Treat Women Like You Would A Video Game...

[AsianPlayboy]

I’ve been in this game for a while, and if there’s one lesson I’d pass on to anyone struggling with rejection, fear, or frustration, it’s this: treat learning game (ie socializing, confidence, talking to girls, etc) like playing an actual video game. Why? Because this mindset makes it way easier to stay motivated, set measurable goals, and, most importantly, make failure feel like part of the fun.

Let me break down why this works and how it can keep you motivated even when things don’t go as planned.

1. Progress Over Perfection—Every Interaction is an “XP Point”
In gaming, every action gives you experience (XP). Talking to people, starting conversations, and even those awkward moments or rejections all add to your XP. It’s about leveling up, not hitting perfection right away. When you view every interaction as an opportunity to build skills, you’re less likely to feel crushed by one rejection.

2. Different Levels, Different Challenges
Think of each stage of social interaction as a “level.” Maybe you start with a simple “hello” or getting used to eye contact (Level 1). Then you move to casual conversation (Level 2), playful banter (Level 3), and so on. Just like in a game, these levels get progressively harder, but each one you pass gives you more confidence and momentum.

3. Rejection? Just a “Respawn” Moment
In games, dying isn’t the end; you just respawn and try again. Similarly, rejection isn’t failure—it’s a chance to reset, reflect, and dive back in with a better strategy. This is key to keeping embarrassment at bay because you’re building resilience, seeing every misstep as temporary rather than a permanent defeat.

4. Your “Character” Develops with Every Try
In gaming, you don’t expect to beat a boss the first time. You try, learn their patterns, adjust your approach, and then you succeed. Approaching people works the same way. By seeing each attempt as a learning experience, you’re focused on what each experience teaches you, not on whether or not you “won” that particular round.

5. Celebrate the “Wins” (No Matter How Small)
Finally, don’t wait for a big milestone to celebrate. Small victories count. Made her smile? That’s a win. Managed to hold a conversation for 5 minutes? That’s progress. Just like in a game, every small accomplishment is an achievement worth celebrating. These wins add up and remind you of how far you’re coming along.

TL;DR:
If you’re feeling weighed down by rejection or frustration, start viewing your dating journey like a video game. Treat every interaction as an XP point, view mistakes as chances to respawn, and celebrate each small win. You’ll not only improve faster but also learn to enjoy the journey itself.

Remember, the key is to keep playing—you only lose when you stop trying.

Want a deeper dive? Check out my video on treating dating like leveling up in a game: Watch here!

 

[pipeman84]

That's all fine and dandy if your target audience is comprised of 14-15yrs old boys. Other than that, it sounds ridiculous. Just an example:

5. Celebrate the “Wins” (No Matter How Small)
Finally, don’t wait for a big milestone to celebrate. Small victories count. Made her smile? That’s a win. Managed to hold a conversation for 5 minutes?

Celebrate that we made her smile? What are, clowns? And who is she that we put her on such a high pedestal? Snow White? She's had other guys fvck her in doggy and jizz on her face, and we as DJs are supposed to celebrate making her smile...

 

[Ricky]

Hey Playboy i know we have been both in the game for awhile. Is it just me or do you like going for my challenging cases?

I know its a cognitive bias of mine but i seem to not value the women that are easy to attract and show high interest. I like going for the dismissive avoidant, cold, tougher to crack women. And if i lose them i get obsessed with the re-seduction game instead of nexting them.

to be clear i don’t think i am pedestalizing any of them as i keep lots of options going but i still wonder if i am just want to play the game at a more challenging level.

Have any thoughts on that and going after difficult cases or re-seducing women?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I’ve been in this game for a while, and if there’s one lesson I’d pass on to anyone struggling with rejection, fear, or frustration, it’s this: treat learning game (ie socializing, confidence, talking to girls, etc) like playing an actual video game. Why? Because this mindset makes it way easier to stay motivated, set measurable goals, and, most importantly, make failure feel like part of the fun.

The main reason 'game' is called 'game' is because it's an approach level of seduction that's rooted in playing (video/computer) games. I understand that you're trying to explain something that is apparent to pretty much anyone 'doing game'. I'm sorry, but your whole post not very insightful, it merely codifies what has been codified before.

You can compare 'game' to anything with a gaming element. Life itself is a game, just on a broad scale with serious consequences if you screw up and you don't get to restart when you die, unless you believe in reincarnation.

 

[The Duke]

@AsianPlayboy - I've followed this same mental progress template in developing my skills for gaming women and it was very beneficial. THis is pretty much how you become good at anything.

I think what you shared is very relatable to a lot of younger men because they are video game aficionado's. Well done.

 

[The Duke]

That's all fine and dandy if your target audience is comprised of 14-15yrs old boys. Other than that, it sounds ridiculous. Just an example:

Celebrate that we made her smile? What are, clowns? And who is she that we put her on such a high pedestal? Snow White? She's had other guys fvck her in doggy and jizz on her face, and we as DJs are supposed to celebrate making her smile...

You are always quick to criticize. But never do you offer how you would do it. You exhibit all the signs of a fraud.

 

[Clockwerk50]

@MatureDJ

 

[pipeman84]

You are always quick to criticize. But never do you offer how you would do it. You exhibit all the signs of a fraud.

I comment on various topics, that's well within freedom of expression concept and that's basically what forums are all about. I'm not selling anything, so what fraud are you talking about?

 

[Doctor Doom]

Treat women like a video game and uninstall when you’re bored.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I’ve been in this game for a while, and if there’s one lesson I’d pass on to anyone struggling with rejection, fear, or frustration, it’s this: treat learning game (ie socializing, confidence, talking to girls, etc) like playing an actual video game. Why? Because this mindset makes it way easier to stay motivated, set measurable goals, and, most importantly, make failure feel like part of the fun.
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Let me break down why this works and how it can keep you motivated even when things don’t go as planned.

1. Progress Over Perfection—Every Interaction is an “XP Point”
In gaming, every action gives you experience (XP). Talking to people, starting conversations, and even those awkward moments or rejections all add to your XP. It’s about leveling up, not hitting perfection right away. When you view every interaction as an opportunity to build skills, you’re less likely to feel crushed by one rejection.

2. Different Levels, Different Challenges
Think of each stage of social interaction as a “level.” Maybe you start with a simple “hello” or getting used to eye contact (Level 1). Then you move to casual conversation (Level 2), playful banter (Level 3), and so on. Just like in a game, these levels get progressively harder, but each one you pass gives you more confidence and momentum.

3. Rejection? Just a “Respawn” Moment
In games, dying isn’t the end; you just respawn and try again. Similarly, rejection isn’t failure—it’s a chance to reset, reflect, and dive back in with a better strategy. This is key to keeping embarrassment at bay because you’re building resilience, seeing every misstep as temporary rather than a permanent defeat.

4. Your “Character” Develops with Every Try
In gaming, you don’t expect to beat a boss the first time. You try, learn their patterns, adjust your approach, and then you succeed. Approaching people works the same way. By seeing each attempt as a learning experience, you’re focused on what each experience teaches you, not on whether or not you “won” that particular round.

5. Celebrate the “Wins” (No Matter How Small)
Finally, don’t wait for a big milestone to celebrate. Small victories count. Made her smile? That’s a win. Managed to hold a conversation for 5 minutes? That’s progress. Just like in a game, every small accomplishment is an achievement worth celebrating. These wins add up and remind you of how far you’re coming along.

TL;DR:
If you’re feeling weighed down by rejection or frustration, start viewing your dating journey like a video game. Treat every interaction as an XP point, view mistakes as chances to respawn, and celebrate each small win. You’ll not only improve faster but also learn to enjoy the journey itself.

Remember, the key is to keep playing—you only lose when you stop trying.

Want a deeper dive? Check out my video on treating dating like leveling up in a game: Watch here!

Another analogy, that's somewhat similar: Approach women like you're conducting a High Value Detainee Interrogation

No, not every operation ends with the results we desire, and some are more gainful than others. As you say though, we're wizened after each of them