To pursue or not to pursue?

[Enigma412]

So here is the story...this chick always gives me a big smile (usually accompanied with slight giggling) whenever she has seen me over the past month or so. Usually that is a clear-cut sign of interest, perhaps the best sign. Anyway, we never really talked until we were assigned to work together on a presentation for class. As soon as we were assigned to the same topic she immediately said we should meet up the following day to work on the project. Needless to say, I took that as another huge sign of interest. We all know how these get togethers to "work" on projects usually turn out. So we met at a cafe the following day. Everything went well. She greeted me with the usual big smile, giggling. We did some actual work but primarily just talked. She seemed interested in me, my background. She laughed at every remotely funny thing that I said. She even teased me when a friend of mine walked in. It seemed as if everything went well. Then after class I asked her to go get a bite to eat with me after class. She trotted out the classic "I'm too stressed..." line. Ok.

I saw her the next Monday early in the day at an event. I was standing up talking to someone and she walked by looking for a seat. Once again, she gave me a big smile when she saw me, laughed at a semi-funny thing I said, but quickly cut the convo off and went to her seat. I didn't read much into this, since there were hundreds of other interns there and perhaps she didn't want to look odd and be perceived as the one "chasing" the guy by starting a convo with him. I don't know. That is probably wrong but the bottom line is that I didn't read much into that at the time.

I intended to ask her out to go with me to the Washington Cherry Blossom Festival on Saturday after class. I was kind of ****-blocked in that another chick, who I kind of hit it off with previously but broke things off with because she proved to be way too flaky, didn't allow us to be alone as we walked away from class. I had to make a general "You two should come..." comment. However, she seemed receptive to it and implied that I should come pick her up (I have a car, she is a Canadian intern who relies on the subway to get around), which seemed to suggest she realized what I was doing and wanted it to be a date. I waited three days before calling to confirm everything. She suddenly claimed that she could not make it because she had family coming over for the weekend. I doubt that, since she is Canadian her family would have given her some advance notice before coming here. They didn't wake up on Tuesday and decide to fly to America.

So that is the background. What is going on here? She gives some seemingly strong buying signals, then flakes out when it comes time to do anything. Maybe she does like me but has a BF--but if that were the case you would think sh would have already used that as a an "excuse." What is the best option now? Give it one more shot or just give up? The problem is that I am intern here so it is difficult to do anything with a local, since I will have to leave soon. We are essentially stuck with other interns. Ordinarily, the way to go would be to move on and find another one but at this stage there are no strong options left. Things didn't pan out with the other chicks I was interested in. I have a month left and want to make something happen.

 

[insidious]

Ah dude how many of us have walked down that perplexing path paved by the capricious nature of the Female creature? :trouble:

So close but so far. You feel you had her in the palm of your hand and whammo she belts you with the surprise from hell, she flakes or she says no. Man, you just don't know what is going through her mind. You can't unless you ask her, but that would be totally and utterly LAME. All you can do is ask her one more time to do something, to hang out, in the absence of ANYONE else. Maybe this time she will live up to your expectations and impressions you have of her great infatuation of you LOL

And if she flakes again or comes up with a lameass bytch excuse, move on. Don't question it, don't bang your head against the wall wondering about the mystery of it all. You barely know her, she is not worth it. Her actions will have said no, phuck her stupid-a$$ giggle. Give her one more shot dude, this time might be the charm.

 

[Enigma412]

The only concern I have about trying again is that I don't want to seem desperate. Is asking a chick out three times too much, or is like baseball the third strike supposed to be the final one???

 

[Enigma412]

Well, it was that time of week again. I got to class late so nothing happened before class. After class she kept trying to position herself in a way that would make it easy for me to talk to her (when I looked like I was leaving she appeared to be leaving, when I briefly stopped she briefly stopped, etc.). When she saw that I was going to ask the professor a question she also stood by him and waited to ask him a question. I had decided not to do anything unless she met me halfway so I didn't say anything to her. She didn't even say "hi" or anything to me. This was the first time we were in position to talk to each other since she rejected me the second time BTW. I suspect that the reason she wanted me to talk to her was just to inflate her ego. Did I make a mistake by not even saying "hi" or does this just confirm my decision to basically write her off???