anonymous12345
Senior Don Juan
When looking at my wardrobe I do somewhat fine. The base is some kind of momma boy that tries to dress pretty and impress, but my standard clothes is basically Red Wing Iron Rangers, worn jeans and a leather jacket similar to Brad Pitt’s in Fight Club (yupp, got it tailored). My other outfits are on the same level of “coolness” or whatever you call it. I think I pass on this front. I found this easy to fix.
But when it comes to talking and (salsa) dancing, I am very much an AFC or beta, in particular the more attractive the girl is.
My dancing is conservative, scared, politically correct and not at all fun, ravaging or spontaneous. I’m scared of pissing someone off and be "wrong". I’ve since a long time ago forgotten what I find fun about it or what I feel. Harder to fix that buying a piece of clothing.
Same with talking. Tomassi’s Rational Male 1 is very relevant here. I talked to an attractive girl tonight and when I backtrace I realise that, as pretty much always, I start qualifying myself, I say things that sympathise with her, try to be similar to her, try to understand her and all that ****. I realise, I fall into the oneitis quickly. Her presence gives me a feeling of loneliness and emptiness, and it aches. Those feelings steer me. I take the usual friend route and hoping that if I pamper her she will offer me her ass. When it comes to talking I need to become an alpha douche bag.
The problem is that my position isn’t good. The girls got something I want — themselves. So I’m not in a good position to negotiate. I can’t laugh it off — then I loose. But that is not true. The thing is, if I act as if I’m rich and don’t need anything, then I’ll get it. And that has happened during times in my life where I’ve not been so desperate as compared to my life situation now (I’m 37 and have sexual starved for many years).
Tomassi writes that if he knew the solution to this (i.e, transition to alpha), he would be rich. My idea is to analyse afterwards, be conscious, know for starters on a theoretical level what is wrong and right. But beyond that, how to get the underlying drivers and mechanics right, dunno.
Give me your best.
But when it comes to talking and (salsa) dancing, I am very much an AFC or beta, in particular the more attractive the girl is.
My dancing is conservative, scared, politically correct and not at all fun, ravaging or spontaneous. I’m scared of pissing someone off and be "wrong". I’ve since a long time ago forgotten what I find fun about it or what I feel. Harder to fix that buying a piece of clothing.
Same with talking. Tomassi’s Rational Male 1 is very relevant here. I talked to an attractive girl tonight and when I backtrace I realise that, as pretty much always, I start qualifying myself, I say things that sympathise with her, try to be similar to her, try to understand her and all that ****. I realise, I fall into the oneitis quickly. Her presence gives me a feeling of loneliness and emptiness, and it aches. Those feelings steer me. I take the usual friend route and hoping that if I pamper her she will offer me her ass. When it comes to talking I need to become an alpha douche bag.
The problem is that my position isn’t good. The girls got something I want — themselves. So I’m not in a good position to negotiate. I can’t laugh it off — then I loose. But that is not true. The thing is, if I act as if I’m rich and don’t need anything, then I’ll get it. And that has happened during times in my life where I’ve not been so desperate as compared to my life situation now (I’m 37 and have sexual starved for many years).
Tomassi writes that if he knew the solution to this (i.e, transition to alpha), he would be rich. My idea is to analyse afterwards, be conscious, know for starters on a theoretical level what is wrong and right. But beyond that, how to get the underlying drivers and mechanics right, dunno.
Give me your best.
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