To chase or not to chase

[blackops]

I'm in need of advice on whether to chase this girl....

I met a girl at a coffee shop - we spoke for a few mins, but I had to run. I got her number. A few days later, I call, we chit-chat and I setup a date to try out this cheese fondue festival (relatively cheap, but cool date). The day of the date (a Sunday), she texted saying she is sick, cannot make it, but would like to make it up to me on Thursday. I said I was busy Thursday, but could do either Wednesday or the following Tuesday. She said to "let's do Wednesday".

On Wednesday, we end up going to a winebar (my choosing), and I do my alpha-male thing, and she's loving it. We have a good time, but the date never got sexually escalated to any great degree. At the end of the date, she gives me a hug and says "hope we can see each other soon".

So I wait a few days and call her on Sunday to setup another date for that Thursday. She said she would love to, but is going away for MLK weekend beginning on Thursday, but would like to do the following week. I said "OK, we'll figure it out then. Have fun in Vegas!".

So that was it. I have a number options, the ones apparent to me are:

1) wait a full week until she's back from vacation to call and set up the date

2) Set it up now so we have a placeholder on the calendar

3) Don't set it up at all and wait for her to call to see how interested she is

Let me know what you guys think. I was thinking of doing #2 and texting today/ tomorrow with a specific time/ place. That way its in the calendar before her break.

Appreciate your advice, gentlemen.

 

[Skalioppe]

My advice, do not do 2) - it's omega-y as fvck.

Wait until you know she's definitely back, then wait about 4 days in addition to that to see if she tries to arrange something (if she does you are in the prize winning seat and she's super keen for your c0ck). If she doesn't, she may playing cool, but she'll wonder what you've been up to and why you haven't contacted. In her head she'll imagine you do all sorts of wonderful things. So it's win win, but it takes some self control. When you do contact make sure you tell her some exciting things you've been up to in your fulfilled life. Just make some sh1t up if need be, because she'll have lots of exciting stuff to mention about Vegas.

 

[BadNews]

DO NOT TEXT HER THE DAMN DAY SHE GETS BACK! THAT IS POSSIBLY THE WORST ADVICE I HAVE SEEN ON THESE FORUMS!!!!

At least wait a few days - I would say the better part of the week. Yes you want to see if she contacts you first in order to gauge her interest level. Beyond that you don't want the be the creepy, needy, loser that had nothing better to do than mark off the days on your calendar until she got back! Texting her the day she gets back is just plain awkward and creepy. DO NOT. I REPEAT, DO NOT DO THIS! Try to at least appear as though you have your own busy interesting life to lead, even if you do not. Contacting her the day she gets back (or even before she leaves) will only make it seem as though you have nothing else going on in your life.

 

[damnsam]

Sounds like you like her...enough that you are seeking advice to carefully take it step by step. My advice is to simply do what you'd like since you already know she likes you as well. If you want to text or call her before she leaves go for it...

A lot of the advice might be to play it cool, wait a few days etc, be a challenge and don't be too available...but at the same time it's the guys job to be the pursuer and to take charge to lead how you want the interactions to go. A lot of the advice on here is good advice and some situations might require some thought before action, but trying to craft and strategize your interactions is probably less important now that you know she not only likes you but is hoping to see you again.