Ugh oh... (not a complaining AFC topic)

[AlexParadox]

So me and this girl were having sex today,
and lets just say i was having some problems

i was having difficulty staying hard, and difficulty getting any kind of "im gonna erupt" feelings.

so i remember reading some topics a while ago about guys having the same problems. but the thing is, i masturbate infrequently, and dont look at porn much either.

maybe i need to entirely stop masturbating? or not enough foreplay?

advice is greatly appreciated

for the record, it wasnt my first time, and it wasnt her first time

 

[Bryce556]

cheers to the day soon when i have this problem , but no advice from me here on this one. Arent sex questions sopose to be in the H&F forum?

 

[drummer]

Was it close to your first time though? I ask this because I had this problem when I started and it was due to me being anxious about how much fun she was having and how it was for her. One day I just stopped caring so much about it, let it happen, and everything worked out. I recently had sex with that girl again and it was so much better. So just stop worrying so much and have a little fun.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Problems like these are mostly psychological. Usually happens when you're feeling very nervous and you do your best to keep her satisfied, or when you're cheating on your girlfriend or you have another girl on your mind.

 

[longlifexs]

I had this problem twice in my life. Once was my first time, so I guess it was caused by all the stress and ****. And when it happened for the second time, there was no apparent reason for it (it was after a very passionate foreplay and everything was going awesome up to that point), until I realised that there was a very similar music playing from the girl's phone as the one that played from her stereo on the previous time. Perhaps the music reminded me of the old situation and started some subconscious processes that led to the same problem.

Anyway, the reason I'm writing this is to show you that there might be many reasons for this, even very small ones (something making you recall a previous negative experience for instance) that might eventually lead to this. How to prevent it is a different question, but my point is that - especially if you never had this problem before - it almost certainly is psychological. So stopping masturbastion at all wouldn't help..or at least not in the sense ofto removing the primary cause (whatever it is).

I'd say that if you concentrate on the girl and on BOTH of you having fun and ignore any possible worries or distracting stuff arround, you should be fine.

The last two posts are good too.

 

[yungahdubz]

Sure your not gay?

 

[john paul]

Sure your not gay?

Its a legit problem, virgin.


For some reason I get the feeling its going to happen to me when the time comes if the location isnt right. When my girlfriend has tryed to get me off while in her house she has never even cume close to finishing me. And Im about 69% sure it was the fact that her dad was in the house. Something about that 6 foot 2, 240 plus man only a couple rooms away makes me uneasy.

Never in a million years could I have sex in her house if her dad is around, even if hes sleeping.

So I guess what Im saying is maybe your location was what caused it.

 

[AlexParadox]

Thanks alot for the replies guys
it may have been mental,
or just not an "up" day
maybe i was worried about whats going to happen after, since i was screwing a girl that is in a 16 month relationship (going down the hill i might add). I didnt feel nervous, and the mood was extremely relaxed.
Guess all i can do is give it another shot and see what happens.

but glad to know im not the only one

Originally Posted by yungahdubz
Sure your not gay?

Considering i was fvcking a girl, id like to think no

 

[Bawb14]

Something about that 6 foot 2, 240 plus man only a couple rooms away makes me uneasy.
Never in a million years could I have sex in her house if her dad is around, even if hes sleeping.

omg. so true. so true!:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

 

[AlexParadox]

in my opinion - which im sure you all will disagree with, 16 is just too young to be having sex man. is say at least 18, then you will definitely not have any 'problems' as your testosterone and **** will be through the roof.

hmmm yeah...

 

[J Bay Bay]

True Story: I had a girls dad pull out a gun on me in middle school (never pointed it at me), scared the living hell out of me, lets just say she wasn't on her knees praying when he walked in. So her bro took me home him laughing his *** off the whole way to my house. I wouldn't do anything with girls until I knew for sure the dad would be out for awhile.