Actually, a person wo thinks like that, and I know this first hand dealing with mjy very own father, a person that tries to equate sex with winning, is actually a person with very low self worth.
I'm going to outline to a T how this person thinks, again, beucase i've dealt with it my entire life.
this is a person who realizes early on in life, that success in life, is either 1. out of his grasp or 2. too much work for him to put any effort into.
I look at the human physque and I draw a funny but true parrall to college football recruiting. WTF you might say but hear me out lol. Every school at the end of the day, is going to try to paint their college recruiting class as exactly what they need and they are one step closer to whatever their goal may be. while the alabama's and lsu's of the world might be fighting it out for the top class in the country, a team like arkansas for isntance,takes a bunch of long rangy athletes with upside that have not played alot of football, that's petrinos recruiting philsopy. so even though we never have a GREAT recruiting class by rivals standards, we feel good about our class based off what we get.
you go a notch lower and look at a class like, mississippi state. they are content with beating out the instate schools (souther miss and ole miss) for recruits. at the end of the day they might only have a top 40 class, but they signed 11 out of the top 20 in state, they are happy and like the directoin the school is going
you go a notch lower to say, arknasas state. while they might not have a top 100 class, if they can sign all the in state players that the major schools could not sign and maybe a fringe player or two from in state, they are very happy with the direction of their school.
my point being that, everyone at the end of the day wants to feel gooda bout themselves. that's the point.
"sex man" gets this "good feeling" or learns early on, he can have status and feel good about himself by racking up notches on the bed post.
you will often find that a guy like this, is extremely conservative in other matters. they usually have a pretty mudane yet secure job. They won't go broke anytime soon but they won't be running a company any time soon. not because they aren't smart but because they don't want to take the risk or because they don't feel they are up to par. The more effort you put into bettering your career, the more notches on the bed post.
My dad and I just started speaking again after like 5 years, he took it too far. he tried to **** a girlfriend of mine.. lol, twice. and he was marred.
I know enough now, it had nothing to do with her being hot (she was). he ****s hot women all the time. He doesn't like the fact that his son is more successful then him. so he figures he's going to try to prove to himself that he's still a catch by ****ing my GF. That's how guys like this think. it's all about women because that's the only way they can measure
but the thing is, when you go down this path, you are putting a limit on the quality of woman you can get for quantity. There is nothing wrong my step mom. she's actually quite pretty, she's a RN, she's not stupid, etc... but she probably would be no more than a back up plate in a different world if I met her.. she's way too materialistic, too mainstream, doesn't think for herself, etc, and she had a daughter already when she met my dad. My wife wouldn't' give my dad the time of day although she "sees where i get my looks from"
My point being, is more times than not when people equate sex in a binary fashion like this, they are usually overcompensating for something else and that something else. The last time I spoke with dad.. my dad has been going to the race track all his life and in less than 10 years i take it up as a full time job and i can run circles aroud him. that has to ****ing suck lol. I had just b ought a new car, business is going great, about to get married... and he's talking about and showing pictures of women he's ****ed recently. woop dee ****ing doo dad.
it's actually quite sad.
