trouble with a single mom help

[iturbide1981]

The reason I love this site is because you can put a thought and I can check it like in 2 days and get a lot of good feedback.

well here it goes I meet this hot panamenian single mom in the club..of course at the time I did not know she was a single mom...

1st week (saturday)first she came up to me and told me if I dance....said yes 30 minutes later i was making out in the dance floor.
exchange phone numbers

thrusday I invited her to our first date..was great took her later to a local sports bar but she did want to come in....she stay with me in the car and we just made out again.

as the conversation continue....I told her that I wasnt interested just getting inside her pants but it seem the more I told her that the more she wanted too..I told her I wanted to take it slow..and shes like how slow...lol....
ok for now all cute and stuff...

2nd week...Invited her to a club with my friends and cousins...made out ...and at the end we had sex....

tuesday of the 3rd week...she went to panama to ba baptism everything was great....
till I call her....and she started telling me that she was thinking about me and stuff( previous to that we kind of talk every day for at least 1 hour on the phone..)

the she mention that if I had a steady job (which was stablish since the beggining ) because she want a steady future and I am like

dont you think youre rushing a little and she got all defensive telling me that I am not as interested as her and shes telling me I dont know what I want...
and I am like ...???? i want to get to know you first and by confusion I said bye...and shes like what you dont want to talk to me anymore...ok thats fine dont call me ...dont email me...thats ok...and then shes like never mind lets just start over ....

I know whats youre thinking right...men grow balls or men....if it makes you unhappy leaver this and that...but yeah i guess i did confuse her at first telling her I wanted to take it slow and get to know her ...but know shes like what are we and i really really like her but if she is to selfish to notice my dificient disorder in this type of relationships well I guess i should just stop trying....

and trust me I dont have a girl problem or self esteem issues..is just that shes really good looking and i guess she was sincere on a lot of things we talk about...
so let me know what youll think and give some advice...

last...and not least...i am piss on the fact that in a way shes forcing me to rush things....but she said it very clearly...call me if you want...or ill call you...
since I know that I am better potition to bargain do you think that I should just ignore and let her know that I am not going to be a puppet that she expects...

feedback..please and sorry for any mispellings and if I need to explain something let me know

 

[COD]

GROW SOME BALLS..........JUST KIDDING.........butt U seem to be suffering from what I call Vagina-Itis. More commonly none as 1-itis syndrome. Oldschool Don Juans would say P Ussy whipped in the worst degree.

Newbies would say NEXT, players would scream spin more plates.....and on some level their on the right track.

See the above scenario is why you don't just domesticate once you fornicate...TRANSLATION........date more women, let her come to you, if she don't you are already sarging your next target.

DUDE.........she is just 1 of many more to come (pun intended).

THIS AINT THE GET A GIRLFRIEND BECOME A WUSS BOARD.......do u want to shag multiple women or just one.

 

[Warrior74]

pull back a bit. You know single moms can be out to complete their pre frabricated families. Why would she be rushing you? You dig? Use your DJ brain. How did she become a single mom? What her dating history? What sort of guys does she go for? What was her baby daddy like? How did she grow up? These are all things you try to learn on dates to figure out what sort of person she is. You have to listen. Use that info to try to deduce her motives. If you haven't been with her long enuff to find that sort of stuff out...don't give her any importance because she could be anyone. You don't know her. Just shag her and do what you do.

"If you had a steady job" what? She would marry you? She would be yours? Explain that better.

Date a few other girls.

Remember this. You met her the club. You made out quickly. You are bringing her around your friends and relatives. You are spending lots of time with her. You talk to her alot on the phone. You see where I'm going with this? What message does your actions send? Do they send the message, I really like you and I'm ready to move forward fast. Or I want to take my time and get to know you? You jumped into relationship mode quick. like the other poster said.

The problem is...you never decided what you wanted from this chic from the beginning. If you want her for a sex buddy or a girlfriend.

Unless a girl is vetted by my social circle and friends, and I meet her in the club, I figure she's just some club svlt out for a shag.

 

[iturbide1981]

hey...

thanks a lot cod, and warrior 74 for your advice.
for your replys...

thanks ...

 

[Rhoto]

Just say no to single mothers. They've already made a mistake, you don't want to have to pay for it, or make another.

 

[AKA FLEX]

Just say no to single mothers. They've already made a mistake, you don't want to have to pay for it, or make another.

Agreed. I've hooked up with my share of MILF's, and while it's exciting at first, most of them are nothing but trouble/drama.