unsure of what to do? gf issues

[evil_tomato]

Hey guys,
So here's the deal, I've been dating my gf for 4 months now, she is a single mom with a 5 year old brat daughter. We do have a good relationship, lots of things in common, great chemistry and I get on really well with her family and friend.

However yesterday we decided to go on a "break". Our relationship has gone a bit downhill lately. She has a lot of personal issues going on in her life at the moment which I know for a fact isn't an excuse because I've witnessed these issues myself and because of this I have hardly seen her much anymore an don't hear from her as much anymore. Our sex life has died down, we haven't fu**ed in a long time because she is either too tired, stressed or on her period. Mind you when we first started dating we were at it like rabbits.

Also my other dilemma is her daughter. She is a handful and a half. I think our relationship would be so much different and better if she wasn't in the picture. She constantly always seeks her mom's attention, we can never seem to have alone time without the little one interrupting all the damn time, she's a very hyperactive child which stresses out my gf and puts a strain on our relationship.

I am really unsure of whether or not to stick around and try to make this relationship work or if I should just walk. I love my gf, she's a great chick and we have had lots of great moments together as a couple but sometimes it seems the baggage and her bipolar get the better of things and she becomes all too hard.

I'm really at lost on what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks for your time

 

[Bwana]

Move on. You already know the answer.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Four months? I have zits older than that.

 

[evil_tomato]

That's why I'm thinking if I should give the relationship more of a chance to grow, or if I should call it a day? I don't know if she or the situation will change though

 

[Maximus Rex]

Rex Has Already Provided the Answers to Your Questions

Hey guys,
So here's the deal, I've been dating my gf for 4 months now, she is a single mom with a 5 year old brat daughter.

Don't date single mothers. She has a man in her life, namely her daughter's father, she needs to go make a life with him.

We do have a good relationship, lots of things in common, great chemistry and I get on really well with her family and friend. However yesterday we decided to go on a "break". Our relationship has gone a bit downhill lately.

This is contradiction like a muthaf*cka. If your relationship was as good as you claim, you and you had this great chemistry, then you would have decided to go on a "break. Rex on taking breaks.

How you start with a b*tch, is how you end with a b*tch.-Old Pimpin' Proverb http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212178

"I think we should take a break." She's so laden with remorse, melancholy, and sincerity when she says it. Things have become too much for her of late. She's busy with school, she's having problems with at work, things aren't going right at home, or more then likely your "relationship," has been less than ideal. So in an attempt to free you from these "unnecessary,," burdens, she wants to release you from the relationship, irregardless of the fact, that part of being in a relationship is dealing with the touch times.

True of the matter is, dude if a b*tch (with the exception of the relationship being on the rocks,) ever cites one of the reasons that I just gave for wanting to "take a break," the b*tch is a muthaf*ckain' lie and is disrespecting not your relationship, but also you.

Let's translate the statement, "Lets take a break,," from the wom*nese. What the chick is actually saying is the following, "For the longest time, I had a feeling that you had some b*tch made tendencies. I mean, you were a little too clingy and you were all too willing to please. You would never tell me "No," on top of the fact that you never checked me. Sometimes, I would purposely do things to see if you'd get mad or at least make an attempt to correct my rude behavior.

So what I'm purposing is that we break up. I'm going to get out there, date, suck, and f*ck some new dudes and see if I can do a little bit better than what I'm doing now; however, we can STILL BE FRIENDS, WHEN NOBODY ELSE WANTS TO TAKE ME OUT HANG OUT, (ON YOUR DIME OF COURSE,) and I might even give you some every now and then. If I don't find anybody else, I MIGHT consider f*ckin' with you again.

For a woman even to approach you about some bullsh*t like this, she pretty much feels that you would play the b*tch and go for it and that comes from you constantly failing her sh*t tests. So Rex's advice is this, if your girl approaches you about going on a "break," agree to it, only make it permanent on your part.

She has a lot of personal issues going on in her life at the moment which I know for a fact isn't an excuse because I've witnessed these issues myself.

Why were you trying to save hoes? You know there are people who make a damn good living out of listening to people vent about life.

and because of this I have hardly seen her much anymore an don't hear from her as much anymore. Our sex life has died down, we haven't fu**ed in a long time because she is either too tired, stressed or on her period. Mind you when we first started dating we were at it like rabbits.

You know what nismo-4 says about "princesses and castles." This is f*ckin' somebody else and don't be surprised if it's her baby's daddy.

Also my other dilemma is her daughter. She is a handful and a half. I think our relationship would be so much different and better if she wasn't in the picture.

And this is why as a single guy with no children you need to need leave these single mother hoes alone. You're deeming yourself and lowering your value by f*ckin' with them.

She constantly always seeks her mom's attention, we can never seem to have alone time without the little one interrupting all the damn time, she's a very hyperactive child which stresses out my gf and puts a strain on our relationship.

6) You'll Never Be#1

When your trying to build a relationship with somebody, you should be the focus of the woman's life. It should be about you and her. If she has a kid, you'll NEVER BE #1!!! That's not a bad thing either, but it's something I don't want to deal with. Neither should you.

5) Resentful Little Bastards

I recently experienced this. Though it happen to me personally. This chick I'm messing with, her best friend is involved with a co-worker. Thing is baby girl just broke with her "baby's daddy," for good after eight tumultuous years.
The daughter though a bright and sweet little girl, is a f*cking brat. Even though her parents had a f*cked up relationship, (due to her father and his issues,) it was all she knew. Due to her age, (the little girl is eight,) all she want is her mom and dad to be together. Being upset, jealous, resentful, and wanting a return to normalcy, the little girl told her grandmother, (my bed buddy's friend's mother,) that her mom loved her new boyfriend more than her.

If your dealing with a single mother, not only do you have to win over the chick, you have to win over the kid(s), something that may or may not ever happen. When your dealing with a chick, you shouldn't have to worry about a third party trying to sabotage your relationship.

I am really unsure of whether or not to stick around and try to make this relationship work or if I should just walk. I love my gf, she's a great chick and we have had lots of great moments together as a couple but sometimes it seems the baggage and her bipolar get the better of things and she becomes all too hard.

I'm really at lost on what to do. Any suggestions? Thanks for your time

Walk, because literally sooner or later they'll be another chick that will love, have great moments with as a couple and who'll you'll think is a great chick.

 

[evil_tomato]

Good reply there thanks. However her daughters dad won't have anything to do with her or her kid and lives in another city so I doubt she's getting with him.