update on confusing girl

[slickjesse]

original post!: i work with a hb9. through some neg hits and CF ive managed to raise her interest. one day a customer thought we were married so since then she's joked about us being married. tells people at work about how were married and we joke about how we're practicing to have babies. today she was very touchy with me. sometimes though when she had the chance to do something at work near me she didn't take it though. as we were leaving i asked what she was doing tonight. she said i dont know what about you. i said some friends were coming over and she should come. she asked if she knew any of them and i said no but itll be fun. she stood there quiet for a while with lots of "umms" and "hmms" and said that it might be weird since she doesn't know anyone. i gave her my number and told her to call if she decided to. well she called an hour later but i ended up not having the friend thing at my house...it was just me there. she said after work she went and layed in bed for an hour and got bored so she was meeting a friend of her who lives in the same apartment complex as me and i said they can come over and say hey. so they all came over and we talked for about 15 minutes. i was C/F....lots of laughing. her friend told the hb9 that she had to take her friends home cause they had to get some sleep, kind of like thats what were doing, do what you want. hb9 said "alright....see ya" and walked out...not really looking at me or anything. i know it seems like im anazlyzing every detail but i just want opinions...when around each other talking i get signals but it seems like she doesn't take opportunities that someone who liked me would take. am i reading into this to much and shes acting like a normal person who likes me or does this show she really has no real interest. thanks!

!!!UPDATE!!!: today after i got off work i went into the place she works just to give her a hard time about something. after i did that she asked what i was doing tonight. i said im going to a bar with some people from work. she told me to give a call when i go. as soon as she got off work at 9 she called me and asked when were going...i said i was waiting on the call and said she could come over to wait on that call so she did. she brought alcohol and we ended up drinking for a couple hours. during this time i was C/F and a little bit of flirting...hitting each other jokingly type stuff. everyone ended up leaving the bar we were going to go to so we went to a friend of ours house. i drove. after a while, and chewing a guy out who spread rumors about her...her friend ( a girl) called and she gave directions to the place and the girl came and picked her up. she said it was so i didn't have to leave. another abrupt ending.

any opinons on this? im thinking tomorrow im going to call her and say hey i just remember no school on monday and we should hang out if she off work? i usually dont ramble on about stuff like this but shes confusing. if she says she cant and doesn't suggest another time is that a definte nexting? just wondering what you guys think? and im really drunk by the way. thanks!

 

[slickjesse]

she just called me and asked if i made it home alright. we talked for a little bit and ended with " well if anything exciting comes up give me a call". good sign?

 

[golf299]

heres the deal man...she's definitely not dis-interested. but you want to avoid the friend-zone at all costs. so call her up, tell her to come out with you on monday. step up the kino and make sure to kiss close. she's yours.

good luck

 

[slickjesse]

any other thoughts?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Yeah I've got some thoughts!!!


1-Your analyzing WAAAAY TOO MUCH, which is kinda like dangerously close to falling off a cliff, but just clinging to the edge.

2-If this continues, you'll be LJBF'd real quick!!


Ok bro, here's the deal. This girl has good thoughts of you. She possibly could be attracted to you, but right now its seems like overall your a friend. When you call/talk to the same girl 3-5x in a week you lead yourself to destruction. If you see her and talk to her as much as you currently are, then there is no mystery about you. She knows where you work, your work schedule, she knows what you do after work etc. You need to raise her interest level in you by creating attraction and then giving her the gift of missing you. Cuz right now your hanging all over her like a parrot on a a pirate's shoulder.


I can almost assure you that you don't have any other prospects right now. This is VERY BAD!! Because the importance of HB9 becomes much more magnified to you. If you don't get her then your left with nothing!! It shouldn't be that way. A true DJ works in stride, hitting up his different prospects all the time. Spread the love.

Ok with that being said, this should be yoru plan of attack.

Don't call her and ask her to hang out Monday!!! You guys are spending too much time together and each encounter you spend without advancing, puts you that much closer to the dreaded friend zone. Sit back and don't contact her for a few days, see if she calls you. You need to switch places and let her chase you so you can judge her interest level . Then she'll be the one playing the guessing game rather than yourself.


When you guys go to these little get together's are there other girls there?? YES!! Well, go talk to them!!! Its ok don't worry HB9 is a big girl she can handle being alone for a few minutes. And if you come back and she's talking to another guy, who cares, just talk to other girls. This will show her that your very secure and confident and make you more attractive in her eyes. And never feel forced to make a move. Remember the physical act of kissing a girl is the EASIEST PART if you lay the correct ground work. You should never go in for a kiss without any clue if she'll pull away or accept it. That's like taking your final exams without studying all year and praying for an "A."


Go pursue other girls so you can stop your ONE-ITIS!! And don't even try to deny this, that's a classic symptom of ONE-ITIS.




PIMP

 

[slickjesse]

i actually do have about 3 other girls im working on. the reason im posting on every little detail is because im usually good at reading girls and shes a little confusing so i was just wondering about opinions.

but your post did make very good points. however, i have NEVER called her. she has called me and thats it. thats why i thought about calling her and asking her about doing something...otherwise i thought she may think im not interested. thoughts?