Too rude?

[AriMamba]

i have been reading somethings in here bout not doing stuff for girls but i think i took this too literally or was too rude or maybe im over analyzing.

So this girl asked me to throw something at the trash for her and i said no do it yourself and she was like is too far away and i said no.

then i kinda snapped i was like kidding at the beggining but then i was like just leave me alone!

and now i know it might not seems like something so rude but the way i said it in spanish was like very rude lol and what made me think about this too much was when i saw her look down and turn away... oh well i guess you win some you lose some?

 

[seethehoop]

Yeah test. A girl of mine did something similar, she took the bag outta the bin then added extra stuff to the bin bag and then asked me to carry it out cos she'd over filled it and it was too heavy. I just laughed and said no. She filled it, she can carry it. Needles to say she did carry it with little effort.

I often turn a women down when she asks me certain questions or I'll ignore her if she asks me things like how much do I miss her, it's not that I won't answer or do them it's cos it means more to do them on my own terms rather than just cos she asked.

 

[Mike32ct]

You had sort of the right idea, but make it a bit more playful next time.

HB: Throw this away.

You: No, you're closer (to the trash bin).

HB: No, I'm NOT.

You: <Move farther from it. Give slight smile.> You are now lol.

The key is to not let her control you AND not sound angry about it. It's all fun and playful.

 

[AriMamba]

hey mike i like your idea.

but haha i was thinking when i see her in class act like nothing happened and guess what she said hi to me and complimented on my shirt lol.

i guess my visions(thanks to this site) that i was having were true. while i was thinking about the poor girl she was getting rammed by someone else. girls really dont care at all lol. i dont know if she was getting rammed but that what i was getting in my head

 

[FairShake]

I'm guessing you're a teenager. If so than yes, you should break her balls over that.

If you're a grownup you look immature arguing over something so petty.

 

[AriMamba]

you had to come up with that... obviously if i was an adult i would not be posting silly questions

 

[betheman]

I always try to turn these situations into a playful trade, "oh yeah? and whats in this for me?" not agreing to but not refusing, you then get into a bit of playful banter and basically its up to you how to play it. always try and get something out of it, no need to be rude or nasty unles she is being really disrespectful, even then a bert stare and a "no I dont think so" will do the trick