Uncertainty about dating deviant

[yul]

Hi,

I recently met this girl that is involved with the local fetish subculture.
She has some deviant practices from time to time as well as a circle of deviants friends as well.

She wears a lot of black, leather and boots most of the time etc.
But, she has a (proven) ability to love and care just ilke anyone.

I have also been seeing other girls lately that a lot of people wouldn't approve of.
Not that they are bad people but rather the way they dress and live.

It's kind of like bikers who go out with these bike girls. You know the type but except different.

This is something I always wanted to do and am enjoying every minute of it.
After 7 years of bad LTR, it's time to roll I say.

Is this heathly?

It is really hard to pass on an occasion like this but can't help to think how 2 make this work in the mid terms. (What will people think?)

My parents would kill me! Even at 31yo living on my own ;-)

Even though I can adjust my looks, you can tell we are very different people!
She can still behave like a regular person but the looks man...wwooww

I read the post about women to avoid and deviants were one of them.
Although, I have had some deviant practices myself.

Of course, protection and midfullnes about STD's is a TOP PRIORITY for everybody.

Thanks

 

[ER!C L!VE]

Hi,

I recently met this girl that is involved with the local fetish subculture.
She has some deviant practices from time to time as well as a circle of deviants friends as well.It is really hard to pass on an occasion like this but can't help to think how 2 make this work in the mid terms. (What will people think?)

My parents would kill me! Even at 31yo living on my own ;-)

So don't introduce her to your parents or your friends, until you know for sure that you will be with her for a while (as in more than a year).

If your friends and family are like me, they aren't very interested in meeting your flavor of the week.

 

[DoubleA]

What happened to the good ole days of, " Let's see how it goes first before planning anything Long Term."?

 

[yul]

OK thanks! Good tip and makes sense.

Right now, I am more afraid of her breaking my heart than anything else.
I need to keep my distances but that's another story.

Best sex ever in the whole world.

 

[Bad_Lil'Pixie]

Right now, I am more afraid of her breaking my heart than anything else.
I need to keep my distances but that's another story.

You can protect you heart by setting some rules for yourself and her.

For Example:
Rule#1-Keep my balls attached to myself (and not in her purse) at all times.
Rule#2-I will run the show with my big head, I will not allow my little head or her to call any shots.
Rule#3-Flakiness is NOT WORTH THE HASSLE, next at first sign.
etc....

Best sex ever in the whole world.

There you go, success already, you are on your way!

Have fun, take little steps and enjoy the ride!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you feel its "deviant" then it's probably unhealthy for you. Have you considered why you feel it's deviant?

 

[wayword]

You tell me what's really "deviant?"

You know what's really unhealthy?

Your All-American Abercrombie s1ut next door who has fvcked 30 guys, chainsmokes, drinks like a fish, does drugs, is on meds, expects you to pay for everything, attention wh0res like crazy and lies and cheats without an ounce of guilt.

In other words, your average "normal" girl.

So, pick your poison...

 

[BrokenLeftWing]

Hi,

I recently met this girl that is involved with the local fetish subculture.
She has some deviant practices from time to time as well as a circle of deviants friends as well.

She wears a lot of black, leather and boots most of the time etc.
But, she has a (proven) ability to love and care just ilke anyone.

I have also been seeing other girls lately that a lot of people wouldn't approve of.
Not that they are bad people but rather the way they dress and live.

It's kind of like bikers who go out with these bike girls. You know the type but except different.

This is something I always wanted to do and am enjoying every minute of it.
After 7 years of bad LTR, it's time to roll I say.

Is this heathly?

It is really hard to pass on an occasion like this but can't help to think how 2 make this work in the mid terms. (What will people think?)

My parents would kill me! Even at 31yo living on my own ;-)

Even though I can adjust my looks, you can tell we are very different people!
She can still behave like a regular person but the looks man...wwooww

I read the post about women to avoid and deviants were one of them.
Although, I have had some deviant practices myself.

Of course, protection and midfullnes about STD's is a TOP PRIORITY for everybody.

Thanks

Hi. While reading your post a thought jump into my mind; Why does he care with other people think of him? I could type hundreds of words explaining my idea's on your problem. This course of action wont be necessary. Live your life the way you want to. Your thirty one my friend.
what mom and dad think shouldn't matter when it comes to your personal life, or is it that you like living on other peoples terms?

 

[bossdog]

do whatever you want to do. just don't change yourself for anybody. if they don't like the real you then **** EM.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

do whatever you want to do. just don't change yourself for anybody. if they don't like the real you then **** EM.

YEAH! Wearing a leather mask, using a horsehair whip and don't forget the lube! :trouble: :moon: :trouble:

 

[yul]

Thats right, the hell with my parents!

Although she doesnt quite wear leather masks, she is alarmingly kinky.
Plus, she is showing NO SIGN of flaking whatsoever. (1 week)

I'll keep working at it but I have to admit having an OK job helps quite a bit.
The attraction skills WILL get your feet the door though.

As far as deviancy goes, lets say it's pretty much anything you can think of except she does find her way back to sanity eventually ;-)

Y

 

[ER!C L!VE]

As far as deviancy goes, lets say it's pretty much anything you can think of except she does find her way back to sanity eventually ;-)

:cheer: beastiality :cheer: scat :cheer: NAMBLA? :cheer: blood play :cheer:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

:cheer: beastiality :cheer: scat :cheer: NAMBLA? :cheer: blood play :cheer:

:cheer: EWWW!! :cheer: EWWW!! :cheer: EWWW!! :cheer: EWWW!! :cheer:

 

[Vulpine]

Don't tell me you are dating the chick that I saw do the donkey show in Juarez a couple years back.

Hide your gerbils.

 

[white sox bill]

Don't tell me you are dating the chick that I saw do the donkey show in Juarez a couple years back.

Hide your gerbils.

Quit talking about my ex gf!!

 

[Bad_Lil'Pixie]

NEVER, say never...

You use the words "deviant practices" like it's a bad thing.

Yul, as long as YOU remain in control, communicate your limits and feel good about offering her trust, you could be on your way to uncovering many of life's darker pleasures.

It is ok to take back the phrase, "I will never do _______________"

Goodness, when I was 8 or 9 years old I swore I NEVER let a man put his mouth "there". Damn, was I ever wrong. Come to think of it, I have taken back the words, "I'll never_________" more times then I can remember.

Now, you are an adult, you CAN eat dessert first, you CAN stay up late and you can play outside of mainstream rules of sex with a consensual woman!

Enjoy and show HER the way!

 

[yul]

HEY! Wait a minute. There are no such things going on as scat and bestiality, this has to be clear ;-0 This is a tad worse than deviance if you ask me.

There is nothing wrong with deviance but some stuff can be a bit freaky at first like 3somes, voyeurism, rough sex etc... so that's why I was asking.

Now, she isn't all that scary anymore after a few days and are getting along just fine ;-)

How long that's going to be , I can't tell.

Thanks for your input guys.

Y

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Goodness, when I was 8 or 9 years old I swore I NEVER let a man put his mouth "there". Damn, was I ever wrong. ...

In your armpit??? Why not just shave???

 

[Hitman10000]

Most likely it'll be a 2-3 month fling, not to rock your boat but people tend to date people who are more alike them. And the longest most loyal couples tend to be two people who are pretty much the same together.

 

[yul]

Most likely it'll be a 2-3 month fling, not to rock your boat but people tend to date people who are more alike them. And the longest most loyal couples tend to be two people who are pretty much the same together.

Hey you may be right but...

We went out in the country yesterday and talked for a long time.
Turns out we have quite a bit in common.

I was rather fearful of the lifestyle but it seems her friends are much worse than she really is.

She does like get banged as often as possible and dresses in black always.

She says she has been like that most of her life.

She also had an very long, steady and faithul relationship that lasted over a decade.

I was happy to find out she is mostly exclusive when it comes to men, contrary to some of her other friends.

So there I am with a sex goddess who has a much more healthy life than I initially thought.

Those high boots do look pretty good too ;-)