Too many guys here getting F#ked over by Exs

[hithard]

Its hard breaking up.I thought it was now till forever or what ever dumb image I had in my head.But she f#ucked up and that was that.Now I have a son too this biatch, which makes it hard as I have to see her every week.And I get all the "I miss you" or "thinking of you" lines which just pees me off.At times its real hard when your son asks you when your coming home.But you know what I remember at those times I think I might want her back.How she F#ucked me over without thinking twice.How she did not have a care in the world after she blew me outa the water.Not to mention how shes probably had who knows c0ck in her.I remember how horrible she was at the end.And how I would not want to have to go through this pattern again with the same biatch.Any thoughts I have of her are quickly thrown out.And everything gets a lot easier.Im not saying be bitter just remember the facts.

Some of you guys need to harden up too the reality of the situation your in.She f#ucked you over and your punishing yourselves.None of this if only I did this or that she wouldnt have left crap.She stomped on your heart give her the same respect.

As men we get comfortable, and then get upset when our little comfort rut gets taken away from us.Now the big problem is when she has had enough of screwing everyone else then comes crawling back.Are you going to be able to take the emotional hooks she will use to pull you back in??.Alot of guys welcome back the ex with open arms, happy they can once again live the life they knew before.Often giving up all control just to have her back.Or sometimes laying down all the rules only for her to disrespect them all.Well I can tell you now eventually the pain is going to rain down.It can last a while but its like sitting on a time bomb.Can you really respect someone that has hurt you without thinking twice.She knows she has options and can leave at will.

So why the hell waste time thinking about her 24/7.You may very well get another crack at her anyway if your that desperate.But Id advise going out and meeting other women right now.And not putting your breakup story on their shoulders either TELL THEM NOTHING.Dont let them see you whine about an ex.Try your best to have fun.Your going to need all the backup you can muster up when the ex calls again.Dont sit around and wait for her to come back or she will seem like your only option.Just remember she knows what makes you tick and will use all her skills to emotionally trick you back that she can.And I'd hate to think whats going to happen next time round if you let yourself go back.

SNAP OUT OF IT YOU GUYS YOUR WASTING TIME CRYING OVER A BI#TCH THAT COULD CARE LESS

 

[Ricky]

Well most of my exes are exes for a good reason. The one i miss though was great, except for the distance.

 

[Un-Aru]

Totally agree. When I was 20 I got f**ked over well and truly by a b**** I was living with - my first serious girlfriend of 18 months. Haha caught her in bed with my best mate, who of course, thought he was in love with her. After the ensuing break up I found out she had told a few close friends that I'd said "If you get drunk, watch out... I'm gonna rape you." At that moment I knew she was a nut-case (should have seen the signs a lot earlier) and I wished my mate the best of luck, telling him I was there if he needed my help. (Bro's before ho's) Incidentally, she f**ked him over too and ended up getting pregnant to his cousin.

Anyway, since that moment I promised myself I would live by a few iron principles, one of which would be "no second chances." And to this day I maintain that stance. I've never been nasty to any of my ex's, life's too short to be angry and bitter over anything, although neither do I go out of my way to contact them. And what's funny is in almost every single case word has filtered down about how they want me back, that they're in love with me etc. And I can't help but look at them with a kind of amused detachment, shrug my shoulders and think to myself, "yeah she's a cool chick, and it MAY work, but I'm not compromising my principles for ANYONE."

 

[Immaculate]

When my ex (whom I miss very much every day i know it;s sad) comes crawling back to me, I'm going to welcome her back. I'm going to bang the hell out of her for awhile and then do exactly what she did to me. "I've moved on and found someone else, it's over but i'll always love you".. those exact words came out fo her mouth. She's gonna realize the mistake she made, and i'm gonna break her in a million pieces like she did me.

 

[Bonhomme]

No gal can break your heart unless you LET her

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[WestCoaster]

Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Quit planning revenge tactics. That wasted energy could be spent finding new and better women.

I browsed a funny book at the store the other day called, "It's a breakup because it's broken." It's geared towards chicks, but many guys could or should read it. All these revenge tactics are plotted out by the dumpees, it's sad and sick. The advice is always the same: go out and find someone new!

Immaculate, please, it's over, don't count the days of when she'll come back.

To quote a great O'Jays song:

"What are you waiting for? She ain't comin' back no more."

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by WestCoaster
Quit planning revenge tactics. That wasted energy could be spent finding new and better women.

So true.. It's funny how many people here are rattled because of what their ex has done to them. I couldn't give a sh*t about my ex and it's only been a week. You people have to learn how to drop emotions. Read some books by Tony Robbins, he knows what he's talking about when it comes to self control. All you need is emotional control and you will be free from worries.

I can't help but laugh at my situation now. As soon as you drop the emotional aspects of your relationship, you couldn't give a f*ck about it. It's tough when you're going through it, but when you're through it feels like you're invincible and back in the ball game of picking up chicks.

 

[Golden Arms]

I skip all threads about exes and frankly, I am pretty tired of seeing them everywhere

Maybe we need to implement a special "break-up forum" for all these...

 

[RobLB]

Re: Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
So true.. It's funny how many people here are rattled because of what their ex has done to them. I couldn't give a sh*t about my ex and it's only been a week. You people have to learn how to drop emotions. Read some books by Tony Robbins, he knows what he's talking about when it comes to self control. All you need is emotional control and you will be free from worries.

I can't help but laugh at my situation now. As soon as you drop the emotional aspects of your relationship, you couldn't give a f*ck about it. It's tough when you're going through it, but when you're through it feels like you're invincible and back in the ball game of picking up chicks.

Youth......

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Re: Re: Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by RobLB
Youth......

What do you mean?

 

[RobLB]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by wheelin&dealin
What do you mean?

Well, I wasn't knockin your youth but you will see, the older you get the more apt your going to be to actually find that someone special and not trying to stick your d!ck in everything that walks by. I have several friends that are in their 40's that HAD great girlfriends back when they were in their 30's and now they regret ever losing them. Believe me, when I was your age I would want every woman that walked by me and usually got her, but as you grow older you start thinking and wondering if you will ever find that special person. And when you put so much time and effort into it and they lead you along, leading you to believe that YOU are the one, then they rip your heart out,...it's tough!!! And the older you get the harder it gets,..believe me.
I know the main purpose of this board is to meet chicks and take as many to bed as possible, which in my 20's was my motive as well, but as you age you start looking for a female companion to love and grow old with. I know it sounds gay but you will see one day

Lance

 

[WestCoaster]

Regrets

I regret about two or three girls from college who were marriage material that I let slip by. But the reason I let them slip by was because I wasn't ready for marriage. This had to do with ME, not them. I was immature (probably still am) and a marriage even to a great gal would've spelled divorce for me in my 20's. I had little direction, had the emotional maturity of an 18-year old, and my career wasn't on track. I would've brought baggage home each and every night. I knew those gals were great; but I wasn't at that time.

However, I do disagree that the purpose of this board is to meet and bed women. I think some of the purpose has been skewered here. It's to meet and date women while NOT losing your manhood at the same time.

I'm older, too, and I do have regrets. However, this board has helped me regain my sanity and not slip into oneitis -- though at times I still do.

Regrets? Yep, we all have them. That's the way it goes, but there literally are 100's of thousands of women on this earth that one could be married to and still be happy.

 

[The_Next_Big_Thing]

Re: Regrets

i've been lurking here for quite a bit of time but this is my first post. I hope to offer some good advice to everyone.

Originally posted by WestCoaster
However, I do disagree that the purpose of this board is to meet and bed women. I think some of the purpose has been skewered here. It's to meet and date women while NOT losing your manhood at the same time.

Yes the forum has been skewered.

When I originally came here. Yes I did want girls but that changed quickly for me. I realized that this site was changing my outlook on life. I looked at it and really started to change my perception.

The purpose of this site to me is for me to be the man that I see in my minds eye. I personally love what I have become.

Now I don't let any girl step on my heart.

I now have come to the realization that the purpose of this site is to improve oneself and the girls will follow you and your dreams. Not the other way around. If only I knew this when I was younger.

The_Next_Big_Thing

 

[Ricky]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by RobLB
Well, I wasn't knockin your youth but you will see, the older you get the more apt your going to be to actually find that someone special and not trying to stick your d!ck in everything that walks by. I have several friends that are in their 40's that HAD great girlfriends back when they were in their 30's and now they regret ever losing them. Believe me, when I was your age I would want every woman that walked by me and usually got her, but as you grow older you start thinking and wondering if you will ever find that special person. And when you put so much time and effort into it and they lead you along, leading you to believe that YOU are the one, then they rip your heart out,...it's tough!!! And the older you get the harder it gets,..believe me.
I know the main purpose of this board is to meet chicks and take as many to bed as possible, which in my 20's was my motive as well, but as you age you start looking for a female companion to love and grow old with. I know it sounds gay but you will see one day

Lance

I couldn't agree more with this. This is totally how I feel. Based on experience of dating alot of girls, I really thought the last one was a keeper. I hate to even say it so often. It's painful though. And it is in the back of my mind. It has kept me from dating much at all for 6 months. It is sick but true. It is like I say why bother with most women.

Now when I tell you this, you guys are really going to think i'm crazy. Tonight I had guaranteed sex, a hookup with a girl I met online and chatted with. I called late night to cancel the sex date. This girl wants it bad. I just can't do it. For some reason it doesn't sound like a good idea (mainly because it's too easy).

 

[[o_0]]

from ex to the next!

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Immaculate -- move the f' on!

Originally posted by RobLB
Well, I wasn't knockin your youth but you will see, the older you get the more apt your going to be to actually find that someone special and not trying to stick your d!ck in everything that walks by. I have several friends that are in their 40's that HAD great girlfriends back when they were in their 30's and now they regret ever losing them. Believe me, when I was your age I would want every woman that walked by me and usually got her, but as you grow older you start thinking and wondering if you will ever find that special person. And when you put so much time and effort into it and they lead you along, leading you to believe that YOU are the one, then they rip your heart out,...it's tough!!! And the older you get the harder it gets,..believe me.
I know the main purpose of this board is to meet chicks and take as many to bed as possible, which in my 20's was my motive as well, but as you age you start looking for a female companion to love and grow old with. I know it sounds gay but you will see one day

Lance

I'm far from what you think. My goal isn't to have sex with as many women as possible. I really couldn't give a sh*t about sex. My goal is to find a special girl that I can have fun with. I was just dumped after a 3 year relationship! My heart was ripped out and stomped. But do I drag on about it and cry about what has happened in the past? No, I don't. I've already been in situations where I think I'm a loser and that I let the best girl ever get away. So what? I'm through that. You need to change the way you think and get your emotions together otherwise the past will eat you alive.