Validation NO confirmation

TonyBaloney

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Inspired by the rhetoric of stripper lovers and my own insecurities, I am writing this little pamphlet on the state of the union, that is, the union of ourselves to ourselves.

It seems to me, that oftentimes we are looking for validation from women to confirm to us that we are worthy, manly, likeable and lovable people, because we just cant love ourselves................

Do we continually need to dissect ours and others relationships, to get some opiate to ease the pain inside. Can we not try a new drug, that of self love, self respect??

I am not going gay or celibate - but i'm sorry - i'm fed up with pandering to bxtches the whole time.

Anybody else get cheesed off with it all?
 

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I've never understood this whole "if you love yourself you shouldn't need validation from women" concept.

You can like yourself all you want, that doesn't mean that someone else is going to. Or to put it another way, a fat ugly girl can like herself all she wants, that doesn't mean she's attractive to males.
 

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i think the problem is in being insecure

as for me i could give a **** less watt people think, why? because i feel good about my self, like my self, etc

you dont need validation from anyone or anything, dont seek it, just about buisiness and everyday life towards being seucessfull in every way possible.
 

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TonyBaloney said:
Inspired by the rhetoric of stripper lovers and my own insecurities, I am writing this little pamphlet on the state of the union, that is, the union of ourselves to ourselves.

It seems to me, that oftentimes we are looking for validation from women to confirm to us that we are worthy, manly, likeable and lovable people, because we just cant love ourselves................

Do we continually need to dissect ours and others relationships, to get some opiate to ease the pain inside. Can we not try a new drug, that of self love, self respect??

I am not going gay or celibate - but i'm sorry - i'm fed up with pandering to bxtches the whole time.

Anybody else get cheesed off with it all?
When you come on a pua site or a site like this

your told that strippers and skinny anorexic chicks with cute faces are the ones that you should chase after.

If I posted pics of chicks I'm pretty sure everyone would rate chicks low and call me a chubby chaser

However the reality is that on the low most men of my stature (who are big and work out) have similar taste

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=129311261&page=1
^^it's just frowned upon in large in society

now a days I could care less cause there is a lotta fronting going on these forums
 
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Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Danger said:
Solomon,

You are an EPIC HERO for posting that link.

You have single-handedly ruined my productivity for a week. And I'm not even a chubby lover. But wow I would demolish some of those chics....
Seriously...

I came across that thread on BB a couple months back. It did the same to me then. To the point where I saw what it was just now and clicked out as fast as I could. That link is a BAD idea for my work productivity, and my involvement in the No Fap Challenge!
 

Down Low

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Big breasts are a plus. My rating system knocks off one point for fat, and two for grossly obese. However, I add a point for every cup size over C. They cancel each other out (for a simple reason: breasts are almost all fat).

The real problem is that women get fatter as they age. Very few women under about 25 have D cups, and extremely few are DD or larger. Those types usually become morbidly obese hogs if they aren't already. Not having children artificially slows the process -- but getting older without any kids says she was never tractable.

It makes perfect sense that men pursue young women. Young women are generally less fat and have smaller breasts. I'm in my fifties so the fatties you post are OK for me to pump 'n dump -- but I wouldn't recommend chubby chasing to a young man. Not when they can get women who aren't hit on right in front of your face by every azzhole in the restaurant. My psycho cluster b1tch ex got fat after having a kid, got bigger breasts and felt extremely entitled, and just sat on her fat ass waiting for men to call or "accidentally" leave their cell phones near her or such.

Solomon said:
If it's true then I may have to come sooner
So much for enlisting you in the no-fap challenge.
 

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Danger, I think there's a difference between loving yourself and narcisism.

I agree you should love yourself. In fact, I almost don't understand how someone could NOT love themselves. Maybe if they really screwed their life up bad, and was serving a life sentence in prison for it.

But I think there's a difference between loving yourself and knowing that you have the right mix of attributes to attract women. I don't think loving yourself guarantees that women will be attracted to you. That ignores all the other attraction factors.

That reminds me of the "Think you're a 10 in looks" concept. If you think you're a 10, but then every time you go anywhere, girls tell your buddy "Wow, you're good looking" while ignoring you, how long are you going to keep that belief?
 

Peace and Quiet

If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.

Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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