To: Wjboogy.

[Nine Breaker]

I have studied your posts for quite a while now. You have me convinced that you are genuinely trying to become more attractive to women using most (if not all) the advice that is given here in the Forum. I have to commend you on this - you have not seen a shadow of a hint of success, yet you continue to struggle at becoming a Don Juan. A lesser man in your position would have quit long ago.

That is why you will undoubtedly find the advice I give you here as something of a shock, but I hope that you will take some time to understand the point I am trying to make. My advice to you is since you have tried your hardest to get a relationship, perhaps you should STOP the pursuit of women for a while.

I can hear you from here "Why the hell would I want to stop after all the frickin' effort and time I've put into this???" In a way, you answered your own question. Dating, relationships, and sex are all supposed to be FUN things. They are not supposed to bring you pain, misery and hopelessness. One important thing about being a True Don Juan is knowing when the pursuit of women is becoming more negative that it is worth, and taking a time-out from it.

I STRONGLY suggest that you find another thing to fill the void in your life, for now. You will find that the world has many MANY MANY options available in it. There are countless things to do and achieve in your lifetime. Do not let dating women become the only thing you live for, because that would be cheating yourself out of life itself. That just isn't a fair deal, is it?

I am not saying that you should give in at all. Far from it. I am saying that you should not put so much emphasis upon dating a woman. Find a reason to live, find a purpose for being. Living for the sake of dating is pointless and without merit. As far as we can prove, you only live ONCE, and then life is all over. Do not waste the time you have been given attempting to do something that only brings you pain.

Once you have something in your life that makes you happy and gives your existance some meaning, you will learn a lesson that many men never learn...

"Women are in our lives to complement it, to improve our standard of living, to give us another form of satisfaction and pleasure. They are NOT the REASON we are alive, so never treat them as such. If you spend your life chasing women, you have lived poorly and without merit. If you have lived to achieve goals, to have a purpose, and you find a woman along the way - you have lived life to its fullest."

So you see, if attracting women gives you more pain than pleasure, you have to ask yourself if it is in your best interests to be doing it at the current time?

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The Human Body Is A Fragile Thing, But The Human Soul Can NEVER Be Truly Broken.

 

[Take No Dirt]

Listen to Nine Breaker. He's a wise DJ. Great post there, Nine Breaker!

 

[ESPN]

Amazing, l am speechless

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"Only losers fall in love"

"How you do'ing" Joey Tribbiani

"Doesn't matter how you feel about the girl, but how you feel about you"
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[trickynick]

Masterfully writen, truly excellent post! And in a way it hit close to home.



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Look out for number one and don't step in number two!

 

[Don the Legend]

Ninebreaker,

Kickazz post man! I hope he listens to your words.

Keep up the great posts like these. We all could use them!

Take Care,

Legend

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"As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round."... Ben Hogan

"The key to happiness in your life is "Your Life",... Don the Legend

 

[Paradox]

Nice post NineBreaker.

I'm moving it over to the 'Tips Forum' so that others can benefit from these helpful tips...

 

[wjboogy]

Thanks Nine Breaker.

I have been thinking about forgetting a bout dating for a long time.

I've been now trying to just concentrate on becoming an "A" student rather than a "B"-"C" student.

And i am currently trying a build a great awesome body. Just like the men on the front cover of Men's Health. Its sort of like my stress reliever to work out now 4 days a week. Kinda like a new hobby. And im doing it for myself because its just something i want to accomplish. Having a complete body low fat high muscle tone would be like a great accomplishment to me.

Hey thanks for the post. Talking to girls does bring me pain, I do need to stop trying. So thats what im going to do.

I know i may sound like it, but i too agree girls arent the sole reason of life. Im just mad that i cant have that part of life while other slow Joe's can.

 

[krd]

Yeah, I understand what wjboogy is saying. It's true that women should not be your main reason for living, and I admit that maybe it's this mode of thinking that's getting me into trouble. But it's so hard to get rid of this mindset, almost like quitting smoking. By seeing everybody else around me with a boyfriend or girlfriend, it kind of makes me feel like a outcast. Like, I'm inferior to all these people with whom hooking up just seems to come easy to. I can imagine how a handicapped person must feel when they see everyone around them walking and running, yet they are forever confined to a wheelchair. I've never been one to easily fit in. I thought by having a girlfriend, I could prove to myself as well as others that I am no different from anybody else. But maybe I can compensate for this, by shifting the focus to other areas of my life. When I get to the point where it doesn't matter so much to me anymore, the thing I've been seeking will appear to fall right on my lap.
As they say, the more you chase after something, the harder it is to catch. I know that this philosophy is rather abstract, but at this point, what have I got to lose?

 

[Wyldfire]

wjboogy...don't "quit", just take a break. Oddly enough, a lot of the time, the most fruitful opportunities present themselves when you AREN'T looking for them.

 

[wjboogy]

Wyldfire, why dont you get a group of your friends to spread the word that girls should approach us guys more. That would make it easier for you girls to find great guys like me.
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Im not giving up, because if i did, id never be able to get a girlfriend.
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Im pretty critical of your advise, no offense though. But a girl cant understand what it feels like for a guy to be rejected over and over constantly. Its not like im telling you to shove it. Its just that,hey,your comment about keep trying has no credibility here to me. You arent a guy. You dont know what it feels like to be FORCED to be the one that HAS to ALWAYS be confident no matter what when approaching girls. Ive always believed and stood by the fact that females have it very easy in the dating game.
You dont have to require steadfast confidence because you arent the one being rejected. Your the one being approached so you already know that we(guys) are into you. Your the one,as a female,that can build your ego up by constantly being complimented and approached by guys.

Trust me, i speak for all us guys, if we guys were the ones being hooted and hollered at by the opposite sex and approached and complimented all the time. We wouldnt NEED to build our own personal confidence. We'd have huge ego's like the majority of women have. Well at least the ones ive approached.
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On another note:
Hey I appreciate the support here. Im glad you guys are finally understanding what ive been trying to tell you guys fo the longest time.


You guys are great! Well at least the patience caring ones.

 

[TurboLover]

Originally posted by wjboogy:
Your the one being approached so you already know that we(guys) are into you.

Tough Love: Beggers can't be picky.
Find a chick with low self-esteem, or fat or ugly, whatever. Just frickin find one, and learn the game, from there your sucess will build. Everyone has to start from somewhere, don't be suprised if it is at the bottom. And if it is, there is only one way to go, up.

I will be waiting for your next post. The title will be "sucess story: The night I said fukk it, I'm goin HOGGIN tonight!"

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-"The Supra Don Juan"-

 

[mistikulo]

>> I will be waiting for your next post. The title will be "sucess story: The night I said fukk it, I'm goin HOGGIN tonight!"

lmao

[This message has been edited by mistikulo (edited 12-23-2001).]

 

[Shiftkey]

"Trust me, i speak for all us guys, if we guys were the ones being hooted and hollered at by the opposite sex and approached and complimented all the time. We wouldnt NEED to build our own personal confidence."

Maybe that's part of your problem wjboogy.
Confidence shouldn't come from how others react to you, it should come from within. True confidence comes from knowing that you're in control.