Unable to finish off.

[lorekeeper]

Ok, this is a little embarrassing to post, but whatever, I really need the advice.

I've been sleeping with this chick, she's the first girl I've f-closed. (the others were all mercy lays) It's great, I feel really at ease, I can do all the dirty talk, get her into it, honestly, a LOT better then I thought i would be at it.

The problem is I can't finish off. I did once, but stayed hard, popped on a new condom and continued. Last night she thought I popped a viagra cause i was hard for over 2 hours. I ended up just getting tired and limping out, and was ready to go again in an hour (woke her up, and went at it again)

I KNOW she knows about this because she's been doing something different every time, so I think she's actually looked for advice on how to get me off (each one has been AMAZING!)

I've slept with her maybe 16-20 times in the past 6 days. we're just addicted to banging, but i really need help with this. I've read about stopping masturbating, but I haven't masturbated in over a month (trying to get testosterone for the gym sessions)

I was going to stay away from her today (I haven't been sleeping the past 6 days that much) and fell asleep on the highway driving to work this morning (thank god it was in traffic, and i just nodded off)

but she's sent me a message saying asking if I'm going to the movies tonight with our friends, i said maybe and she replied "

Maybe I'll walk to the theatre and let you drive me home later...

...maybe...if you play your cards right"

I'm glad I'm getting some, and its amazing, but when she tells me "Iwant you to have funn too!" or "do i get my prize now?" when blowing me for 10 min, I start to feel bad.

any advice? It doesn't matter if its a condom or not (don't use a condom for head, but always for vaginal)

 

[kingsam]

lack of sleep or to much alcohol = bad for mr willy

try different positions?

 

[Oxide]

condoms SUCK. I came with a condom exactly 2 times out of all the times I've had sex.

I had to stop and go to bed, or worse drive home with blue balls more than once. I jerked off right after to get rid of it


If anyone knows how to fix this please let me know.

I have stopped jerking off and it still doesn't help

 

[Colossus]

I think this happens to guys who are so used to getting off via masturbation, that the sensation of a girl's mouth or vagina is just too different and they cant make the mental connections to bust a nut. It's not that they necessarily jerk off too much, its that they have conditioned themselves to their own hand.

Three other things that can cause this: condoms, performance anxiety, and alcohol. I HATE condoms. It's like fvcking a sandwich bag. But, it's better than getting an STD.

My advice, Lorekeeper, is too mentally "train" yourself to come with female sensations. Use some visualizing, rhythm, and squeeze your glutes and pelvic diaphragm. Once you get it once, you'll be good.

 

[Oxide]

my advice would be to just put the tip in since its the most sensitive part and work that. And think of a porno. That's how you ***

 

[Kailex]

I wonder if it's because you went from NOTHING to a LOT in no time at all.
From what I understand, it had been a while for you and now you're doing it 3 times a day for an entire week. You might just need a day or two to recover.

 

[lorekeeper]

Update after last night:

I left work early cause I was tired. I texted her i was heading home to take a nap, she should join. She replied that she has BLINDS at her place (day was still out I just moved in, no blinds) so i should come there. she's taking a nap already so she'd leave the front door open.

I walk in, strip down to my boxers, cuddle up against her. 10 min later we're going at it. We use a lot of different positions, she orgasms multiple times (it's so easy to get her off, don't know if she's faking it, but if she is, she's good at it) I tire out, and then we start napping for about 30 min, then go at it again. I finally hit a spot like oxide suggested (but I didnt read these replies) where i was thrusting in just the tip, and ended up finally finishing off.

went and watched a movie, then came back to her place she asked me to sleep over on one condition: "we only have sex once" i told her "no promises" we went at it again, I came again, then fell asleep. and somehow woke up at 4am and I don't remember how it happened, but we ended up having sex again, however I was so beat I pretty much couldn't do anything.

Kingsam: lack of sleep, VERY likely. Alcohol, not so much, I don't drink anymore. (training)

Colossus: Maybe I have been conditioned, I believe this is correct, it just sucks that I haven't masturbated in over a month and still "conditioned" for myself. I hope that after a couple more times I can get it regularly.

your list of 3, along with kingsam's is sorta like i was thinking, I HATE condoms, actually, last night we were semi dry humping (she was cowgirl and rubbing on me) I pulled out a condom, but in the heat of the moment we ended up getting penetration without a condom for a min or so till I came to my senses and told her to get off, and put on a condom. (stupid move)

I might have performance anxiety, but i honestly feel so comfortable with her it's kind of unnerving. I NEVER go outside my comfort zone with women, but when I do with her, it seems natural. (eg: dirty talk, jokes during sex, play fighting and biting, spanking, etc) and I'm starting to get it outside the bedroom too. after she got up one morning, she jumped in the shower and dressed while I was still in bed, absolutely stunning in her business attire. we left for work and I texted her 20 minutes later:"I'm sore, tired and seriously rubbed raw. But all I can think about is hiking up your skirt, tearing off those lacy panties; and having my way with you. Enjoy your day at work! " which is something of the sorts I have NEVER texted/said to anyone before. Glad I did it though, she replied 2 min later: "I think you broke me! My horny switch doesn't turn off!!!" and everything has gotten better, so I think i can strike out PA.

Next try is taking a day of rest, maybe I won't see her tonight.

Oxide: That's what I did the first time I ended up finishing off.

Kailex: I defiantly will be needing rest, I'm really really sore. You're right, I have not been getting that much, aside from the first couple of mercy-****s, I haven't had anything else. I don't know what the average number for two people to have sex is, but we're doing it a lot.

 

[Oxide]

Glad you are having fun. I am sore today too