Unbelievable twist in this relationship

[DasaniWater]

Hey guys. Heres the deal.

I was in a 6 months relationship with my girl friend. she broke up with me 3 days ago. She told me she had a crush on this guy and liked someone else.

This made me cry and become a AFC.

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

It worked damn well, she called me yesterday and wanted me back, after seeing how happy i was, flirting with girls, playing the game, etc etc etc. So she calls me to go to her house. She told me she doesnt like anyone else but me and is still crazy about me and in love with me.

We make up and I eat her ***** out blah blah blah ( no sex). afterwards she got back into her old self she was 3 days ago. She starts by talking about how we cant be together forever, and how she cant commit because shes only 16 years old and all that crap. Well i really understood her. She went off and said she still had crushes on those other guys, which got me a bit pissed off, but i didnt make it seem like it, because earlier she said she didnt like them anymore and all that crap. So i just said i didnt care if she liked someone else, its human nature to have crushes, what matters is our love. And i asked her if she was willing to give us up just for a crush? And i told her to remember how it felt when she lost me.

So she told me how she couldnt just settle down so soon, how she wanted to experience life, and have freedom still. but she didnt want to lose me. So we made some sort of deal how we would still lvoe eachother and be together but we can flirt and all that crap with other people and be free, but still have eachother, we made adeal not to have sex with anyone else. I didnt like this deal one bit. I mean, if i love someone, why the hell do i wanna be with another girl?? Secondly, it sounds to me like we're just friends with benifits. But we kept kissing and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved eachother she told me how she wanted to marry me but not settle down soo soon and all that.

Okay, so the next day. we said we wouldnt let anyone know we came back together. now we both can do what we want, we dont even hang around as much as we did anymore, we dont talk to eachother the same, it just felt like seh was just a friend... this is what scares me.

How do i handle this? I mean we love eachother a big deal, but she likes other guys and doesnt want ot be tied down. This seems like a friends with benifits sort of thing, but this is what worries me, because since we interact just as friends, talk to eachother just as friends, do we just become friends???? Ive been fooling around and joking about if she met some guy or just as if i was actually encouraging her to go out with somene .. is this wrong? Or does this make me seem confident? Do i go back to my old lovey dovey self? I dont want to, i want to continue being a DJ. But if i dont chase her, or any of that, what if we just become friends???

I would really appreciate it to who anyone who helps, thanks a lot guys.


I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?

 

[Docs]

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Are you telling me you believe that she'll love you forever and marry you, yet for the next 10 years she'll be with other guys, and you'll be left waiting for her to come back.

God damn!

Try for the FB deal, but she isn't a keeper, and you're way too young anyways.

 

[Boschy]

Life is messy. Only you can sort this situation out by deciding what you want and going for it. Put your feelings first, not hers.

Also realise that as long as you are in physical contact with her, i.e. touching and having sexual contact, hormones get stirred up inside you that conflict with the reality of the situation (she wants out or she thinks she does, depending on the day of the week). So if you want to clear your head and carve out a way forward, I recommend no contact of any kind for as long as it takes.

 

[scribblec]

well someone deleted my post... guess good advice doesnt count for **** anymore

basicly said what docs said but in a more blunt way ;\

 

[TxCowboy]

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

So u werent a man before you came here ? ... ok ? .... what's up with that ? ... c'mon dude .. You should always grab your balls and tell yourself that you ARE a man if you ever start feeling like your not!!!! - there's pleny of other girls out there and reason to be tied up on just one ...

Glad to see the DJ tips are working though ... keep chugging along ... just remember to use each relationship as a reminder of what kind of person your looking for and what works best for you & the other person as well as the mistakes to not make again...

-L8rz

 

[Hurrican]

u are what u eat: *****

u should have fuked her instead of letting her dominate u by eating her out

 

[Big Eee Zee]

relationships from when your 16 never result in marriage. just let it go, and dont worry about that for a few years.

 

[Krak]

**** her and leave her I say, that will teach her somethin.

 

[Serialized3]

I suggest stop seeing her and fooling around with her. You seem too emotionally vulnerable to keep getting yo-yo'ed around by your heartstrings by a confused and immature 16 year old girl.

Date another girl.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Hey guys. Heres the deal.

I was in a 6 months relationship with my girl friend. she broke up with me 3 days ago. She told me she had a crush on this guy and liked someone else.

This made me cry and become a AFC.

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

It worked damn well, she called me yesterday and wanted me back, after seeing how happy i was, flirting with girls, playing the game, etc etc etc. So she calls me to go to her house. She told me she doesnt like anyone else but me and is still crazy about me and in love with me.

We make up and I eat her ***** out blah blah blah ( no sex). afterwards she got back into her old self she was 3 days ago. She starts by talking about how we cant be together forever, and how she cant commit because shes only 16 years old and all that crap. Well i really understood her. She went off and said she still had crushes on those other guys, which got me a bit pissed off, but i didnt make it seem like it, because earlier she said she didnt like them anymore and all that crap. So i just said i didnt care if she liked someone else, its human nature to have crushes, what matters is our love. And i asked her if she was willing to give us up just for a crush? And i told her to remember how it felt when she lost me.

So she told me how she couldnt just settle down so soon, how she wanted to experience life, and have freedom still. but she didnt want to lose me. So we made some sort of deal how we would still lvoe eachother and be together but we can flirt and all that crap with other people and be free, but still have eachother, we made adeal not to have sex with anyone else. I didnt like this deal one bit. I mean, if i love someone, why the hell do i wanna be with another girl?? Secondly, it sounds to me like we're just friends with benifits. But we kept kissing and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved eachother she told me how she wanted to marry me but not settle down soo soon and all that.

Okay, so the next day. we said we wouldnt let anyone know we came back together. now we both can do what we want, we dont even hang around as much as we did anymore, we dont talk to eachother the same, it just felt like seh was just a friend... this is what scares me.

How do i handle this? I mean we love eachother a big deal, but she likes other guys and doesnt want ot be tied down. This seems like a friends with benifits sort of thing, but this is what worries me, because since we interact just as friends, talk to eachother just as friends, do we just become friends???? Ive been fooling around and joking about if she met some guy or just as if i was actually encouraging her to go out with somene .. is this wrong? Or does this make me seem confident? Do i go back to my old lovey dovey self? I dont want to, i want to continue being a DJ. But if i dont chase her, or any of that, what if we just become friends???

I would really appreciate it to who anyone who helps, thanks a lot guys.


I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?

Stop being an idiot and call her off on this bullsh*t.

I had a gf say the same sh*t to me last year, when I was stupid, and I actually kinda believed her. Anyway, the point is that if I see her today, she trys to avoid me like the plague. At least I took that *****'s virginity.

Point is, tell her to shutup, grab your balls, and find some quality girls if you want to settle down a little bit.

 

[Life-Trainee]

Let me guess, you didn't make it challenging for her to get you back. I say forget this girl and look elsewhere.

Hey guys. Heres the deal.

I was in a 6 months relationship with my girl friend. she broke up with me 3 days ago. She told me she had a crush on this guy and liked someone else.

This made me cry and become a AFC.

I became a man and began following all the dJ tips etc.

It worked damn well, she called me yesterday and wanted me back, after seeing how happy i was, flirting with girls, playing the game, etc etc etc. So she calls me to go to her house. She told me she doesnt like anyone else but me and is still crazy about me and in love with me.

We make up and I eat her ***** out blah blah blah ( no sex). afterwards she got back into her old self she was 3 days ago. She starts by talking about how we cant be together forever, and how she cant commit because shes only 16 years old and all that crap. Well i really understood her. She went off and said she still had crushes on those other guys, which got me a bit pissed off, but i didnt make it seem like it, because earlier she said she didnt like them anymore and all that crap. So i just said i didnt care if she liked someone else, its human nature to have crushes, what matters is our love. And i asked her if she was willing to give us up just for a crush? And i told her to remember how it felt when she lost me.

So she told me how she couldnt just settle down so soon, how she wanted to experience life, and have freedom still. but she didnt want to lose me. So we made some sort of deal how we would still lvoe eachother and be together but we can flirt and all that crap with other people and be free, but still have eachother, we made adeal not to have sex with anyone else. I didnt like this deal one bit. I mean, if i love someone, why the hell do i wanna be with another girl?? Secondly, it sounds to me like we're just friends with benifits. But we kept kissing and kissing and telling eachother how much we loved eachother she told me how she wanted to marry me but not settle down soo soon and all that.

Okay, so the next day. we said we wouldnt let anyone know we came back together. now we both can do what we want, we dont even hang around as much as we did anymore, we dont talk to eachother the same, it just felt like seh was just a friend... this is what scares me.

How do i handle this? I mean we love eachother a big deal, but she likes other guys and doesnt want ot be tied down. This seems like a friends with benifits sort of thing, but this is what worries me, because since we interact just as friends, talk to eachother just as friends, do we just become friends???? Ive been fooling around and joking about if she met some guy or just as if i was actually encouraging her to go out with somene .. is this wrong? Or does this make me seem confident? Do i go back to my old lovey dovey self? I dont want to, i want to continue being a DJ. But if i dont chase her, or any of that, what if we just become friends???

I would really appreciate it to who anyone who helps, thanks a lot guys.


I dnot want to force her to do anything, or to stick with me, i just want to act in a way where i get her interest level back a great deal where her only crush is on me, without becoming just a friend to her. How can i make this possible?

 

[Socialreject]

u are what u eat: *****

u should have fuked her instead of letting her dominate u by eating her out

That's how i thought of it when i read the post...

I mean, you ate her out... while knowing that there was possibly some other guys **** in there not too long ago... :/

I think you should have made her chase you more instead of giving in at her first request. You can tell she got what she wanted because after you were done eating her out she basically told you she was going back to those other guys.

She played you, used you! You should have made her chase you and if she doesn't it only means you don't mean sh!t to her.

The point is, she screwed up with YOU, she should be the one making it up to you, not the other way around. And i don't mean making it up with 'words' like "oh i was so wrong, i really love you etc". I mean making it up by showing you a good time, and after that you can still keep her as an FB...

You need to be more on your toes around girls games.

 

[d9930380]

Drop her

I'm afraid you acted like a ***** - no offence - we've all done it.

Drop her because she will never have any other impression of you and therefore the relationship is over. She might just have liked you because you where a good guy and you could be used.

Girls use guys for an ego boost - they do it by ****ing with our emotions - guys do it as well by just simply ****ing them