URGENT!!! Should I ask her??

[thizguy]

Theres this HB 8 that i met and have had some nice conversation with, on and off online, i see her around in school and we say hi, for about a month now. I asked her out for a lunch date, but she said she was busy and i told her to call me when she had time for lunch (we go to same college). im 20 and shes 18.

Now i found out that theres a concert this weekend, and a band that she LOVES will be performing. Tickets are $55 each. It's definitely something she can't refuse.

I'm pretty theres a certain interest level here, and i have a decent chance at raising it up over the long run. But $110+ for a first date?? Here are my options:

1. Dont tell her. Save $110, no date, wait for her call for lunch (which i know will happen soon if i keep mentioning to her that she owes me lunch).

2. Tell her I have free tickets and shes in-luck. (i bought them). i spend $110, pray the date goes well and pays off handsomely.

3. Ask her if she wants to go to this concert, but she has to pay for her own ticket (im not obligated since we're not anything yet). only $55 for me, i get a date.

I need to know soon before the concert sells out. Thanks guys.

 

[Schlep]

I don't think she's interested in you, but 3 if I had to pick (and that's assuming you really like the band).

 

[rockstar88]

take her it will raise her intrest level. however if your not being honest with yourself and you know that she didnt do the lunch date cause she has no intrest in you but your hoping she does save yourself the 110$. i mean she will go either way cause girls will always use guys but than it's just false hope for you my man and you may become traped in your own head games that she wants more while really she uses you. so my advice. If this girl doesnt know you real well.(personal life, job, friends, connections) if she doesnt know those things buy the tickets, talk to her sometime before the concert like 3 or 4 weeks,if you have that much time if not than 1or2 weeks, bring up in causaly that you got tickets from your friend that works at the venue to see "girlsfavband" and that your going to see them in 3weeks, she's going to want to go. tell her you think tickets are sold out but if she can manage to get 1 she can tag along with you and your date,(by the way you have no date and you have no friend that works at the venue but this is going to make her IL rise so much because she thinks your hooked up and you already gots a date) she'll be pissey but thats cool. Have a friend thats a girl be ready on back up just incase she does get tix so you dont get caught in a lie. Than like a week before the show tell her you and your date didnt work out and you were thinking about her and how she said that she loved"gilsfavband" and ask her if she was able to get tix if she says yes say thats cool maybe ill see you at the show. if she says no than ask her to go. if she does have tix take the friend and act like its your new date. if not have fun at the show.
of course you could go pay 110$for tickets ask the girl to go and she will say yes. but than your out 110$ you really dont know if this girl likes you or not cause whos gonna turn down a free concert to their fav band and her IL is going to be low knowing that she had to put up no effort for you to ask her. it's all about the chase and if she knows that you paid 110$ to take her she knows she is not going to have to chase you at all and your chances with her are pretty much shot. However if you do like i suggested above make sure you cover all your baisis and lie well. make sure you have someone else to go with. just incase **** does fall threw. and most importantly act like she is lucky that you even considered her even tho you knew it was her fav band she wasnt your first choice.

i have done this same thing manytimes it does work. this one time the girl and i went and we stayed after and while she was in the pisser i slipted the bouncer at the tour busses a 50$ and told him my name so when the girl came out of the pisser it looked like the bouncer and i were friends and he ended up letting us backstage with press passes. we got to meet her favorite band and it was "the best nite of her life" which in turn led to the best nite of sex in my life. so it's all about using your resourses but it can work out well.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She's already $hit testing you about the lunch offer. So the interest level is not high enough. You naggin' her about it won't raise her IL, so don't count on that.

Just casually mention that you can get tix for the show and you are planning on buying a ticket; ask her if she is interested in buying one, and you can get them from your source; that way you are telling her, in an indirect way, that she needs to pay her way, and are doing it in a casual way, and not as something you put so much importance in her response.

If she gives you an excuse, all of our suspicions are confirmed, she is not interested, and you can walk away with some dignity. You definitely don't want to come across as manipulative by telling her you already bought them to take her, and kind of creating an obligation. That will do nothing to get attraction going, just the opposite.

 

[Aaron B]

she should like you, not the date

If you can't get her to go along with a normal date, whats the point of wasting your time (and money)? Do you even like this band?

 

[Q-Pid]

Ask her. Then buy the tickets if she says yes. Have a backup if she bails though

 

[Evangenlion]

i bet she is already planning to buy her own tickets.
wait...she already bought them.
wait...no she's got a selection of shmucks waiting to buy the tickets for her and her friends.

anyway the question would be...do you like the band? cus i wouldn't spend a dime on a band that i don't even like.

waste of money.

 

[thizguy]

haha nevermind she already has tickets and was planning to go anyway. i said 'thast cool just letting you know in case u didnt'

thats good news, i just saved $110 and 5 hours of my precious time...more time to spend on other ladies.

thanks anyway for all u guys' help, i appreciate it.

 

[flexion_]

Never try and buy a woman's affection. Nothing good can come from that - she should like you for who you are...

 

[griffon65]

You never go on a date(where you pay)/ pay for a girl on anything unless you know shes interested in being intimate with you. You dont spend money to get a girl interested.

Spending the $110 will do nothing to make her like you more. If she likes you alreadly then awesome, if not you will lose $110. Next time you see her, ask her "Whens the next day you have some free time?" if shes interested in you she'll give you a day, if not she'll BS you.

If she gives a day, ask her to come with you and hang out somewhere. Make sure your letting her know that your not taking her anywhere, mearly shes coming with you somewhere. This way she knows that you arent paying and its not a date.

When you hang out with her, jsut do kino, flirting like on a normal date and take it from there.

 

[PeoplesChamp]

flexion took the words right out of my mouth more or less.

I was going to say "you can buy her affection but you can't buy her attraction."

So she would have just used you for the free ticket and LJBF you after the concert...