can do at this point is wait around for a girl that MIGHT be interested. I dont think its a question of whether she is interested, rather that you are not #1 on her priority list. So why should she be #1 on yours?

In closing, keep her on your roster, just take her out of the starting position and you'll be fine, my friend.

take care,

mike

 

[Marco]

Thanx Mike!
I have another class night on thursday and she had said I should call her. I haven't because I think this was perhaps a sweetener for not going on a date with me. Should I show her less attention and other women more? Or should I ask straight out for a date face to face with her to find out her true interest? She certainly reacted when I avoided her and paid me in kind in the nightclub by dancing and flirting with ALL my friends in front of my nose!! Playing it cool and aloof with her is hard work. Will this tactic show her hand?

 

[hitop]

Come on man, are you serious? Ask yourself this question which is at the very core of what this site is about and what Doc Love tries to help people with. Do you really want a girl that you have to jump through hoops for? It's the same pattern bro, you jump thru hoops, she throws you a few crumbs, you jump thru some more hoops, she throws you a few more crumbs again.

Then, for some reason she might let you get real close and then she casts you waaaaay far out just to have the fun of reeling you in again because she know's she can toy with you. Yeah, you can put a girl like this on the backburner, but is she really worth your valuable time?