Ultra Jealous Girlfriend - even threatens to kill herself

[Trance]

Hi guys. I'm having a problem in my current relation that's been going for 10 months. I'm 24 and my GF is 18, which is part of the problem.

Its easy to resume. Its all about jealousy. She cant stand that i can make/have female friends, neither that i go out at night without her with my friends when she cant come along.
Every time i wanted to go out to a bar, club or something of a kind, either in a birthday party of one of my friends, either in a college party, she would cry out saying that she's not in first place, that she does everything i want her to do, and that i dont do what she asks me to do (not going out ever without her or have female friends). Obviously this is impossible.

Dont think i didnt have all the talking with her about trust, over and over, that she has to trust me, that its not because i spend time with my friends i care less about her, or that im gona be ever involved with other girl, which i wont!! I already broke up once but we got back together. She threatned to kill herself, and she does that sometimes, and i believe she is capable of that!

Dont get me wrong, i really like this girl, i think she has a lot of potential for a relation, i'm sure she'll grow up in the jealousy issues, but right now how can i handle this?
What i would like would be to change her and have a great time with her without arguing about jealousy issues from her, but i've been trying and trying. And if i show that i wont step back in my position, she threatens to kill herself.


This is a briefing of the situation, i'll feedback any questions and relevant informations asked.
I'm going through a bad time, advice will be most apreciated, thx guys.

 

[Marlimus]

She threatned to kill herself, and she does that sometimes

lol:crackup:

sorry man. but hey, the most humane way to get rid of a female is by being XTREMELY NICE to her. Call her 5 times a day, every day. Send flowers every other day. Do whatever she wants to do, and act look a total, lovesick, spinelss *****. Trust me. Let her think she can take you for granted/ Let her get bored with you.

If that doesn't work, then introduce her to the most handsome guy friend you have.

 

[&UWlNoMeByThTrlOPusy]

tell her she quits the jealousy shyt or you walk. dont put up with thiis, let her realise there are a million girls not-psycko.

 

[penkitten]

she is so afraid of not having total control that she threatens you to the extent of taking her own life to make you do what she wants.
this is probally very tiring for you , isnt it?
if she dies it again, tell her to stop with her crazy meaningless threats to control you or go get fekked.
that should get your point across.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

People who really are going to kill themselves don’t talk about it they just do it.

If YOU don’t like how she’s acting then dump the b1tch

Personally if my GF said that I would. But everybody’s different.

Also why the h3ll are you going to club’s?

I don’t blame her for her getting up set about that.

It’s one thing if you are going to go to a plain o’ bar to have a few drinks with a bud or two.

But not club’s or single bars. People go to clubs and bars to not only to have fun and dance but also mainly to get laid.

She’s 18 and can’t even go if she wanted too so come on bro.

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One thing is for sure is that you got wrong view on things and that is trying to change a b1tch.

Ain’t goin to happen!

She’s jealous and immature nothing you can do or say is going to change that.

Only she can.

For whatever reason you broke up and got together that was to me first mistake.

Its only going to get worse hear on out.

If your not happy then bail.

Be a MAN about it and just say “ITS OVER!” and move on.

No games no gay crap like pretending to go AFC crap that’s just as immature as her.

Just end it like a MAN.

 

[Trance]

I went to a club like 3 or 4 times since we started. Once it was college year end and i went out with all my college friends, other was in my brothers birthday party since everyone else in the group went along, and also in a college party that everyone goes.
One thing is going club all the time, other is in these ocasions, when you want to have some time together with your friends.

But imagine this.
She even gets jealous if i get seated next to a girl even with her at my side! She even asked me to switch places with her once because we were 8 in a table, and of the side i seated there was a girl on my right!! And when i go to dinners, she doesnt want me to be seated next to any girl, and wants to know what girls were in the dinner!!
Now imagine what its like if i go to a bar, of even to a simple cofee at night with a couple of friends..

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Women are supposed to be the ones to maintain a relationship. Either by paying for dinners and stuff in exchange for our protection. It should never be the other way around nor should she be the one to force you in this way to maintain the relationship.

Btw, you are fcking delusional to think that it's a good relationship if a girl threatens to kill her self for you. She's one of those types that would pull a gun on you and then off herself in the process. Scary shat. I would be totally AFC to her and run when she finally dumps you.

 

[JonJack]

Originally posted by Trance
I went to a club like 3 or 4 times since we started. Once it was college year end and i went out with all my college friends, other was in my brothers birthday party since everyone else in the group went along, and also in a college party that everyone goes.
One thing is going club all the time, other is in these ocasions, when you want to have some time together with your friends.

But imagine this.
She even gets jealous if i get seated next to a girl even with her at my side! She even asked me to switch places with her once because we were 8 in a table, and of the side i seated there was a girl on my right!! And when i go to dinners, she doesnt want me to be seated next to any girl, and wants to know what girls were in the dinner!!
Now imagine what its like if i go to a bar, of even to a simple cofee at night with a couple of friends..

Usually I don't say this, but dude, you got to dump this girl. Her insecurity is on a level that is incredibly dangerous. She then decides to alleviate her insecurities by trying to force you to do the things that would make her feel better. And you know what the worst part is? Worst part is that you don't like doing the things she wants you to do.

I truly believe this girl is too far gone in her insecurities that it will only make her more difficult to be with the longer you stay together.

 

[Snowyk]

I lose all respect for anyone who threatens to kill themselves over a relationship.

It is the ultimate guilt trip. A "be with me, or bear the guilt of having indirectly killed me"

You cannot stay with her man.

Regardless of how you feel now, it will wind up you feel stuck with her out of guilt. That's the plan.

Walk.

It's the best option. Even if you give her an ultimatum, it's hardly going to change anything.

Seriously man. Go out and find someone who is not quite as crazy.

 

[Trance]

You are right about the ultimatum not working. When i said i broke up, i told her i couldnt stand all the jealousy anymore and it was over. She told me she would change. Didnt happen :/

Im sorry things are like this, i know she really likes me, and when we spend the day together its really great and i feel i love her so much. But when i do something else beside being with her its always the same thing. You guys can see the picture :/

 

[Trance]

bump

 

[( . )( . )]

Whats the problem here? Yeah shes insecure but most chicks are..BIG DEAL. Her drama is exactly that HER drama.

The only problem I see is you were dumb enough to enter her reality and "talk" with her about this sh!t and pander to her insecurities. Big mistake.

If anything by giving her the gift of insecurity your doing the b!tch a public service and she should be thanking you, its what they live for. Stop thinking with a male brain in this regard.

Shes 18 dude, which means by default EVERYTHING is only temporary and random as it is with her, tack on a few more years of growing up, her snapping out of her oneitis (which she will), add in a few guys who out Alpha you and shes going to start to sample other c@ck soon enough anyway.

Just tap it, she starts that sh!t and you shut her off totally, reward her by NOT entertaining her nonsense.

 

[Trance]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
Shes 18 dude, which means by default EVERYTHING is only temporary and random as it is with her, tack on a few more years of growing up, her snapping out of her oneitis (which she will), add in a few guys who out Alpha you and shes going to start to sample other c@ck soon enough anyway.

No one out alpha's me. Its all about looks, mindset and providing amazing sex.

 

[Socialreject]

Originally posted by Trance
No one out alpha's me. Its all about looks, mindset and providing amazing sex.

LOL...

Good mindset! Not very wise though. There is always someone better at you... even if you are the olympic champ of alpha males.

Seriously though... Time to get out of kindergarden. Do you really think this girl is mature and a worthy mate? Shes a total control freak, totally insecure and totally full of it. She is AFC in the worst possible way :s

So uhm, get out before you end up with a preggo test that turned blue because she kinda sorta 'forgot' to take her BC pills...

 

[blueangel83]

Damn :crackup: that's sad.

She seems like a crazy girl thinking about killing herself "sometimes".

Why don't you take her along with you when you go out?

 

[Trance]

We go out together every saturday night. THe other nights she cant because of her father. Those couple of night i went out alone, she couldnt go out either because she was out with her parents or something of a kind. And everytime she cant go out, she wants me to sit at home because she cant go out.

 

[DJDamage]

Originally posted by OneArmDeeJay
Also why the h3ll are you going to club’s?

I don’t blame her for her getting up set about that.

It’s one thing if you are going to go to a plain o’ bar to have a few drinks with a bud or two.

But not club’s or single bars. People go to clubs and bars to not only to have fun and dance but also mainly to get laid.

I don't agree. If the guy wants to go to clubs he should go. He is a big boy he can take care of himself and not cheat. He is the man of the relationship if the woman doesn't like that she can walk away, but this one DOESN'T!

As for Trance Situation, you got a double edged sword situation in which you cannot win. If you continue to see her and do your own thing then eventually her nagging,crying and insecurities will drive you insane.

If you bow down to her unreasnoble demands and insecurities, not only will you end up like a chump and lose your identity, you will eventually lose her anyway because she will lose respect for you.

If a girl fears that she is going to lose you because other girls want you THEN THAT IS A GOOD THING! that is how most girs determine the value of a guy. The fear of losing him to another woman will ensure that she will do anything in her powers to make him happy. That is why in some marriages many women let themselves go (get fat,naggy and lazy) because they have already have control (ball and chain) over the guy and they know he cannot just leave for another woman because there will be repercussions (divorce).

Dump this girl and find a good one. You don't need her to drag you down, you can do better and you know it and she knows it. As for her threatning to kill herself, that is her problem not yours. Everyone makes their own choices in life. Do you really want to be with someone who threatens you?

 

[00Kevin]

Lol.. I did this exact same thing at your age.

Let me tell you and everyone else here what is going on.

1. This girl is 18. she is pure of heart and uncorrupted.
3. When she becomes 19 she will start on her path to slutdom.
4. Slutdom won't start to end until 23ish or so.

This girl is basically never going to amount to much for you. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't.

If you give her everything she wants she will go off and bang other men.

If you fail to give her what she wants she will feel betrayed use it as an exuse to bang other men.

don't you know that you can't win with women?

I would be honest with this girl and tell her what I just said. See how she reacts to it. Tell her that she has to prove her self to you.

And there is one question that always snaps these girls out of it.

Ask her this. "If I we ended up getting married and I was the only guy you had ever had sex with how would you feel?"