Lately I've been really making an effort to take Facebook/social media more seriously and already I'm seeing some of the benefits of doing so... This post is more about general social proof, which may or may not translate to success with the ladies.
I've run into the challenge where even though I have a bunch of my friends and college friends on my Facebook, my profile seems to be lifeless. By lifeless, I mean that I am the only one putting effort into putting stuff on there. It goes a bit further than that.
Disclaimer: Please no smart alec comments about why not to use Facebook or Facebook sucks or "this is why I don't use Facebook" etc. I've already made a decision to use Facebook and recognize it's value. I'm asking about how to better use Facebook, not whether I want to use it or not. If you don't have anything constructive to say about it then it's better to save your effort and not waste time.
I'm the only one who seems to be adding people and sending friend requests. I always get accepted, but I'm wondering why I'm the only one initiating. Of course, I know hot girls always have requests coming in and everything and I don't expect it to be at that level, but I'm wondering how I can develop a more welcoming profile where people want to add me and so it isn't one-sided. What kind of vibe do I need to be giving in real life? or online? It's perplexing... For instance, the girl I last boned really likes me and is kind of attached. Yet she never added me on Facebook, I waited two weeks and requested to add her and she happily accepted. I don't understand how people who even like me a lot rarely initiate the friend request when they know I have Facebook.
Another issue, people rarely ever take pictures of me, and if they do, they never make the effort to tag me, so I usually have to somehow find them and tag myself. A lot of times it's hard to find them, and if I do, I have to initiate everything once again. My profile is 90% pictures I had to take or ask someone to take with my camera (or taken by family). Meanwhile, I notice there are some people who wherever they go or do, someone is taking pictures for them and tagging them. They could be taking a **** and someone is still getting a picture of them and uploading it. It's unreal. Their profile is full of life and people are constantly commenting on stuff. Not sure what they do that differently, whatever it is, I don't see it. I know in real life they don't go around asking people to take pictures of them... It just happens spontaneously.
About me: I'm a fairly attractive guy. A lot of girls say I look young and cute. Slim but work out, more cut than big. Slightly taller than average. I have no problem getting girls, it's just that I never feel like I am "in" the social circle if you know what I mean. I'm not the life of the party but I usually contribute more than take from it. I'm pretty laid back and sociable so I don't know why this is harder than it seems it should be. I am not that photogenic but it's something I'm working on. I recently moved so I've been really focusing on just expanding my social circle since I don't know many people around here.
So aside from people looking at my actual profile, does anyone have any general advice as to how to make some progress here regarding Facebook? What vibe should I be giving out? What gets people to want to take pictures with you? etc.
I've run into the challenge where even though I have a bunch of my friends and college friends on my Facebook, my profile seems to be lifeless. By lifeless, I mean that I am the only one putting effort into putting stuff on there. It goes a bit further than that.
Disclaimer: Please no smart alec comments about why not to use Facebook or Facebook sucks or "this is why I don't use Facebook" etc. I've already made a decision to use Facebook and recognize it's value. I'm asking about how to better use Facebook, not whether I want to use it or not. If you don't have anything constructive to say about it then it's better to save your effort and not waste time.
I'm the only one who seems to be adding people and sending friend requests. I always get accepted, but I'm wondering why I'm the only one initiating. Of course, I know hot girls always have requests coming in and everything and I don't expect it to be at that level, but I'm wondering how I can develop a more welcoming profile where people want to add me and so it isn't one-sided. What kind of vibe do I need to be giving in real life? or online? It's perplexing... For instance, the girl I last boned really likes me and is kind of attached. Yet she never added me on Facebook, I waited two weeks and requested to add her and she happily accepted. I don't understand how people who even like me a lot rarely initiate the friend request when they know I have Facebook.
Another issue, people rarely ever take pictures of me, and if they do, they never make the effort to tag me, so I usually have to somehow find them and tag myself. A lot of times it's hard to find them, and if I do, I have to initiate everything once again. My profile is 90% pictures I had to take or ask someone to take with my camera (or taken by family). Meanwhile, I notice there are some people who wherever they go or do, someone is taking pictures for them and tagging them. They could be taking a **** and someone is still getting a picture of them and uploading it. It's unreal. Their profile is full of life and people are constantly commenting on stuff. Not sure what they do that differently, whatever it is, I don't see it. I know in real life they don't go around asking people to take pictures of them... It just happens spontaneously.
About me: I'm a fairly attractive guy. A lot of girls say I look young and cute. Slim but work out, more cut than big. Slightly taller than average. I have no problem getting girls, it's just that I never feel like I am "in" the social circle if you know what I mean. I'm not the life of the party but I usually contribute more than take from it. I'm pretty laid back and sociable so I don't know why this is harder than it seems it should be. I am not that photogenic but it's something I'm working on. I recently moved so I've been really focusing on just expanding my social circle since I don't know many people around here.
So aside from people looking at my actual profile, does anyone have any general advice as to how to make some progress here regarding Facebook? What vibe should I be giving out? What gets people to want to take pictures with you? etc.
