Turning a sex buddy into a girlfriend. Is it possible?

[d9930380]

Or do they run a mile when they think that might be happening.

Basically is it worth risking losing a sex buddy by saying you have deeper feelings for her.

The girl I'm thinking about has had a long term relationship (4 years, she's 24) but I get the feeling that it ended badly and doesn't want to risk being hurt yet.

Allthough, I don't even want to bring that up as she hates anything serious, she just wants to have some fun.

 

[milrenkb]

Yes. However they should iniate the negotiations so to speak. Do not bring this up, if you do she will do the one mile sprint for the sole purpose of getting away from you. Look, you should know by now that we can't directly convince women to do anything outside of going along with our plans. If she brings it up then you will know that shes more than comfortable with taking things to that level and you won't have to worry about her becoming a flake.

 

[Tomatoes]

Depends how long you have been together. I would leave it she is going to run a mile....most the time this happens in a Sex buddy situation....one of them develops feelings while the other doesnt. I would be very cautious of how to play this one.....its prob not worth losing a shag buddy for.

Drop sutile hints if anything.....Graduate it over time....dont rush in.

You need to see if she has developed feelings for you....if not then you know to put the brakes on and just leave things how they are

 

[flexion_]

Nope.

 

[Bronxtal112]

I'm in the same situtation as we speak. It's actually not a good situtation to be in. Time will tell.

 

[omgwtfm8]

Try holding off on sex and hang out with her without having sex for a week or two. See if it bothers her if you're not having sex all the time.

 

[AngelusPUA]

Take her out on a date and don't have sex.

 

[ntdawg]

I have the opposite problem. How do you keep a fvck buddy from developing feelings for us. I want to keep shagging this girl. I don't want to date her. I'm not to keen on breaking her heart either.

If I think she is starting to get attached I disappear for a couple of weeks. Anyone got other ideas?

 

[Krassus]

Yea, thats what happened with my last gf (now my ex). I've seen other people do it too. Not exactly difficult either. I mean, you're already fcking her.

 

[DonJuanByNature]

there was a reason why you were only sex buddies and not into relationship...

i.e. if you meet a girl and both like each other and they click a relationship forms... this didnt happen to you for a reson.... (i.e. if you guys go into a relationship, it will not last...) first of, would you want to marry a girl who is okay with having fck buddies???? think about it seriously.. cause in a way, that is an example of sepperating sex (physical) from emotion, which means why not have an affair down the road???

keep it as a fck buddy... if you want a LTR, look elseware..

 

[theNEWDJ]

dude, what about the other way around? How do you turn your girlfriend int oyour **** buddy?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Off course it is possible. Actually, that is the easiest way for a man to take control of the relationship right from the start. Agree with the above poster who said that she should be the one intitiating any attempt at gf type of dynamic. If she doesn't see you as boyfriend type of material, it has nothing to do with the fact that you started a sex buddies, and everything to do with the fact that she doesn't consider you good enough, and wants to keep your options open.

She might not say it directly, but she'll make comments to you, she'll want to spend more time with you. It all depends of the type of dynamic you have. If she already agrees to spend 2-3 days a week with you, there is a good chance that she already sees the boyfriend/girlfriend dynamic going on; that is the smoothest way

To summarize, yes, that is the easiest transition for a man, to go from sex buddy to boyfriend,if he's done things right and not act like a needy,clingy wuss that many become once they get dominated by the puss.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

there was a reason why you were only sex buddies and not into relationship...

i.e. if you meet a girl and both like each other and they click a relationship forms... this didnt happen to you for a reson.... (i.e. if you guys go into a relationship, it will not last...) first of, would you want to marry a girl who is okay with having fck buddies???? think about it seriously.. cause in a way, that is an example of sepperating sex (physical) from emotion, which means why not have an affair down the road???

keep it as a fck buddy... if you want a LTR, look elseware..

What an ignorant piece of work this guy is. Listen to me junior, and I know you got your ass banned, EVERY WOMAN HAS, DOES, OR WILL HAVE a sex buddy between LTR's, and it is usually the ex, or somebody that she has/is comfortable with. Not talking about how things should be, or what is ideal, or any of that unrealistic crap that torments too many people here, I am talking about the way things really are, in the real world, not in your imagined peanut head.

 

[Makro2323]

Yes, I agree, it's easy. And I also find that it's usually women who get more involved than men when it comes to this sort of thing (ie. women usually seem to find it harder to separate pure sex from emotional sex). For all you know she is already harbouring feelings for you. The best thing to do would be to carry on for a while as sex buddies and see how things go. Eventually a time will come when you will both have to decide what to do.

 

[Bonhomme]

GOL was right on. The more difficult problem is keeping it within the FB realm, if that's what you want. Such situations will gravitate toward relationship status.