I'm sure at one point or another we have all fancied a girl who wasn't of the most sound state of mind. Maybe it was even her unbalanced persona and the way she subsequently carried herself that made her so attractive to you in the first place.
These girls (and boys) all relate to the world differently to the majority of the population. Everyones different sure, but these people are eccentric in their ways. That isn't to say that they are perceived as being strange by people. But that they have some negative or warped core beliefs, that when the surface of their persona is peeled away a bit, start to show through in their actions.
I think that romantic love and close relationships by definition require people to reveal themselves, and therefore become, to a degree, vulnerable to being hurt. It's a trust thing - if you don't trust people, you don't open up to them to keep yourself safe. I think the more internally insecure and negative people are, the more they will keep themselves emotionally distanced from others. Because romantic love is the most vulnerable state we can be in, I think that untrusting girls will protect themselves the most when dealing with the opposite sex, which causes them to act ****ing weird!
Anyway that said, back to me! Theres a girl like the above that i fancy. Known her for ages as an acquaintance. I think she likes me. She had a boyfriend for years, he was a total **** - cheated on her 10 times, always put her down, she didn't really like him, but she stayed with him. Clearly he satisfied some of her needs otherwise she wouldn't have. I think she lives in quite a negative reality, she thrives on being treat badly. Be nice to her and she will treat you badly (not cruelly, but she will take advantage) in return.
I want to get in there with her, but I can't deal with her very well. She creates drama around me sometimes. I mean she always claims that I annoy her even though sometimes I will barely interact with her. The other day we were all a bit drunk, I said 2 words to her and she begins her complaining, saying I really annoy her. It calms down, and shes stood silently near me, and I tell her that Robin Hood wants his boots back (she was wearing some suede boots). She starts bloody crying, saying everyones picking on her. So I don't really react but shes attracting attention, and shes directing the blame onto me! I feel a little harsh and so go to give her a hug, sawing 'aww' in a sarcastic tone, and she goes off her head saying I don't mean it, and telling me to go away, at which time I get in her face, tell her she's pathetic, then wonder off.
Fun this isn't it!
So anyway now she won't talk to me. I see her at work and she just looks at me nonchalantly. She told me today she 'isn't talking to me'. I know that at this point most people would just laugh at me and say she hates me. But I feel that in her own way, she's displaying that she is attracted to me. And that her currently 'not speaking to me' is paradoxically the best opportunity i've had to make a move on her! I mean if she really wasn't interested in me, I think she would be indifferent to me, but she's quite the opposite!
So how the hell do I deal with this girl? Clearly her attraction to jerk-like male characteristics are quite emphasized. So I have been slightly meaner to her of late, hence the current silent treatment i'm getting. But I really don't know where to go from here. How do I go from the adult version of playground pigtail pulling, to the adult version of kissing behind the bike sheds?
Some of you guys must have come across girls like this. Some of you must have learned how to deal with girls who are attracted to the meaner side of male/female interaction and can maneuver in the way of the jerk. I bet some of you even are jerks haha! So whats my next move lads?
Cheers!
These girls (and boys) all relate to the world differently to the majority of the population. Everyones different sure, but these people are eccentric in their ways. That isn't to say that they are perceived as being strange by people. But that they have some negative or warped core beliefs, that when the surface of their persona is peeled away a bit, start to show through in their actions.
I think that romantic love and close relationships by definition require people to reveal themselves, and therefore become, to a degree, vulnerable to being hurt. It's a trust thing - if you don't trust people, you don't open up to them to keep yourself safe. I think the more internally insecure and negative people are, the more they will keep themselves emotionally distanced from others. Because romantic love is the most vulnerable state we can be in, I think that untrusting girls will protect themselves the most when dealing with the opposite sex, which causes them to act ****ing weird!
Anyway that said, back to me! Theres a girl like the above that i fancy. Known her for ages as an acquaintance. I think she likes me. She had a boyfriend for years, he was a total **** - cheated on her 10 times, always put her down, she didn't really like him, but she stayed with him. Clearly he satisfied some of her needs otherwise she wouldn't have. I think she lives in quite a negative reality, she thrives on being treat badly. Be nice to her and she will treat you badly (not cruelly, but she will take advantage) in return.
I want to get in there with her, but I can't deal with her very well. She creates drama around me sometimes. I mean she always claims that I annoy her even though sometimes I will barely interact with her. The other day we were all a bit drunk, I said 2 words to her and she begins her complaining, saying I really annoy her. It calms down, and shes stood silently near me, and I tell her that Robin Hood wants his boots back (she was wearing some suede boots). She starts bloody crying, saying everyones picking on her. So I don't really react but shes attracting attention, and shes directing the blame onto me! I feel a little harsh and so go to give her a hug, sawing 'aww' in a sarcastic tone, and she goes off her head saying I don't mean it, and telling me to go away, at which time I get in her face, tell her she's pathetic, then wonder off.
Fun this isn't it!
So anyway now she won't talk to me. I see her at work and she just looks at me nonchalantly. She told me today she 'isn't talking to me'. I know that at this point most people would just laugh at me and say she hates me. But I feel that in her own way, she's displaying that she is attracted to me. And that her currently 'not speaking to me' is paradoxically the best opportunity i've had to make a move on her! I mean if she really wasn't interested in me, I think she would be indifferent to me, but she's quite the opposite!
So how the hell do I deal with this girl? Clearly her attraction to jerk-like male characteristics are quite emphasized. So I have been slightly meaner to her of late, hence the current silent treatment i'm getting. But I really don't know where to go from here. How do I go from the adult version of playground pigtail pulling, to the adult version of kissing behind the bike sheds?
Some of you guys must have come across girls like this. Some of you must have learned how to deal with girls who are attracted to the meaner side of male/female interaction and can maneuver in the way of the jerk. I bet some of you even are jerks haha! So whats my next move lads?
Cheers!
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