Dude as Sp1kez said…in some areas you’re over analyzing. Before I lay down the specifics of the answer for you, ill give you a basic rule:
Whether a thing is IOI/IOD etc. it must be seen in the context of what you say. Individual phrases do not make up an IOI/IOD etc alone. Use your head.
Below are my opinions to some of your phrases.
1. “What’s your name?”
I for one definitely don’t think it to be an IOI. An opener all right, but what interest do you show by saying this? It’s been asked to her by at least a million people ever since she learnt to speak.
This one not field tested but, changing the context a bit, you could also use it to eject out of a set. You can say something like “Hey I gotta go, why don’t you give me your no. and ask for her name (if you haven’t asked her already)
2. “You’re not that fat”
This one is a neg, only for girls who know and believe they are slim. The problem usually in High School / College is that, most (99%) girls think they are not slim, even when they are literally malnourished. So use this one with caution, you might fed her insecurity and not make her feel good. What does this mean? Well simply put, you don’t get the girl.
This one may be a compliment too on a girl who is slightly fat (because she thinks she is REALLY fat compared to others). You use this line on her, your neg wont hit, as she will take it as a compliment
3. “Nice eyes.”
Again to one who know their eyes are too big or whatever, this may come off fake or even insulting.
4. Doesn’t keep convo going
IOD definitely. She doesnt want to talk to you. My major sticking point. I used to talk a lot to fill the silence gap. Pull back. I would recommend you stay silent and force her to speak, else eject by saying “Hey, I gotta go meet my friends. Nice talking to you. Bye” and BOOM out you go.
I read this somewhere rightly: If a girl pulls back , you pull back too.
5. Doesn’t keep eyes on you
An IOD maybe. Can’t really say. But one thing must be remembered. Humans also dart around their eyes to be “aware” of what’s going around them. And remember , this is usually a male tendency. If she darts her eyes around, it could mean there are more interesting things than you going on around her. IMHO Step up your game, or eject.
6. She’s asking what I think of her on certain things - Action - .
She's vents to me about something - Action - ? (I think this is danger of entering friend zone, but I don't know what category this would fall into?)
She tells me when she thinks I'm lying - Action - ?
These are questions mostly asked in comfort.
Things like IOI /IOD are more of attraction stuff. These questions would mean of course she is comfortable to share things with you.
Again… use your head , while comming to a conclusion based on the context in which it is used.
7. She tells me more about herself without my asking - Action - Qualifying herself?
An IOI, especially in stage of attraction. Later on…..well no idea
The bottom line is this….don’t go by the text book...use your freaking head while looking for IOI’s IOD’s , compliance tests etc. Compliance tests are found even in comfort. A woman repeatedly tests you to know whether you are supplicating to her or not. And if you do, well you’re out. Caveat: Don’t be a social robot, and never jump through her “hoops”. Its ok to do so once a while, provided she jumps through your hoops too...
Anyways these are my personal opinions. Feel free to criticize them.
