Violent Interest Fluctuation

drZaius09

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If her interest level is a stock, then word of an impending indictment must have just hit wall street, because my shares have plummeted!

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We met on Friday. We had sex on Friday. A good time was had by all (trust me). She leaves behind her belt and her earrings at my house (read that as, "I want an excuse to see you again"). We talk on Saturday and she invites me to go out with her and her friends, to which I politely decline. We talk very late on Sunday and she invites me to some party the following week, and I say, "That sounds cool. But I'd also like to hang out with you, ya know, just me and you." To which she responds, "DEFINATELY."

Now this is where the bear market takes over...

I call her on Monday and ask her to hang out, and she declines with no counter-offer. So I'm thinking, at this point she's shown enough interest (including sleeping with me) that I can over-look this.I let her sit for a few days then call back, "Wanna get dinner with me?" She declines again with NO COUNTER-OFFER.

Now I don't know what to think. It seems like my stock is in the toilet only 7 days removed from a 52-week record high! So I'd like some input... should I let her second no counter-offer slide? Just for some further info, she's always answered all my calls, and she called ME on Sunday before all this bullsh1t. She's 21 and I'm 26 (and I haven't known this girl for 52 weeks, that was just a figure of speech). My plan of attack at this point is to let her sit again for at least a week, then call her before my vacation. I'll tell her that I'm leaving soon for two weeks (which is true) and give her a chance to hang. If she declines again with no counter, I forget her forever... Sound good?
 

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Yeah back off a bit.

Remove some of your money from this stock. Don't pull it all away.

REPEAT THE MANTRA

I WILL ONLY **** FLAKEY WOMEN NOT DATE THEM OR FALL FOR THEM

**** THOSE HOES
 

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Accept this as the answer, even if it isn't true it might as well be.

-She found some other guy on Saturday or Sunday and ****ed her brains out AGAIN. And you are now passe.

Dude, it's cool. She gave you a piece now she is giving other DJs and PUAs a piece. "Community *****" ring a bell?

Find some other girls, wait a week or two for her to call you back( ifyou ****ed her good she WILL call back in a few weeks ).

Boom. There ya go.
 

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Originally posted by DJohnson
Accept this as the answer, even if it isn't true it might as well be.

-She found some other guy on Saturday or Sunday and ****ed her brains out AGAIN. And you are now passe.

Dude, it's cool. She gave you a piece now she is giving other DJs and PUAs a piece. "Community *****" ring a bell?

Find some other girls, wait a week or two for her to call you back( ifyou ****ed her good she WILL call back in a few weeks ).

Boom. There ya go.
Hey, I got no problem with this at all. And I did nail her good, so no problems there. Although I do disagree that she will call no matter how good she got it. Thats just a concept that I can't get with... is there any specific objection to me calling next week, or should I just let it go?? (i dont care either way, just looking for input)
 

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Dont say this ****

Guys we have way too many haters on this board

I hate when guys say some ***** is ****ing another guy **** IT

I ****ING HATE NOW
 

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Wow hahaha I had a beer or two in me when I posted and forgot about the filters. At any rate, my advice is just to go after new girls.

Its exponential the results. You get one girl, move on, and go get another, and then 4 more want you( provided all are part of a similar social scene, and even if not, the confidence in your face will pay dividends )...
 

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Originally posted by DJohnson
Its exponential the results. You get one girl, move on, and go get another, and then 4 more want you( provided all are part of a similar social scene, and even if not, the confidence in your face will pay dividends )...
Don't I know it...
 

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I hope you are not using your heart on this one. She's still young. She may or may not banging some dude. Well...she banged you that quick, you do the math.


If you're still interested in her sexually (I hope it's just that), wait a week as planned then call her.
 

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Don't get too caught up in her...

"So I'm thinking, at this point she's shown enough interest (including sleeping with me) that I can over-look this"

Unfortunately my man, in the era of "Sex and the City" chicks it is a major error to miscontrue sex for anything related to high interest level. These women can love 'em and leave 'em without batting an eyelash. The old theory that women bond with you emotionally after sex has been turned on its head.
 

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I am frightened at the possibility that anyone would misconstrue my interest here as anything other than sexual... just to clear that up...
 

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A VERY similar situation happened with me last week. I'm curious to know what happens with you. Keep us updated.
 

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We talk very late on Sunday and she invites me to some party the following week, and I say, "That sounds cool. But I'd also like to hang out with you, ya know, just me and you." To which she responds, "DEFINATELY."
I may be wrong here but the way you described it this may have turned things for you. That response may have labeled you as an AFC to her even if you were only trying to hit it again.
She turned you down both times you asked to get together since then. I don't think I would waste my time calling her again. If she wants you to hit it again she will let you know.
 

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Originally posted by Dictatorsaurus
A VERY similar situation happened with me last week. I'm curious to know what happens with you. Keep us updated.
Just to update if anyone still cares... I never called. I either forgot or made a conscious decision not to, and after abusing my body so much over the past weekend I honestly dont remember which it was. But I did talk to her over IM before I left and asked her if she wanted to hang out when I got back, she said she would have to check her schedule and that I should call her. Obviously I had no intention of doing so and wrote her off right then and there...

until...

She IM's me just now thinking that I'm home (I'm not). She seemed a lot warmer and friendlier than the past few convos. It just felt like a totally different vibe. Plus she initiated it. I'm still not going to be making any calls, if she wants to get down to business she knows how to reach me.
 

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Update #2, since everyone is sooo interested in following this one:

I haven't initiated any contact since the last time we spoke. A little background, I spend most of my day on the computer (work) so my IM is usually on all the time, but she's hardly ever on there. This morning she messages me again, short convo, asks me what I'm doing tonight, then says "call me later if you want." I think she might be trying to do some damage control now... maybe someone else burned her or maybe she's been legitimately busy, I honestly don't care. I will probably call her when I get out of work unless something else comes up. Bottom line: I can hit this girl again.
 

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And that bottom line is a good feeling isn't it!

Hell Yeah.

These power struggles are funny. As long as you hold your ground you can get em back.

You should make some move in a while. Find a time when you are pretty sure you can get ahold of her.

You should be able at the minimum to get another lay out of this.
 

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Originally posted by Ricky
These power struggles are funny. As long as you hold your ground you can get em back.
Thing is, it's a lot easier to hold your ground when there's a lot of ground to hold! I've already got another girl that I'm banging regularly, and two more that are right on the doorstep. So at best, this girl here can only account for 25% of my rotation, if she gets that far. hahaha, when it rains it pours

update: I called about 2 hours ago... no answer, no call back. I don't know what this girl's story is, and honestly, I'm tired of trying to find out.
 

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Originally posted by drZaius09
We had sex on Friday. A good time was had by all (trust me). She leaves behind her belt and her earrings at my house (read that as, "I want an excuse to see you again"). We talk on Saturday and she invites me to go out with her and her friends, to which I politely decline. We talk very late on Sunday and she invites me to some party the following week, and I say, "That sounds cool. But I'd also like to hang out with you, ya know, just me and you." To which she responds, "DEFINATELY."

Now this is where the bear market takes over...

I call her on Monday and ask her to hang out, and she declines with no counter-offer. So I'm thinking, at this point she's shown enough interest (including sleeping with me) that I can over-look this.I let her sit for a few days then call back, "Wanna get dinner with me?" She declines again with NO COUNTER-OFFER.
It is good you provided the deiled descriptions.
a) you should have given her her belt (show some "I dont want you really that much") but didn't giv eher earrings... at elast dont mention them (ie. let her know you still want her.. a bit)
b) You have declined her invitations TWO times...plus she is 21 and her world is the worl of her friends... you showed her you dont care about her world...You should have counteroffer immediately.
c) Much better to say "Lets get together for a dinner at YYY" instead of showing some hesitancy "Wanna get dinner?"
d) as it was already said at 21 she fvcked with you on Friday and on Saturday she may do BJ with tow other "old friends".
21 for women is time for parties... fvcking everything that is moving. What do you think she did on weekend? Sit at home and watched TV? no way... she at least had a couple of make out session with other dudes. Or maybe some passionate fvcking.
Surely on monday she is not really eager to get back to you.

Early 20s chicks are mostly like that.... I dont know how you can handle them. I cannot.
 

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Re: Re: Violent Interest Fluctuation

Originally posted by al77
It is good you provided the deiled descriptions.
a) you should have given her her belt (show some "I dont want you really that much") but didn't giv eher earrings... at elast dont mention them (ie. let her know you still want her.. a bit)
What? I dont even understand what you're saying here.

b) You have declined her invitations TWO times...plus she is 21 and her world is the worl of her friends... you showed her you dont care about her world...You should have counteroffer immediately.
I dont have to counter-offer sh1t, I'm the man. I make the offers, and she accepts, or counters, or goes to hell. If she makes an offer that I like, then I might go along if I feel like it.

c) Much better to say "Lets get together for a dinner at YYY" instead of showing some hesitancy "Wanna get dinner?"
Are you serious? Or do you just have to nitpick at something? Don't waste my time with sh1t like this.

d) as it was already said at 21 she fvcked with you on Friday and on Saturday she may do BJ with tow other "old friends". 21 for women is time for parties... fvcking everything that is moving. What do you think she did on weekend? Sit at home and watched TV? no way... she at least had a couple of make out session with other dudes. Or maybe some passionate fvcking.
I don't care about any of this. My focus is her interest in ME, not her interest in everybody else. What she does what I'm not around is none of my concern.

Early 20s chicks are mostly like that.... I dont know how you can handle them. I cannot.
That pretty much says it all. I don't know how any of us can handle them... but I think it might have something to do with those sweet little a$$es ;)
 

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This will be the last update I post on this b1tch... I've pretty much deduced that this is a classic case of 21 year old attention wh0re syndrome...

So after not answering or returning my call yesterday, she messages me again today to say she got my call but didnt have her phone, blah blah blah bling bling blah blah. I'm figuring she could have easily let this die about 4 times already, but yet keeps sending me unsolicited messages as if she still has interest. After some small talk, I give it one more shot and ask her to go out this week. She starts rambling on about the multitude of reasons why this week is simply the most hectic and stressful week of her young life. She flat out refuses my invitation again with no counter-offer. I've given this girl every indication that I can take a hint, and she continues to string this sh1t along. My guess is she's just looking for an electronic ego boost every one in a while, achieved directly through my instant messaging client. I suppose the next step is to ignore her messages from now on...
 

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DR,

Had a similar sitch going and the bottom line is if she really had high interest level she would be calling you to hook up. Think about it.....when you get chicks into you they can't stay away and nothing can stop them. No kids, school, job whatever. If they wanted to be with you they would make excuses to be with you, not, not to be with you


It's just hard to next these girls when they keep contacting you i know. Especially when they're hotties. keep in mind tho....there is another 21 yr old HB right around the corner waiting for you.


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