I find that an understanding in matters of class, taste, style, and elegance are one of the things that makes a man desirable. Understanding these things can contribute to his stature among people and his status in the world. I don't see much discussion about this topic very often and never in a direct way.
How do you define class and taste? What makes a gentleman? How does being a gentleman advance your agenda where women are concerned? Do you think a "gentleman" is outdated or no longer important in the current dating scene?
You are invited to discuss.
This depends on the definition BeExcellent.
Funnily enough, I find women very visual on this. If a gent wears and presents himself as an intellectual, women view him as such. I have a very bohemian friend who lives the style, and has a few long words he trots out but he is really not very good at any level of intellectual discussion. In fact it's semi-embarrassing as anyone worth their salt would clock that he is putting out there something which he isn't that good at, yet it seems the women buy it!
I am often surpirsed how much this features. Many men women seem to fantasize over are not the brawny hunks but chaps who look like they have an air of artistic grace about them.
I found revamping my style worked wonders. I have a very individual style which is quite quirky and a bit weird. Like a 70s country gent.
The issue is, I don't really care for elegance and style. I do it because this stuff just suits me and certain things I like. I really have no respect for men who are into fashion. It's not a worthwhile endevour for a man, yet women disagree. It's the same as dancing, I had this discussion on another thread. I could not think of anything less manly than romantic dancing, but women really find that sexy.
On another note, I would give my right bollock to find a woman who has any knowledge of note of history or politics. Even the more intelligent women I know or have dated just don't appreciate it the same way. They tend to just pick up a
view of history or a fad revisionist type historical knowledge. No real passion for the interesting bits, the wars, the migrations, the revolutions. However, literature is something I have learned from women on, and I am a big fan of it. Philosphy too, biut again, it's a tiny amount of women who have an interest in it.
I really think women are more visual in many respects. Women would look to the styles, aesthetics and designs of yesteryear as opposed to the "events" which I enjoy.
I guess it's just the differences of the sexes but I have a hard job understanding how style and form are of more interest than history, politics and philosphical thought.
