Tired of her BS!!!

[Santos]

Ok, this chick has been messing me around for the last couple of weeks and I need to rant. I've played it well. When I neglect her and make her feel like **** then she comes running to me and I can make her do my bidding . But then she tries to pull the same crap with me, Thursday night on the phone she needs someone to talk to, I give her advice etc. She feels better. Then starts saying "I want you so badly right now", "I want to wake up next to you", "come over" - when she knows I can't. Tells me how much I mean to her.

Then when I call her today she acts like I don't really mean anything to her, no enthusiasm, doesn't want to really talk to me, I may as well be a telephone salesman. It seems playing games with a girl (ignoring her, neglecting her) does raise her interest level and make her chase you. But the effect doesn't last long. I spend a week of treating her like garbage (not calling, cutting phone convo short), she chases me, and I get two days where she is a decent human being, we can talk well, we make out and it seems like a relationship could develop and there are no games. Then she starts her ****.

She starts taking me forgranted and acts like I mean nothing to her. She's a playa/Don Junita, and very good at it. I'll give her that much. But she's also an attention hoe. I do feel that her IL has dropped over this last week, she was VERY into me before but her IL is dropping. I've done well, but the mistakes I've made add up over time and I think she's no longer interested. But she wants to keep me around as her driver (has no car) and as some kind of trophy to show her friends. NEXT PLEASE!!!

How the heck can I be expected to keep my games up forever just to keep a woman? Oh, and if I can get revenge on this ***** then let me know how. She actually expects me to take her to a night club next weekend, when she treats me like this? I'm thinking I'll tell her we can go on Saturday and then cancel on Friday (she treats me like I'm an @sshole, so why not act like one?) Not very DJ, but revenge is sweet .

Comments/advice?

Thanks
Santos

 

[NMMWCR]

Just respect yourself, Santos. Everything else flows from that.

If she wants respect, she needs to give it to herself.

 

[squirrels]

LOL...you've got two choices...either NEXT her and be done with the games, or keep playing the game for those "two days" where she's a decent person and a great f--k, and fill the rest of the days with all your other women and other hobbies.

Games like that are fun, but they can get old if you don't have anything to fill the "bad days" gap.

 

[becker]

Santos,

I can analogize your situation with sports. I've been an athlete most my life, so I tend to do that. Anyways, it's like this. There's a saying that you need to stick to the basics. After the basics, the rest is just play-by-ear stuff. Here, to me the problem seems like you played the game, but you knew too much and you overplayed it. In essence, you went beyond the basics.

Sure, you need to be a challenge, but by neglecting her and treating her like sh*t, you crossed the line. I've done that before as well. I definitely think that once you've had experience, the rules should probably be condensed into one workable sentence, and that's it, sort of like NMMWCR said. It's like when you have a guy who is an absolute sports fanatic and they overanalyze the game and in the end, they don't know how to do anything because they overthink every move they make.

One example is the phone conversation thing. People take that rule too far I think. Why can't you talk on the phone with a girl for hours? I got my last GF by talking on the phone with her a lot, and it didn't do anything to decrease her IL in me. If she likes you, she likes you, don't ruin it by playing more games. If you don't want to talk on the phone because you're afraid that you'll have nothing to say when you get together, then I think the problem is more that you're just a boring person rather than you're spending too much time on the phone. I guess that's my reasoning.

If you can call her, do it now, and stop playing games. Playing games requires 2 people, and if you stop, she will likely stop eventually too, after noticing that you're not reciprocating.