I have been reading sosuave.com recently, and seems like the advice in a nut shell is to be bold and confident.
I work at a university which is full of attractive female graduate students (who at times are a little arrogant!). When I started this job, I noticed that this one student was checking me out. Both times I ran into her, I noticed she would go out of her way to make eye contact and give me one of those "smiles". But I was new at my job, and universities tend to be a bit conservative about staff mingling with students for no reason, so I didn't bother.
I work in adminstration and hardly ever have a reason to talk to students. One time that girl was working just 3 offices down from me on some faculty project, but we never got to talk.
So anyway, 3 weeks ago I run into her. Encouraged by reading SoSuave.com, I said hello, and asked her where she is from (she is a foreign student). She seemed a bit excited that I was talking to her. Turned out, me and her grew up in the same country because both our dads worked there. Well we talked about that for atleast 45 minutes. She had to go to class, and left in a hurry. A week later I see her again, I talk to her, joke around and ask for her AIM screen name. I didn't ask for phone number, because I wanted to keep things casual.
I IM'd her a couple of days ago, and we chatted off and on for about 1.5 hours. I was excited. But then I noticed the following days that she sees me online but never IMs me. She saw me online 2 days ago, but didn't IM me. Neither did I, because as I was thinking if she is interested, she would want to talk to me.
So I am really confused. I got a positive signal from her a week ago, but now it seems she doesn't want to IM me. I don't want to be the one showing interest in her, when she doesn't even care.
Maybe it's just that I put too my emphasis on who IMs first, and some people probably don't even care about talking online.
I hardly ever get anywhere with girls. I get their phone number, talk to them and that is about how far I ever go. They are always "busy" when I ask them to do something. I don't want that to happen again.
I work at a university which is full of attractive female graduate students (who at times are a little arrogant!). When I started this job, I noticed that this one student was checking me out. Both times I ran into her, I noticed she would go out of her way to make eye contact and give me one of those "smiles". But I was new at my job, and universities tend to be a bit conservative about staff mingling with students for no reason, so I didn't bother.
I work in adminstration and hardly ever have a reason to talk to students. One time that girl was working just 3 offices down from me on some faculty project, but we never got to talk.
So anyway, 3 weeks ago I run into her. Encouraged by reading SoSuave.com, I said hello, and asked her where she is from (she is a foreign student). She seemed a bit excited that I was talking to her. Turned out, me and her grew up in the same country because both our dads worked there. Well we talked about that for atleast 45 minutes. She had to go to class, and left in a hurry. A week later I see her again, I talk to her, joke around and ask for her AIM screen name. I didn't ask for phone number, because I wanted to keep things casual.
I IM'd her a couple of days ago, and we chatted off and on for about 1.5 hours. I was excited. But then I noticed the following days that she sees me online but never IMs me. She saw me online 2 days ago, but didn't IM me. Neither did I, because as I was thinking if she is interested, she would want to talk to me.
So I am really confused. I got a positive signal from her a week ago, but now it seems she doesn't want to IM me. I don't want to be the one showing interest in her, when she doesn't even care.
Maybe it's just that I put too my emphasis on who IMs first, and some people probably don't even care about talking online.
I hardly ever get anywhere with girls. I get their phone number, talk to them and that is about how far I ever go. They are always "busy" when I ask them to do something. I don't want that to happen again.
