Treat them all the same

[zekko]

I often read on here how you should treat the hot girls just like you treat the fat girls and ugly girls. I admit I have a problem with this. In fact, I'm not sure this is even possible, or even desireable.

When unattractive girls flirt with me I am fairly merciless with them, I treat them horribly. Like if they talk about a kiss, I tell them something like "I'd rather stick my lips in a light socket". For some reason they love this and always come back for more. I guess it's better for them than receiving no attention at all. Although I do it in a joking manner, I actually mean it.

But if the girl is hot or even doable, I'm not so rude with them. With the fatties I am just being honest with them. With the hot girls if I tell them that I'm not being congruent with my inner self, which DOES find them attractive.

I find that as they get better looking, I treat them with a little more respect. I mean I will still tease them and neg them of course, but I don't treat them like pigs. I treat them more like they are members of the "we're cool" club, if that makes any sense. Is this wrong?

The other bad thing I do with hot girls is I am always thinking that I have to be aloof, disinterested, or indifferent to them (that's from reading this forum). This can be a good thing, but it is DEFINITELY treating them different than the fatties, because I never think about that with them. If I want to talk to one of the ugly girls I just do it. If I want to talk to one of the hotter girls I often end up thinking "I won't give her the satisfaction of initiating conversation with her today, I have to be indifferent, like I don't even notice her". I can't help but think this is bad.

 

[moneyisking]

Don't even know... dealing with women is too complicated...

 

[cool dude]

lol, no its the community that makes it so complicated. Treat them like people. Remember what makes them so special? What do they do that make4s good difference in this world, why should you treat them with any respect. The ugly ones I would treat with more respect, then the hot ones depending on their demeanor.

 

[Radharc]

Idk, are you talking about random strangers flirting situation or also ppl you encounter on a somewhat reagular basis?
In the latter I dont see a reason whatsoever to be rude, just treat them like normal ppl who you dont see on a sexual way.
Sure you can treat different ppl differently, but bringing levels of respect into the equation associated with looks... to me there´s a basic standard of respect I issue to any human being, then it either goes down or goes up as I watch their behaviour and character...
Maybe the question as a bit like, if you should treat the hot girls like the ugly ones, there should be a premise that says ugly girls deserve basic respect. The other aspect is now going out of your way for hot girls as you dont go for ugly ones.
And what happened to the girls qualifying themselves to you?

 

[blackwolf]

i just pretend hot girls are nothing more than one of my guy friends and treat them that way. i don't kiss their ass or anything.. they don't scare me or make me feel all funny when i'm near them. i always feel like im the man next to any girl. they dont intimidate me those b!tches!

 

[zekko]

Sure you can treat different ppl differently, but bringing levels of respect into the equation associated with looks... to me there´s a basic standard of respect I issue to any human being, then it either goes down or goes up as I watch their behaviour and character...

I agree with what you're saying here.
In the case of these unattractive women, the ones I treat poorly are acting badly anyway. I suppose since they cannot have me, they verbally "spar" with me to get my attention. And when they hit on me, I very bluntly refuse them.
The more attractive girls that hit on me I notice I let down more politely (since I have a LTR).

Maybe the question as a bit like, if you should treat the hot girls like the ugly ones, there should be a premise that says ugly girls deserve basic respect.

This makes sense, but you have to admit that on this forum the advice is usually more to treat them all badly. Or haven't you seen all those "the worse you treat them the more they like you" threads? I was actually thinking if anything, I should be treating the more attractive girls worse, rather than the unattractive girls better. For whatever reason, the unattractive girls find my treatment of them entertaining.

 

[Radharc]

This makes sense, but you have to admit that on this forum the advice is usually more to treat them all badly. Or haven't you seen all those "the worse you treat them the more they like you" threads? I was actually thinking if anything, I should be treating the more attractive girls worse, rather than the unattractive girls better. For whatever reason, the unattractive girls find my treatment of them entertaining.

That´s true, but my personal take on that has allways been on relative terms, not absolute. Its kinda like I don´t give hot girls special treatment and the idea is to bring them down to the level of normal human beings, so I treat them bad in comparison with what they are used to - so if I´m treating a hot girl like I treat a ugly girl its a downgrade for them. The more self important she feels like the more I bring them down.

But its true, you can get surprisingly good results by proactivelly treating women bad, in my country we have a saying that goes even further: "The more you beat me, the more I love you".

I suppose the ugly girls dont really deserve any kind of elaborate treatment, unless they are being anoying of course. But then again I dont have much tolerance for anyone being annoying regardless of gender, age or looks.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Zekko,

You're totally right and I had this ephiphany just yesterday night. My only problem is, the receptivness and differences between a attractive girl and a not-so attractive girl. I'm more readily to neg and tease a lower-attractive girl than a girl I know is sought after. This could have something to do with social value. I'm not so readily to go push my game on a 9, for fear of her reception. But I know with a 5-6-7 attractive level girl, I feel as if I have the birth right to neg them with ease. I don't feel anything.

I've got random make-outs with 6s and 7s. But it's time for me to get those 10s. I did approach a one last night, she was very receptitive. This could be growing with my game or she just had a good sense of humour, I just thought of her as "another girl in this place" I think to answer your question, is that it VARIES from girl to girl on how you view, "Treat them all the same". Some girls will just NOT be recepitive to you, regardless of how attractive they're.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Treat the dogs as princesses and the princesses as dogs.