Trouble approaching girls

kk2004

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I know that there are a MILLION posts on how to handle this problem, but no mater how much I read, Oh be a man, Oh have confidence, i just cant seem to walk up to a stanger chick and stop her and say "exucse me Miss can u come over here for a minute" or " Hi, can u tell me so and so." If shes hot then its a problem but still even reg stranger ppl its hard. I dont know what to do anymore, its like my fear just hijacks my body and leaves right after the girl leaves my sight. Its realli strong and i think all the yrs im 18 of negative thought and belief have fu*** me up. I cant seem to stop the fear that comes over me when I see a chick I like, its like some Jedi mind trick my body does on it self to protect itself from being 'hurt'. I know all the theories but its like in the field I cant seem to find that courage. The other day my friend was driving a little recklassly and we got into an accident and we skidded and knocked over a few signs, damn my heart didnt even race, I was calm as hell and just waited to see what would happen i just held on. BUt just the mere thought of approaching a chick which isnt in my comfort zones i get all hyper and scared and lock jawed.

I dont know what to do anymore man. It cant be this hard, I guess i might have a slight Social anxiety problem when it comes to chicks, bt otehr wise im great with friends and relaxed in a relaxed atmosphere.
 

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You just have to tell yourself "The only way I'm going to learn how to talk to attractive girls or any girl for that matter is by doing so." Don't let fear control your life, you control your life.
 

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Originally posted by kk2004
I know that there are a MILLION posts on how to handle this problem, but no mater how much I read, Oh be a man, Oh have confidence, i just cant seem to walk up to a stanger chick and stop her and say "exucse me Miss can u come over here for a minute" or " Hi, can u tell me so and so." If shes hot then its a problem but still even reg stranger ppl its hard. I dont know what to do anymore, its like my fear just hijacks my body and leaves right after the girl leaves my sight. Its realli strong and i think all the yrs im 18 of negative thought and belief have fu*** me up. I cant seem to stop the fear that comes over me when I see a chick I like, its like some Jedi mind trick my body does on it self to protect itself from being 'hurt'. I know all the theories but its like in the field I cant seem to find that courage. The other day my friend was driving a little recklassly and we got into an accident and we skidded and knocked over a few signs, damn my heart didnt even race, I was calm as hell and just waited to see what would happen i just held on. BUt just the mere thought of approaching a chick which isnt in my comfort zones i get all hyper and scared and lock jawed.

I dont know what to do anymore man. It cant be this hard, I guess i might have a slight Social anxiety problem when it comes to chicks, bt otehr wise im great with friends and relaxed in a relaxed atmosphere.
there is a mathimatical formula you can apply to overcome your problem.

right now, you're having 0 beers before approaching. b = beer. therefor
0*b = 0
try this.
(0*b)+1 = 1
now try and approach.
if that doesn't work.
(1*b)+1 = 2
approach
(2*b)+1 = 3
approach.

continue until you can finally approach.

if you can't approach before you fall down, you're ****ed for life.

if people in the street start accusing you of being drunk, attack them.

once you can approach, you can lower the ammount of beers with
(b)-1
until you're back to 0 and an expert approacher.
 

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Re: Re: Trouble approaching girls

Originally posted by quest

if people in the street start accusing you of being drunk, attack them.
AHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA :D
 
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