VIDEO: Texting Sucks Pt 2 (Brigham Young University Study + Links to Back It Up)

[Harry Wilmington]

Hola!

Sooooo... I posted up a video yesterday featuring a girl who was complaining about text messaging (which you can read/see HERE). I did it just to give proof to guys on these boards that there ARE women out there who, contrary to popular belief, do NOT want a guy communicating through them via message.

Today, I found a video that actually has research, evidence and PROOF to back up my whole "texting KILLS relationships" mantra. It's a video - this time with a guy - who gives insight to a research study done at Brigham Young University about text messaging as it relates to the happiness a couple experiences. Here's the video link:

http://youtu.be/DzaU-TinoZQ

And, for those of you that prefer to read studies yourself (to see that I'm not making this stuff up), there is now TONS of research that has been done correlating failing relationships with frequency of texting. Check it out:

Too much texting can disconnect couples, research finds

With Struggling Relationships, Talking Still Trumps Texting

Using Technology to Connect in Romantic Relationships: Effects on Attachment, Relationship Satisfaction, and Stability in Emerging Adults

E-Mail Is Easy to Write (and to Misread)

Too Many Texts Can Hurt A Relationship

I'm not sure if any of this will satisfy the "pro-texting" crowd, but I wanted you all to at least see evidence and proof that, regardless of how good you think you are with texting, it can ultimately KILL your relationship. Hope this helps!

 

[jurry]

To me texting comes off as more casual and aloof than some guy blowing up her phone all the time. As stated on the other thread though, the whole debate is garbage, move on to something else. The texting is not the problem, it is the neediness and insecurity of the man doing it that will be picked up. Instead of focusing on the mode of communication which really is of no help to men looking for dating advice, you should be focusing on WHAT is being communicated.

 

[No.Danny]

To me texting comes off as more casual and aloof than some guy blowing up her phone all the time. As stated on the other thread though, the whole debate is garbage, move on to something else. The texting is not the problem, it is the neediness and insecurity of the man doing it that will be picked up. Instead of focusing on the mode of communication which really is of no help to men looking for dating advice, you should be focusing on WHAT is being communicated.

Speak the truth man. Speak it!!

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

To me texting comes off as more casual and aloof than some guy blowing up her phone all the time. As stated on the other thread though, the whole debate is garbage, move on to something else. The texting is not the problem, it is the neediness and insecurity of the man doing it that will be picked up. Instead of focusing on the mode of communication which really is of no help to men looking for dating advice, you should be focusing on WHAT is being communicated.

^This

Too much texting does kill a relationship. However, IME, you need texting at the beginning, before the relationship. If done properly, it's a great way to build rapport. I've had chicks ready to bang me on the first date without ever talking on the phone. They had never met me or even heard my voice. The only communication was done through messages online, and texting.

However, once you get going with her, then yes, texting can definitely kill it.

"Give her the gift of missing you."
"Always leave her wanting more."
-both by David D.

Text at the beginning to build rapport. Once rapport has been established, then cut the texting to a minimum. That's all you need to know.

I'm pretty sure, without reading your links, that they are referring to established relationships. If it's not already a relationship then how could it be killed?

Like a lot of this stuff, it's all situational.

 

[May_Day]

Brigham Young also did studies that smoking causes cancer and kills you. So what? Not everybody that smokes gets cancer just like everybody that texts doesn't have a relationship go sour. I have friends who have been in LTR's for years who text with their girlfriends not one of them are complaining about something going wrong. I texted my girlfriend too with no problems. Women are fickle nowadays always looking for the next best thing when they lose interest in their boyfriend they're texting the next guy who they're looking to get with. One guy is replaced with another but texting is what she is doing to get with another guy. One relationship dies and another comes to life that happens everyday but the girls still are texting guys they want to be with anyway.

Scarcity creates value.

Memorize that boys.

Scarcity creates value in the men that women value.

Fixed that for you. Being scarce won't create any value if the woman doesn't think you are valuable man. If a woman has no interest at all being scarce isn't going to make your value rise. She will be thrilled that she hasn't heard from you.

Memorize that boys.

 

[JoeMarron]

Agreed. However, pretty much no one is advocating to text enough to where killing a relationship is possible. You won't find any vets here that text women on a regular basis besides setting up dates and sexting. The only difference between you and them is you don't like to text at all. All of this research is clearly talking about dudes who feel the need to have hour long text convos with their girl everyday.

 

[Skyline]

Online dating is different. You kind of need that rapport unless she's down to fvck at the drop of a hat for some reason. But for anything else its kind of... A waste. You're using up rapport that could be used while ON the date. Its okay to get some 15minute flirty chit chat but only as long as you're setting something up and leaving yourself scarce afterwards. But the best rule of thumb is to use the phone to set up dates- unless its online dating. But even that has its limits.

I used to use the phone in my earlier days a lot. In fact I used it because I was afraid of real life encounters and basically had nothing to do so I was always wondering what others were doing. But now I hardly ever text/call people unless I need something. Not because I restrict myself but because it's just boring. I got other sh*t to do nowadays.

Oh yeah pointless texting/calling kills relationships. Scarcity guys.

 

[SeymourCake]

I think too much communication in general kills relationships.