Texting is fine when it is not prolonged. It, most times, plays against your odds of it ending up on an IRL date. For one, stop making the correlation between "Valentine's Day" (which is just an excuse for you spend money in restaurants, etc) and you asking her out.
You simply ask her out because you want to find out what she is about in person and create a connection. With that, stop. Stop overthinking, overanalyzing this. Simply do it! "Hey, I am going to get a bottle of wine and get a fire going this Sat if you want to join me" or what have you. Keep it simple (no dinner dates).
Lastly, stop apologizing or blaming yourself. She agreed to the date, if she was super into you she would cross oceans to see you. She canceled the last min. This is your call, but I have high standards. This literally just happened to me last week. She said, "I can't make it today, can we postpone?" I simply said "k" and deleted the conversation when she failed to give an alternative date/time. Moved on.
I simply do not have the time and energy (and know my worth enough) to convince women, or people in general, to be part of my life.
Hope this helps.
Modern Man Advice
"Texting is fine when it is not prolonged. It, most times, plays against your odds of it ending up on an IRL date." I know this, it is a Fact.
For one, stop making the correlation between "Valentine's Day" (which is just an excuse for you spend money in restaurants, etc) and you ask her out. Asking her out equals spending money sooner or later.
"You simply ask her out because you want to find out what she is about in person and create a connection. With that, stop. Stop overthinking, overanalyzing this. Simply do it!" Why is it that everyone uses these cheese keywords here?????? "overthinking" and "overanalyzing"??????? "
Hey, I am going to get a bottle of wine and get a fire going this Sat if you want to join me" or what have you. Keep it simple (no dinner dates)." I do not invate woman to my place, I am not hannibal lecter. Only, after having sex with them I do.
"Lastly, stop apologizing or blaming yourself.
" Hhhhuuuuhhh? when did I apologize????? I blame myself, but I never told her. We are supposed to give women time. The days to call are Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, do not call on Thursday and Friday and weekends. This is according to Antidump. I called her on Friday to set up a date for Sunday. This is not good.
"She agreed to the date, if she was super into you she would cross oceans to see you. She canceled the last min." She had asked me to
call her in the morning to confirm, but I did not do it until last minute.
"But what if she asks, “Sure i'd like to go, but could you call me that day a few hours before to confirm?" and the variances to that? Don Steele, the author of several dating books, decided to answer this,
say, "Maybe we should get together some other time instead when you're able to be more sure of your schedule." Cause if you let her do that, She's playin ya, taken you for granted, and looking for a way to blow-you off at the last minute...AND THAT SUX! Been there, done that." (Antidump Machine page 7)
If would have read the antidump machine before, I would have known she was about to cancel, and I would have cancel first.
According to her, She spent the night up. On Facebook, I was able to notice her status on messanger. She had gone to bed late, at 4:00 AM. When I called her, she said she had not slept the night and is tired and scare to drive, she added that the reason for her to be up all night was that she had to deal with her daugther going out to a party, and this caused her to be stressed out. I did not believe the daughter going out, but I do believe she was up until 4:00AM online, wasting her time and life. My opinion.
This is your call, but I have high standards. This literally just happened to me last week. She said, "I can't make it today, can we postpone?" I simply said "k" and deleted the conversation when she failed to give an alternative date/time. Moved on. She also said that she wanted to reschedule and asked me when I was back in town. First, she asked, "Can we do this later, can I reschedule, blah blah blah." She also asked me to call her sometime next week, which I did not do. I did not offer her an alternative. So I only talk to her for a couple of minutes and hung up while we were saying each other back and forward ok, ok, Her daughter came into her room and I heard them talking. So I hung up at that moment when she stopped talking to her daughter and restarted to talk to me. Then, on Tuesday, she PM me a load of apologies.
This is a good line here.
"I simply do not have the time and energy (and know my worth enough) to convince women, or people in general, to be part of my life."
Well, thanks for your advice. You were the only one who replied on time, so I did not call her on Valentine. I called her this last Tuesday and something new come up.
