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DEKKA

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I really want to know when you DJs feel the time you spend online becomes less of a benefit and more of a hindrance. Do you think that at a certain point there’s something more useful that could be occupying your time? A point at which the “study and analyze” stage has reached its usefulness and the “action and experience” stage should be taking almost all precedence?

I don’t post a lot and I don’t come here very often. When I do, I find the information very helpful, or I have specific questions regarding a particular aspect of the game or something that went down in my life. The thing that I’m seeing and I hope you guys see is that most of the really successful lady’s men aren’t on the computer discussing these things on any kind of a regular basis. Maybe they are just naturals? Or maybe the action part of their equation has always been the mainstay of their lives. I’m not saying anybody that is learning should quit learning, but I think if there is true success going down it will come with experience and naturally you won’t need to waste your time on less meaningful aspects of being a DJ. The ones who are succeeding aren’t the ones trying to learn how to succeed to put it more succinctly. So in between learning and doing there must be a changing point at which we become self-reliant on what we’ve learned and rather choose to learn by trial and error.

The other thing that factors into this thinking is that I know way too many women that don’t find it attractive when men spend very much (if any) time on the computer. There is ALWAYS something more useful: working out, going out, planning your life, getting all your work done now, doing something nice for somebody else with your time, you name it.

Always be doing something that is beneficial for YOU, and not just something but THE BEST thing you could be doing at any given time to accomplish your goals. Women respect you if you’re out accomplishing goals that you set. If you have too much time on your hands maybe you need to set more goals to keep you busy.

My take. Love it or leave it.
 

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A few months ago, I stayed away from the site for 2 months, and i've only recently started coming back for the hell of it. Even then, i'm on for only once a week, much less than before.
 

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hhmm.. opinions vary.

I think you can't learn enough, and getting back here just reminds me of simple things I tend to skip doing the big work.

though yes, as your game improves you should be spending less time here and more out there, but for me it is like a mission, I want to help out those that go trough the things I went trough so where I can I will try to give advise if appropiate and know that it will do more good then harm.

on the matter of a woman criticizing my time on the computer... who is she to say something about it? I give her the attention she needs. "it is what I call quiet time" (lol just watched Cruel intentions again) it doesn't bother me if a girl knows I spend some good time behind my computer though this does not intervier with

Uni
sports
work
women
Computer time

that's the exact order for importance
 

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i spend 8 hours a day behind a computer, keeps my pockets filled, and none of the ladies I know complain about how much money I have, even though I am infront of the computer often.
 

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Originally posted by Ser_i
...I want to help out those that go trough the things I went trough so where I can I will try to give advise if appropiate and know that it will do more good then harm.
Sounds like a little too much benevolence to me.

Originally posted by Ser_i
...on the matter of a woman criticizing my time on the computer... who is she to say something about it? I give her the attention she needs. "it is what I call quiet time" (lol just watched Cruel intentions again) it doesn't bother me if a girl knows I spend some good time behind my computer though this does not intervier with.
I was a funny movie and I agree with the fact that you really shouldn't care what a woman thinks about what you do. Im just trying to underscore the importance of making sure playas keep their priorities in check at all times. Also you not caring about what she thinks about what you do doesn't always translate as an attractive quality...or at least not to the extent of doing something more worthwhile with your time. Some of us know what our priorities are and things arent a problem... but I'm seeing more and more people that leave questions in my mind about it. If one person recognizes that what I'm saying relates to himself then it's going to make a world of difference. If all of you already think they are taking enough action to warrant more veg-out time then that's fine, but if you aren't where you want to be, maybe priorities need to be re-examined.
 

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the 2nd part I totaly agree when looking at it from your point of view. very true.


benevolence.. well.. could be, I dunno it helps me remind myself of things I experienced so I don't forget.
 

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You must never abandon this site even when you're gaming. I think that was a main thing that got my LTR off track. I became an AFC slowly and didn't realize it. Had I not given up this site when I was highly successful, who knows where I'd be. Like all other aspects of life and learning, you need to constantly reinforce or you will forget until it becomes your absolute lifestyle. ~Zappa
 

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I love this site. If I could I would implant a little internet chip in my head and use the strategic power of the suavest DJs in realtime on my pickups. I could also hook up a camera to my retina and transmit images live so you guys could pick apart my game and give me advice.

Less SoSuave? Hah! I say hook this place to my veins!
 

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Before I go back to college I just want to say that I hope you guys aren't missing the point of what I'm trying to say. Sosuave.com is probably one of the most usefull tools any AFC could EVER hope for... think about that. Maybe you see why its usefullness gives way to more productive ACTIONS as the DJ progresses. Fine tuning is nice. But there should come a point. Or maybe no? You decide
 
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