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Urgent: I didn't completely set the date!

One on One

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Lots of people here know the background story about this girl I met in my class this summer and we've meeting up at clubs and such, yet I have failed to make a move. Well, I got sick of going to clubs and parties, hoping to make something happen when I know it's not my ideal environment. So, we both go back to school in a week and I decide I need to grow some balls and just ask her out for a one-on-one date.

I called her up tonight. I sat around for 30 minutes, thinking about what I would say and made a little list and crap. I was very nervous. When I called her and said, "what's up," she tells me she's about to take a shower. ****! I hate **** like that. Do I ignore that **** and start a convo? Or, do I say OK I'll call you back later? Anyways, I was indecisive about the thing and I was like, "um, are you gonna shower now?"...blah blah. It was a bad 30 seconds or so, but eventually we get to talking.

OK, conversation ensued fairly well for like 7 minutes, which is about the length I wanted. Towards the end, she gives me the rundown of her clubbing plans for the week so there's a green light that she wants to hang out. I go ahead with my plan, which is to ask her to come over and see a movie with me tomorrow. I ask what she's doing tomorrow night and she says, "nothing really." So, I tell her I'm gonna chill out and watch a movie that night, feel free to join me. (Maybe I was a little to casual here). Well, she's like, "yeah!" There was some enthusiasm in her "yeah" kinda like when you are trying to figure out a problem and someone makes a good suggestion, then you're like "yeah!" That's how I would describe her response...not too great, but good enough. Then, she said like how you gotta get your last hang-outs in during the last week before you go back....so, hopefully I'm not friends zoned?

Anyways, I failed to actually arrange the date! I got nervous and didn't want to make it all formal. I told her have a good shower and I told her I'd talk to her online that night (she said she'd be on and always is).

So, I have her agreeing to hang out and watch a movie tomorrow, but we didn't discuss the specifics? How do I resolve this without sounding all needy and clingy?
 

uniassign

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Ring her up and TELL her to bring popcorn. Tell her to come over at XXXpm and tell her not to be late.

You must play this like you are ASSUMING that she is coming over. If you ring her up and CONFIRM, then she will flake on you as she will sense your insecurity and inexperience.

However, if you TELL her to bring stuff, she will think that she told you that she will come over. This will bind her into coming over if she is at all interested. If she is not, she will make some lame excuse.
 

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Originally posted by uniassign
Ring her up and TELL her to bring popcorn. Tell her to come over at XXXpm and tell her not to be late.

You must play this like you are ASSUMING that she is coming over. If you ring her up and CONFIRM, then she will flake on you as she will sense your insecurity and inexperience.

However, if you TELL her to bring stuff, she will think that she told you that she will come over. This will bind her into coming over if she is at all interested. If she is not, she will make some lame excuse.
I think I'm going to message her online tonight and give her directions to my house and a time.
 

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Dude you're inviting her to flake here.
Even chicks who might be into you will flake if you let them.
Call her up and get her to bring the popcorn (that's brilliant BTW Uni).
 

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Originally posted by uniassign
Ring her up and TELL her to bring popcorn. Tell her to come over at XXXpm and tell her not to be late.

You must play this like you are ASSUMING that she is coming over. If you ring her up and CONFIRM, then she will flake on you as she will sense your insecurity and inexperience.

However, if you TELL her to bring stuff, she will think that she told you that she will come over. This will bind her into coming over if she is at all interested. If she is not, she will make some lame excuse.
Hmmm... Interesting concept. The nuance between telling and confirming. Thanks for the tip. I was in a similar situation a while back. Called to confirm, and the chick flaked on me.
 

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Uniassign: That's genius.

Dave134: Make one more phonecall and do what Uniassign just told you to do. Don't make any more mistakes, so stay away from this messaging nonsense.
 
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