The following is something that I wish I had know in my 20s and early 30s. Women are constantly probing for your insecurities. They are very insecure themselves so they are experts at detecting it in others. This is especially true of toxic women. Women will pick up on subtle behaviors you exhibit due to insecurity so make sure you resolve these issues before you start dating. I will give you a couple examples.
During sophomore year of college I used to look at myself in mirrors a lot. I was a high self monitor and must of been insecure with my looks. I didn't even realize that I was doing it. I always consciously felt confident but I guess subconsciously that was not the case. I was walking back to my dorm with this one cute girl that I really liked. We were going to make out and she made the observation that I keep looking in mirrors. I was surprised and slightly embarrassed. I still ended up getting to 2nd base with her because her interest was so high that she didn't care about my quirk.
When I lived on a island there was this cute black island chick that I was obsessed with. She was very observant. She once noticed that I talk black around my black friends. She said I talk regular around non black people. This was subtle but she noticed it. I was embarrassed but I was glad that she pointed it out. I made out with her once and then she pulled back. I became depressed and simped hard for her. Then I raged out against her via text and needed validation and hooked up with another girl. Needless to say I failed her shyt test because my inner game was bad. I was 25 so I forgive myself lol.
So please do a deep delve into your psyche. Cleanse any self love issues you have because women will pick up on them. They are experts at this.
During sophomore year of college I used to look at myself in mirrors a lot. I was a high self monitor and must of been insecure with my looks. I didn't even realize that I was doing it. I always consciously felt confident but I guess subconsciously that was not the case. I was walking back to my dorm with this one cute girl that I really liked. We were going to make out and she made the observation that I keep looking in mirrors. I was surprised and slightly embarrassed. I still ended up getting to 2nd base with her because her interest was so high that she didn't care about my quirk.
When I lived on a island there was this cute black island chick that I was obsessed with. She was very observant. She once noticed that I talk black around my black friends. She said I talk regular around non black people. This was subtle but she noticed it. I was embarrassed but I was glad that she pointed it out. I made out with her once and then she pulled back. I became depressed and simped hard for her. Then I raged out against her via text and needed validation and hooked up with another girl. Needless to say I failed her shyt test because my inner game was bad. I was 25 so I forgive myself lol.
So please do a deep delve into your psyche. Cleanse any self love issues you have because women will pick up on them. They are experts at this.
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