OldFashioned
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Alright, much of this is new to me, so here goes:
I work in a technical field and met this woman through a work function (same company, different locations). We hit it off pretty well, high interest level on her part. I was super busy at the time with work, school, and a home renovation, and basically wasn't dating due to so much stuff going on. We went out a few times, but pretty sporadically due to my schedule and hers. Eventually I just stayed in contact with her through emails and the odd phone call.
A year and a half later, she's my email buddy
, and keeps in contact to check up on me and coyly sees how I'm doing every once in a while. I have to admit, we have some pretty creative, goofy, and funny email conversations that I look forward to.
Out of the blue, she asks me to go with her to this local mixer after work where there's a competition for the most interesting guest, and says I'm the most interesting person she knows, so we have a chance at winning. Yeah, I know.. Anyways, the day before the mixer, she cancels saying something came up at work. I have some free time, so I call her up and ask her out for coffee later that week.
We go to my local favorite place and she's giving me all these positive signals: eyes all over my face, sitting towards me while talking, fussing with hair, big smiles and laughs. I noticed she got all dolled up with her hair and makeup for a simple cup of coffee too. In my eyes, it went really well, so I call her up a few days later and ask her out again after she comes back from this 1 week cruise vacation she's had planned.
The day before the second date, she cancels saying she can't make it and I find out her vacation was with her boyfriend of 1 year. I ask her if he proposed, he didn't, she says that's strange I asked because her family did too...and that he just needs some time before proposing. Next she invites me to this BBQ a few weeks from now with her friends, family, and boyfriend. I say no thanks, and because it's obvious I'm interested, it wouldn't be right for us to hang out anymore since she's serious with someone else. I tell her to have a great life, and wish her the best. She kind of freaks out and asks if that means we can't talk anymore. I say it wouldn't be right to hang out and say goodbye to her. She says nothing.
I feel like sht for what happened. I don't think I was gruff or anything on the phone.
It looks like I blew my chances long ago with this woman by not acting, but was there a better way to handle the situation? Where do I go from here with her? Nowhere?
I work in a technical field and met this woman through a work function (same company, different locations). We hit it off pretty well, high interest level on her part. I was super busy at the time with work, school, and a home renovation, and basically wasn't dating due to so much stuff going on. We went out a few times, but pretty sporadically due to my schedule and hers. Eventually I just stayed in contact with her through emails and the odd phone call.
A year and a half later, she's my email buddy
, and keeps in contact to check up on me and coyly sees how I'm doing every once in a while. I have to admit, we have some pretty creative, goofy, and funny email conversations that I look forward to. Out of the blue, she asks me to go with her to this local mixer after work where there's a competition for the most interesting guest, and says I'm the most interesting person she knows, so we have a chance at winning. Yeah, I know.. Anyways, the day before the mixer, she cancels saying something came up at work. I have some free time, so I call her up and ask her out for coffee later that week.
We go to my local favorite place and she's giving me all these positive signals: eyes all over my face, sitting towards me while talking, fussing with hair, big smiles and laughs. I noticed she got all dolled up with her hair and makeup for a simple cup of coffee too. In my eyes, it went really well, so I call her up a few days later and ask her out again after she comes back from this 1 week cruise vacation she's had planned.
The day before the second date, she cancels saying she can't make it and I find out her vacation was with her boyfriend of 1 year. I ask her if he proposed, he didn't, she says that's strange I asked because her family did too...and that he just needs some time before proposing. Next she invites me to this BBQ a few weeks from now with her friends, family, and boyfriend. I say no thanks, and because it's obvious I'm interested, it wouldn't be right for us to hang out anymore since she's serious with someone else. I tell her to have a great life, and wish her the best. She kind of freaks out and asks if that means we can't talk anymore. I say it wouldn't be right to hang out and say goodbye to her. She says nothing.
I feel like sht for what happened. I don't think I was gruff or anything on the phone.
It looks like I blew my chances long ago with this woman by not acting, but was there a better way to handle the situation? Where do I go from here with her? Nowhere?
