To Stay Motivated, Envision You At the Goal.

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During the winter, especially in the Northeast, it's tough to remain motivated. Snow can happen at any moment, and linger for longer than 1 cares to remember. Most often, the best plans are staying in and drinking beers with a pal, enjoying some cognac and cigars, eating it up inside with a girl, or generally skipping the weight workouts because of impending snow.

But come Summer, you'll ( I will ) regret NOT having done my workouts. I don't know about guys across the country, but when the seasons and weather changes so rapidly, it's HARD to stay motivated, which is why LEARNING motivation and how to envision goals properly is important. Especially up here, to me.

Many times I've been in certain situations, imagining how I wanted it to be, how I wanted to feel, how I wanted my finances to be, and I make mental note of that, because it helps formulate my goals list.

You KNOW your goal.

Let's take an Example up here in the Northeast. A goal begins with steps. I won't go into them. Because most have already done that. But for the sake of example, let's say it's Bodybuilding or Lifting. You want a better body. Period. You want to improve. To push your limits and see how physically fit you can be.

Goal: A Better Body.
Specifics: 10% bodyfat, weigh 210lbs, add 20 pounds of muscle.
How: Eat lots of protein, lift heavy, break workouts in to 6 week periods, monitor progress, bring logbook, focus on form and compound exercises. Get lots of rest.

Vision: Specific situations where you wanted TO FEEL or BE BIGGER. Maybe it was wearing a suit to a dance, gala, or prom. Maybe it was to the beach. Or maybe you played football with some friends, and you wanted to be the Larry Johnson of the crew. Perhaps you wanted to put on T-shirts and stretch them. Whatever your feeling was then, HOLD it firmly in your mind until you get there.

Let it burn inside you until you've nailed that sucker down. Never back down. Realize how low you might feel knowing ANOTHER year will roll by if you don't do things DIFFERENTLY than you USED to do them. That your goal won't be accomplished until you do things differently than you had and take action.

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If you get into the TEDIOUS details of DAY to DAY work and HOW they make you feel, you'd, in reality, do nothing. It IS more pleasurable in some instances to NOT lift. There are days I love it. And days I hate it, or just don't want to do it.

"Successful people aren't in to pleasureable activity, but pleasureable outcomes."

Sure, even studying CAN svck, but the outcome is nice. Obviously you MUST have passion about what you're doing, and the GREATS always LOVE practice. They love it. Practice IS where they PERFECT themselves, so when it comes time to PERFORM, they're already ready for it.

Pro-golfers work this way. They love PRACTICE. Playing trick shots. Hitting drives. Trying tough shots. Putting. It's all fun. It isn't the competition, and ALOT of biographies golfers state that they loved practice more. They like practice more.

[]Tip: Get the Book: "Mastery."

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The Catch-22.

Sometimes the OUTCOME of a goal IS NOT what you expect or want. Sometimes you want to be buff to be a club to be intimidating, only to realize, nobody cares, or the women you want, don't like you. Or maybe you can't swing the club anymore.

Or maybe you wanted money to FEEL better about life, but then you awaken to the realization that, money can't change anything. It changes the external world, but not the internal world. How many rich people do we hear of committing suicide? Apparently money never fixed them. Even 1 of my favorite investment traders killed himself: Jesse Livermore.

So...if you're plotting a goal, make sure you WANT it, with or without what's there. Throw away revenge. In most cases, outside of hollywood, it isn't a good motivation. Justice isn't revenge. If someone knocked off your family, justice is killing them. By revenge is one-upping them, AND getting back at them.

ALOT of guys come to be a PUA to GET BACK at women...and all you have then is alot of injured little boys, who do nothing for themselves, really, the world, women, and end up no better. They learn these skills to become more adept at dealing with women, they fvck tons of them, which sounds good, realize it is or isn't fun, and how empty it is and risky, and wake up realizing the loss of years of productivity in something else. Instead, see things for what they are, and what you are.

See how the Revenge mechanism as a goal thrusts you off course?

The goal here is in how CLOSE you can get to things in reality being the way you desire. Maybe not SPECIFIC people, but things LIKE THAT.

[]Bridge the Goal GAP.

If you can't ENVISION the goal and HAVING it, do you REALLY want it? I never GOT this until now. You read and read and read, Think and Grow Rich, and envision HOW you want it to be, but until you RELATE it to things you want, and where you want to be, it's meaningless and useless and beyond you.

For me, as it related to golf, I wanted new clubs, to hit the ball farther, to get better, to command my game, to wear certain comfortable clothes on the course. I didn't know "what", I just kept envisioning having SOMETHING. AHA! I found the Driver, 5 wood, wedges, and putter. I paid a mint for them, but it was worth it, because golf is a part of me. Or my alias.

This gets back to guys here...Do Not Want It Bad Enough. When you SEE it, you'll want it. But your mind must Believe it Internally, Then you'll see it Physically.

The same applies to picking up chicks. When you're CONFIDENT in your mind, of playing out situations with girls BEFORE you actually do them, you'll be able to handle the WORLD before you. Because it's getting beyond your mind and using it like the tool it is to YOUR ADVANTAGE that is best.




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Yet another fantastic post A-Unit. This one I particularly enjoyed since I am starting Anthony Ellis's Gaining Mass program next Monday.

My comments:

In order to actually become the person you want to be you must first visualize and formulate who that person is in your own mind. You are right on in saying you have to "burn" those feelings into your head. Engrave them on your forehead. This is a key in the development cycle for becoming a good DJ.

Back when I was an AFC I could never imagine myself as the socially aware, charming, and "cool" dude that all the ladies seemed to love. I could never imagine myself going over to the hottest chick in the bar *without shame or regard for other people* and hit on her. To begin to enable myself to become that person, I had to imagine just approaching the girl. Then I imagined the guy approaching the girl and laughing. Then the guy that got the laughing girls phone number. A gradual process but one that is thankfully infinite. The AFC is never able to visualize himself at the end because he is not able/willing to put in the effort in obtaining the smaller goals along the way. People tend to want things NOW and are unhappy with the results because the result is just the last hurdle you had to overcome in a series hurdles. The pleasure is in the process.
 

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Good post man

Quote by Brosnake:

"People tend to want things NOW and are unhappy with the results because the result is just the last hurdle you had to overcome in a series hurdles. The pleasure is in the process."


That is so true bro. Like a good teacher of mine said, " It is in the doing, not in the achieving that we find true bliss and fullfilliment."

What would you rather want to be? A guy who's really great at what he does yet he hates doing it but does it anyways to please everyone around him, or the dude who loves what he do yet he " sucks" at it, but does it anyways because he loves it.

Here's what I believe one must know to have an inspired life.

1.) There are no formula for success but I do know the formula for failure - trying to please everyone around you with everything that you do and not following your inner impulses.

2.) Know that external success symbols such as trophies, money, products, women, only enhances your life, but you are not it, it all comes from within.

3.) Once again, it's not about the end goal, the true passion and love all comes from the doing or the process of whatever we intend to do. My best advice when it comes to this Don Juan stuff is learn to genuinely love women and just enjoy yourself, stop focusing on getting laid and focus on just having fun and enjoying yourself. It's sort of like playing a guitar, what seperates the true " rockstars" from the ego driven ones are the ego driven ones are too caught up in winning awards, making a hit record or album and winning popularity and approval. The most inspired rockstars are the ones who follow their heart, could careless about all that external stuff and truely loves playing their craft. If there's a couple of good example of this- watch guys like Santana and Tom Morello from Audioslave.

4.) Sometimes Breaks and just not doing nothing but rest and reflection are good things to have. It sort of recharges and rejuvinate you, like meditation and prayer. In most cases in my life, I have felt very happy and blissful just by taking walks, taking a vacation with my family and friends, watching a sunset in the beach, watching the stars at night and ponder. In other words, if you are ever too caught up the situations in your life, learn to slow down and simplify yourself, ask yourself what really matters most.
 

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A-Unit, I read this and your other post and you are great. good stuff man, it really makes sense and just by reading I can tell that it's something that you've used to achieve your own goals
 

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Re:

I feel the basic reasons MOST people don't write down or maintain goals are the following:

[]They never learn how or what a goal was.
[]They don't understand goals.
[]They don't understand the steps behind the goals.

For instance, MOST people want TRUE wealth and financial independence.

Begin: Envision the BIG BIG BIG goal. Say, owning a few vacation homes, spending holidays OFF from work, owning properties that provide passive income, commerical R/E, and providing for your family.

Intermediate Goals: Where you want to be in 5 years, or 10 years. For instance, if you're 18, where do you want to be at 28? 10 year is a LONG LONG time. Lots of investments can double or triple or even move 100x up. Don't press being CEO, but believe reallistically, "What can I provide value for in 10 years?"

10 years in ANY field would make you an expert, IF, you worked diligently during those 10 years to get ahead, pay your dues, network, and if you're still in a field you LOVE, you'll be atop the industry.

Short-term Goals: Get the books, resources, and BEGIN. If you're trying to learn investing, begin by setting aside 10% of your income to a cash/savings account, and learn to research stocks and find brokerage accounts that fit your goals. Learn the definitions of the industry. LOTS of people want SOMETHING, but it begins now, even if it's a book, finding a gym you like, making the workout tape that will motivate you, opening other bank accounts, designing a rebt repayment program, etc.

The goals will continually be redefined over your life, but go until you COMPLETE all of them. That momentum will vault you atop 95% of the country. Whether these are PUA goals, or cash goals, or car goals, or whatever. The goal is what makes the man, NOT, the actual, physical result.




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I challenge everyone here to write a list of 3 to 10 goals they want to have accomplished by the years end. Just write them down on paper and refer to them in times of bordem or crisis. Here are mine:


1) I want to be writing professionally by the years end.

2) I want to be in the best shape of my life by the years end.

3) I want to have stopped reading seduction material to understand ‘game’ material.

4) I want my verbal communication abilities to improve.

5) I want to date more women this year than in all other years combined.


"Nothing I can't handle" - ;)
 

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Re: FYI.

Just a thought, and I'm no master, but be MORE specific.

You say you want to write professionally...what does that mean specifically...what steps are you taking now to make that happen in January 2007?

You want to date more women than ALL years combined...how many women is that...25? So you want to date 26 this year? That means seeing about 2 per month, and you'll have to be a busy ****** in some areas. Approach. Be bold when you see a woman you might enjoy coffee with. (That counts as a date).

You want to be in the best shape of your life? What shape are you in now? How much muscle do you want to add? How many pushups or pullups? What bodyfat % do you want to have?

Once you do that, SUPERCHARGE yourself by envisioning those goals in the places you'd already liked to have FELT THEM. People don't get how SIMPLE it is do health goals, it's just that they don't want to abandon their bad habits, too. They want to drink alot. Drink sodas or eat pizzas. Heck, when I cheat, a little, I have no one to blame but me. But when i eat clean, there's nobody to congratulate but me. So it's 2 fold.

When you GET SPECIFIC, you can see HOW REAL and possible it is, if it's LINKED to something you see and can do and something you're powerfully motivated.

Maybe this is only what worked for me, but I was stagnant, personally, until I got more into it than just writing resolutions on notecards and actually began devising systems to do it, either financially or health related. Women are a bit more TRICKY, because, being human, it isn't scientific, but if you're nailing down all these goals, you're confidence will soar and women will just flock to you anyways.

Verbal comm skills? What do you want to read? Join Toaster-masters? Take public speaking classes? Listen to cassettes? Stop swearing and cussing? Learn tonality? Slow down your speech?

I suggest getting a handheld cassette player and the Program: The Sound of My Voice on Cassette or CD @ Amazon. Listen to it. Day by day, just do it. Those are the baby steps, once you take them, you'll be farther ahead of where I perceive you to be and can educate on me on YOUR goals.




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