Violent friends destroying my game.

[redbyte]

I'm not a macho guy. But I'm not limp either. I'm average. My group consists of about 6 people. 2 of which are extremely physical. Both look for any opportunities to hurt me.
Examples:

We meet at shopping mall, I arrive, one of them feels it in them to prove his manliness so without saying hi turns around and starts continously punching me [hard] in the arm. After the seventh punch I snap :cuss: and push him off. Great intro.

Watching movie at someones house, I'm on the floor I start spinning a pillow on my finger. One of my friends on the couch grabs a cushion and swings it straight into my face as hard as he can. Why? Who knows. To this I was blinded for about 2-minutes so I didn't do anything.

After movie I lie on the couch, they both jump on me one punching me continuously in the leg. I don't retaliate.

Weird thing is, they only do it with a chick present. If it's just us guys they treat me like a normal friend. So obviously trying to prove something. What's a DJ way to respond to this so I don't come across as weak.
The bad thing is when hurt I get angry and it's difficult not to lash out and give it to them back. Any advice?

 

[Desdinova]

What's a DJ way to respond to this so I don't come across as weak.

Get yourself some new friends who treat you with respect.

 

[redbyte]

Well there's people like this everywhere. Would be a helpful knowing what to do in this situation so I don't come across as a panzy.

 

[Bible_Belt]

After the seventh punch

Hit back after the first one. That's all they understand. Hit back quickly and brutally, then instantly be like "oh, dude, are you ok? I can't help it, it's just a reflex when I get hit. You gotta be more careful."

After you have inflicted pain on someone, they remember, even if it is only at a subconscious level. The evolutionary survival mechanism in their brain will steer them away from hurting you. And surprisingly, they usually don't hold it against you and even respect you more. As an example, AF in college was a peaceful guy, but a violent drunk who always wanted to fight after a few beers. We pledged a frat together. He burnt me once with a hot lighter as a joke, and I immediately punched him in the side of the knee, mostly just to get him away from me. But I hit the side of his kneecap by chance, and it send him to the ground, writhing in pain for a few minutes. Then over the course of the semester, while wasted drunk, he tried to pick a fight with about all 40 frat guys, one of whom was a local UFC champ and major badass, countless strangers, and all of his friends ... except me. While sober, he said that it was because I hit him in the knee that time and even his drunken mind must remember.

 

[Desdinova]

Well there's people like this everywhere.

There is??? Must be in your part of the world, since none of my friends beat the 5hit out of each other. Or maybe it's just the fact that they're stupid teenagers. Still, when I was a teen, none of my friends beat the 5hit out of each other.

 

[Socialreject]

LMAO!

Time to show them some pain i would say. Next time one of these arsholes hits you, you don't wait 7 punches to hit him back. Hit em back HARDER than they are hitting you. Make sure they feel it. Then say some stupid excuse like Bible_Belt said and if he whines about you hurting him... Amog his ass, tell em hes a tough guy and he'll be alright. Then 'pat' him on the sore spot nice and hard... just a friendly, rough 'pat' you know? ;-)

That's one guy that will prolly 'get the picture', if he doesn't really get it... submit him to more punishment next time they pull this crap with you!

Never lose your temper with these guys. Just show em not to mess with you and always keep your cool. It's alright if you get some juices flowing on the inside, just don't lose it!

If they lose it and go physical on you just put him in an arm grip or something and tell them to relax, cool off. It's not that hard, guys who are pissed usually aren't thinking straight and it's pretty easy to restrain them once you get the hang of it!

 

[aftershock]

Get yourself some new friends, these guys are morons.

 

[Leuven]

Real friends don't hit each other ...

Or they tread you with the respect that you tread them with, or try to make new friends.

Such friends do much more damage for you then they do you well.
Big chance that they talk bad behind your back to females as well ...


Sincerely

 

[So Many Ways]

Get yourself some new friends, these guys are morons.

I was thinking the same thing.

 

[john_1234]

stop hanging around people like that. i know it's not going to be easy to do since you've probably known these guys for some time, but trust me on this... once you're in a circle of friends where the respect is mutual, you'll feel more confident. even if you don't have any other friends, i would still stop hanging w/ them and make an effort to meet new cool friends. hanging w/ friends should always be a fun experience; if instead of having fun you feel like a "target" instead, you have to re-evaluate who your friends are

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I'm not a macho guy. But I'm not limp either. I'm average. My group consists of about 6 people. 2 of which are extremely physical. Both look for any opportunities to hurt me.
Examples:

We meet at shopping mall, I arrive, one of them feels it in them to prove his manliness so without saying hi turns around and starts continously punching me [hard] in the arm. After the seventh punch I snap :cuss: and push him off. Great intro.

Watching movie at someones house, I'm on the floor I start spinning a pillow on my finger. One of my friends on the couch grabs a cushion and swings it straight into my face as hard as he can. Why? Who knows. To this I was blinded for about 2-minutes so I didn't do anything.

After movie I lie on the couch, they both jump on me one punching me continuously in the leg. I don't retaliate.

Weird thing is, they only do it with a chick present. If it's just us guys they treat me like a normal friend. So obviously trying to prove something. What's a DJ way to respond to this so I don't come across as weak.
The bad thing is when hurt I get angry and it's difficult not to lash out and give it to them back. Any advice?

lol obviously they're ****ing with you to see if you snap..or they just don't think you'll do anything.

 

[shumon]

Yes u cud do what every1s tellin u to do, but if u control/be the dj to the women, ur friends will respect u and not do anything to u anymore

 

[Eulogy]

Haha I havn't laughed so hard since reading STR8UP's infamous TOUPÉ thread.

 

[Enjin 7]

get buff? every dj must do that anyway right? lol

 

[shumon]

get buff? every dj must do that anyway right? lol

not really, wat a load of blst

 

[Wyldfire]

Your friends don't know how to deal with their hormones when girls are around. They want the girls to notice them but don't know what to do...so instead of talking to the girls they act like retards and hit each other or do stupid things for attention.

You should probably only hang out with guys who know how to act around girls if girls are going to be around.

 

[Tazman]

I agree with others who say you either stop hanging out with them or hurt them. I know where you're coming from since I used to get tested all the time because I'm a short skinny guy. Basically, I had to fight my way into earning respect because guys/friends would feel the need to prove they were stronger and better than me. That's where "confidence" plays a major role. Even though some of the guys could've really hurt me, I didn't show any fear when I got into any physical confrontation and that won me most fights.

Don't hold back, when you get angry use that energy to fight back, it worked for me.

 

[organizedconfusion]

I'm not a macho guy. But I'm not limp either. I'm average. My group consists of about 6 people. 2 of which are extremely physical. Both look for any opportunities to hurt me.
Examples:

We meet at shopping mall, I arrive, one of them feels it in them to prove his manliness so without saying hi turns around and starts continously punching me [hard] in the arm. After the seventh punch I snap :cuss: and push him off. Great intro.

Watching movie at someones house, I'm on the floor I start spinning a pillow on my finger. One of my friends on the couch grabs a cushion and swings it straight into my face as hard as he can. Why? Who knows. To this I was blinded for about 2-minutes so I didn't do anything.

After movie I lie on the couch, they both jump on me one punching me continuously in the leg. I don't retaliate.

Weird thing is, they only do it with a chick present. If it's just us guys they treat me like a normal friend. So obviously trying to prove something. What's a DJ way to respond to this so I don't come across as weak.
The bad thing is when hurt I get angry and it's difficult not to lash out and give it to them back. Any advice?

fvck a 'Dj' advice, kick their azzes! if they're bigger then you, lead them somehwhere to get them jumped.i done it before to 'friends' that needed to be checked and people got the message :rockon: seriously, you don't need people like that in your life..especially just to show off in front of girls..what pansies. plus you're only 17, if you let people mess with you now-it'll just become habit.do something about it, or you can have a heart to heart talk about why yo feewings got hert .. i am sure they're listen:kick:

 

[DJDamage]

You are 17 and naturally you hang around boys not men. Most men don't fight and act over stupid sh1t like this but since you are young its different for you.

You can either get yourself some new friends who respect you or show them they that can't fvck with you. The next time this moron punch you in the arm you just take a step back grab his shirt and punch him in the face like they do in hockey fights while shouting in rage "I told you don't fvck with me!" which will stun everyone in the group (see what your friends were doing were establishing pecking order between who are the leaders, mid levels and chumps and they take it upon themsleves to sh1t on the chumps in which in turn they let you hang around them and protect you, in essence they are sh1tty friends). You might make your friends enemies after this but if they are already beating you up, it won't make much of a difference.

DjDamage

 

[Enjin 7]

not really, wat a load of blst

lololol Im jaykay foo! I found that I just dont bring girls around certain people. and those would be those people.