I know the discussions on these boards tend to veer towards DJ's that have moments of AFC'ness... but what about the opposite extreme?
What if, during your interactions with the girl, you get so insecure about your dynamic with her that you get too defensive. To the point that she feels that you rejected her?
At first I thought it was my AFC behavior that turned a girl off to me... but upon talking with her in depth... it was actually too much a$$hole.
I said stupid, uncalibrated things like implying that I was out of her league, kept having her qualify to me in ways that she couldn't... did too much No Contact & hot and cold to the point where she thought I was just playing games.
And I guess, in the end, I was.
Anyone ever had this happen to them? I was so worried about being AFC... that I gamed too hard onto the other extreme, and I didn't even realize it.
What I needed for this one was just maybe a tad bit more beta.
Would you say that situations like these are easier or harder to escape from when compared to AFC LJBF's?
What if, during your interactions with the girl, you get so insecure about your dynamic with her that you get too defensive. To the point that she feels that you rejected her?
At first I thought it was my AFC behavior that turned a girl off to me... but upon talking with her in depth... it was actually too much a$$hole.
I said stupid, uncalibrated things like implying that I was out of her league, kept having her qualify to me in ways that she couldn't... did too much No Contact & hot and cold to the point where she thought I was just playing games.
And I guess, in the end, I was.
Anyone ever had this happen to them? I was so worried about being AFC... that I gamed too hard onto the other extreme, and I didn't even realize it.
What I needed for this one was just maybe a tad bit more beta.
Would you say that situations like these are easier or harder to escape from when compared to AFC LJBF's?