Total social media blockage -- is it a game?

[thadder]

Last week I got dumped, and yes it sucked.

What I wasn't prepared for next was the complete blockage of social media.

First I was unfollowed on Instagram, then I was blocked on Snapchat, then finally today I was unfriended on Facebook (despite for being friends prior for 2 years)

I can't help but think it's a game meant for me to freak out and flip out and probably come back (even though I was dumped) and send excessive texts to try to see why I was?

Mind you I did nothing actually wrong in this relationship, no cheating, no physical harm, no yelling -- nothing like that.

 

[expos]

Some people are like that and it's not really a game. It's how they cut ties and they don't want any reminders of you or the failed relationship.

I had an ex-hookup actually block me after I de-friended her. She was vine-swinging to another dude and I said goodbye and never called her again. The blocking is the ultimate compliment I think, because it shows just how much you were able to get to them and piss them off. They can't even bare to look at you!

- that - or they don't want you creeping on them - which doesn't work because you can just create a fake account and spy on them anyways.

Whatever the case may be for you, don't worry about this chick. Guys on this site have been through bad breakups and divorces and none of them are easy. Work on getting the new, improved you ready for the world and letting a better woman come along.

 

[Skyline]

Don't take social media seriously. Become the rules, don't let the rules play you.

 

[thadder]

Don't take social media seriously. Become the rules, don't let the rules play you.

Definitely not going to let it bother me. I mean, it's a bit shocking yes -- and I don't know the reasons, so there's no point in making up reasons.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I can't help but think it's a game meant for me to freak out and flip out and probably come back (even though I was dumped) and send excessive texts to try to see why I was?

Definitely could be. I'm guessing you're young, and so is she. You say the break up was out of the blue?

there's no point in making up reasons.

^What fun is that?

Here's how I am imagining it going down: She's out with her friends, and they're complaining about guys, as most young chicks like to do to make themselves feel important. Your girl wants to fit in with the group so she starts thinking of things that you are or aren't doing to be the perfect bf that she feels she would want. Next thing you know, with her friend's adding fuel to the fire, she's starting to now believe that you're not a good bf for her. So, with her friends encouraging her, and all the while painting a picture of how great the single lifestyle is, she makes a rash decision to dump you. And, by doing so, from her friend's guarantees, you'll be crawling back to her, asking "what can I do to make you want to be with me?", in which case she'd have your balls in her purse, which by her friend's accounts, is exactly where they should be. And from that point she can then decide if she'll take you back, all while testing out the single lifestyle for a while. Win/Win for her.

But wait, you didn't go crawling back, so maybe it's just because you didn't get the point. Maybe if she blocks you from all social media then you'll realize that she broke up with you, and that you really miss her, and truly want to be with her. You'll finally realize that she's the only one for you.

Now that you know what she's up to, you can just sit back, eat your popcorn, and wait for the blitzkrieg of texts and calls you're going to receive once she realizes you're not going to break.

 

[j.619]

thadder, thank this man^

For you were blind, but now you see.

 

[thadder]

Definitely could be. I'm guessing you're young, and so is she. You say the break up was out of the blue?


^What fun is that?

Here's how I am imagining it going down: She's out with her friends, and they're complaining about guys, as most young chicks like to do to make themselves feel important. Your girl wants to fit in with the group so she starts thinking of things that you are or aren't doing to be the perfect bf that she feels she would want. Next thing you know, with her friend's adding fuel to the fire, she's starting to now believe that you're not a good bf for her. So, with her friends encouraging her, and all the while painting a picture of how great the single lifestyle is, she makes a rash decision to dump you. And, by doing so, from her friend's guarantees, you'll be crawling back to her, asking "what can I do to make you want to be with me?", in which case she'd have your balls in her purse, which by her friend's accounts, is exactly where they should be. And from that point she can then decide if she'll take you back, all while testing out the single lifestyle for a while. Win/Win for her.

But wait, you didn't go crawling back, so maybe it's just because you didn't get the point. Maybe if she blocks you from all social media then you'll realize that she broke up with you, and that you really miss her, and truly want to be with her. You'll finally realize that she's the only one for you.

Now that you know what she's up to, you can just sit back, eat your popcorn, and wait for the blitzkrieg of texts and calls you're going to receive once she realizes you're not going to break.

This is most likely true. While it sucks, she had to bring herself to my profile, and unfriend me. I most likely bet she was debating it for a while but ultimately did it, I don't know the reasons why.

I think she was expecting me to freak out and text her but I'm not going to do that. No, there's no reason to. I don't know what she's going through right now, and may never will, but I hope she works it out.

 

[MattTheW]

Go NC - she's done most of the ground work for you by cutting all the online ties.

If the scenario that Peaks put down is pretty accurate than she's not worth the hassle

Just stay NC and wait for her to realise the error of her ways and then decide how you want to play it out

 

[Bingo-Player]

Peaks & valleys is bang on the money with his post

Women are so funny , they go out for their little luncheons put the world to right and decide that they are too good for men

Whilst in reality each and every single one of them is jealous of what the other ones got and will do anything to ruin it

Women are the most jealous creatures in the world hence why they are so attracted to money , status & power

I would stick to your guns thadder she will break a lot sooner than you do

 

[expos]

No Contact. Shift the focus to yourself and new women.

Women get jealous really quickly. They have this sixth sense that tells them something is up and that you are with another woman and don't care about them anymore.

Always remember - Whether its business or friendships or especially romantic relationships, the person who cares less always seems to be the person who has the most power. Be the king of "I don't give a sh*t".

 

[thadder]

Thanks for all the input guys, really appreciate it.

A part of me wants to believe that she's mature enough (she's 24) that she wouldn't be acting immature, or thinking "Oh he's gonna flip, I know he's gonna ask people why or ask me why!"

But then again, I don't know how badly she could be taking the break up either. Really hard to say.

I just think that if you're still cool with someone, you stay friends with them, and we were friends for 2 years prior, but to totally block out someone on the social radar is weird. I personally don't have any toxic feelings, and couldn't really produce any.

I had joined a gym last week and she might see it as "Oh, he's trying to get over me, that annoys me..."

Is it a game? I don't know -- but there's certainly no reason to be so hostile and toxic over it.

 

[thadder]

I've been hitting the gym and getting my mind off of her, however I did check her Instagram earlier this morning and noticed that she even deleted old photos of her ex... So there is no photos of any guy at all on her Instagram, leading me to believe that this is perhaps some kind of breakdown. Something is happening to her that is causing her to delete these things and essentially be about "screw guys"

 

[MattTheW]

I've been hitting the gym and getting my mind off of her, however I did check her Instagram earlier this morning and noticed that she even deleted old photos of her ex... So there is no photos of any guy at all on her Instagram, leading me to believe that this is perhaps some kind of breakdown. Something is happening to her that is causing her to delete these things and essentially be about "screw guys"

It isnt your concern mate

Don't get drawn in

Keep hitting the gym and then hitting the town

You're not gonna be able to "fix" her if she's melting down and all you'll do is fook your own head up

You gotta go proper NC - don't go near her instagram!!!